Forgive a cheater, or cut them loose?

Question

Do you all believe in the saying 'once a cheater always a cheater? If you currently/have ever cheated in a relationship have you changed? Personally I have never cheated, but have been cheated on, and am kind of judgmental of people who have cheated - but maybe my skepticism is wrong. Would like to hear opinions from others on if you think cheaters change?

I am not in a relationship with anyone right now - just want to hear your opinions/experiences, and wether or not I am being too judgemental against people who have cheate din the past.

** I appreciate all of your answers, but I am not in a relationship - or trying ot get back with anyone. Just wondering what your personal opinions are**

Answer 1

My motto is... Once is enough, but twice is too many!! if someone cheats maybe they deserve another chance, but only one. if they do it twice that means they really weren't sorry the first time ... and they won't be sorry for the second.

Answer 2

I have cheated once on my fiance now about 5 years ago. It was a bad thing to have happened and many circumstances at the time pushed it to happen. My fiance believes in a second chance and forgave me. He loves me and we have a daughter now that is 2. I feel bad though every day for what I had did back then. I thank God everyday that my man did forgive, learned to trust me and that he still loves me. I have never cheated since and would never ever. So the saying once a cheater, always a cheater does apply to some, but not everyone.

Answer 3

hahaha i posted this question 2/3 nights ago! most of the answers i got was the same, people don't change and that yes, once a cheater, always a cheater... i don't know how true this is because i personally HAVE cheated in the past, but with my last boyfriend, i did not cheat... not to say it'll never happen again, who knows right? my situation now, my last boyfriend was cheating on me, of course, said it wouldn't happen again and well i'm sure you know the rest. karma is a b*tch, eh? anyways, sorry back to your question, each individual is different and you have to judge each as its own. if someone has cheated and admitted so, at least they are a big enough person to admit it to you, and it's your call what to do at that point...

Answer 4

For your peace of mind, forgive him, and send him packing. Well, I think you're finding reasons to take him (whoever he is) back, but your hurt and want to do the right thing.

I'm not jealous, but I'm not swinger, I believe in monogamy and honesty, although when I was dating my ex, sometimes I've been tempted to go out with another girl. But when that happened I started to review my relationship with my ex. To be honest, when I started having second thoughts, our relationship had been taking a downside, and it was just a matter of time before we break up, regardless if I had gave in to my friend or not. Okay, I didn't go out, but I found out that my ex wasn't the girl for me. :(

I think there are many reasons why some people cheat. While for some people, they cheat because they want to have some fun out of their current relationship, for some others there might be some reasons (not justifications, which are a different thing).

I guess it depends on why he cheated? Have you talked about it? I don't know, but talk about it, and be honest with yourself, if you really believe him, and want to take him back, or you think he's just telling you what you want to hear.

Be strong and be honest with yourself!

Answer 5

I have been cheated on and have forgiven. I never cheated but we both treated each other badly for awhile, and eventhough; I hate the fact that he was with another woman I do believe he's sorry and is an honest man now. I'm not stupid ~~~~ we went through hell and back to get to the point of where we are now, but it was worth it.

Answer 6

i believe in the saying. i have cheated and i probably would cheat again. maybe im just a ******, ive never been cheating on though. i would probably break it off with the person im planning to cheat on before i cheat, why should you date someone you dont like? i think some cheaters change, sometimes cheating just happens and the person didnt mean to. if they didnt mean to they probably wouldnt do it again, therefore they have changed. :) i think i just contradicted myself -- haha.

Answer 7

i dont belive cheaters will change because they get a pleasure of hurting others or playing games on the ones who love them and they know they can get away with it but if you meet someone dont beso judgmental give someone a chance everyone is not the same as the one who cheated

Answer 8

I'm sorry to read that you had gone throe that I'm a (M) and the only thing that i can say is this you as a person have to ask your self do i Bali my self more than hem is their more good or bad thing about hem and is it Weider it? and most of all never do the same he did to you or blame some one El's or you're self if you dissed to let hem go but if you kip hem you have to forget the hall problem other Wise it is go in to affect your relation ship in the long road i now i have bin their. so good lock with that

Answer 9

Cheaters may change. But, the damage done will always leave a scar. They say forgive & forget. That's total crap. We may forgive, but can we really forget? Think about it. Once trust is broken, cut loose.

Answer 10

i did once-it was a mistake and never have again-but i would normally say cut em loose, because most of the time they don't change. I guess I did because I knew it was a mistake, but then again at the same time, things never ended up great and we eventually split. don't think she ever really got over it, and couldn't blame her.


here's an edit:

what kinda douche would cheat on a hottie like yourself anyway?

Answer 11

Once a cheater alway a cheater, that has been around for a long long time because it is true.