should i go back out with a ex bf who used to get violent?

Question

he says hes changed i really do love him

Answer 1

U should go back and invite me to the funeral..

Answer 2

Okay, I hate to even answer this question. Cause it is so much easier to tell someone else what they should do rather than take your own advice.
If you are thinking of going back, DON"T. If you value yourself at all, just think they can say all the things they want to say, but that still doesn't prove that they have, and guys are really good at acting untill they get what they wanted and then they go back to doing what they did before.
Spend a lot of time with other friends, go out on dates and move on with your life. You left him for a reason, that reason doesn't just disappear after a while, and it will reappear after you are back with him.
Think to yourself, if you had a child and their was a rabid dog in a yard next to you would you stick your child in the fenced in area to get bit, if your answer is no then why would you stick yourself in a place where you could get hurt again.
good luck

Answer 3

You can give it a shot. But take your time to think about it. Has he work on his problem? Have you seen it progress through time? Life is about taking risks, always, no matter what. You can choose to go for it. I think that's the only way that he can prove it to you. But if you see his violent rampage again, you got to leave hin and move on right away, girl. I know you love him (like you mention), but he ain't worth the pain and shouldn't deserve you at all. Follow your heart, but if he's destryoing it again, close it. He doesn't deserve your heart at all. I wish you my very best, girl. Good Luck!

Answer 4

No. It's not worth the risk. I assume you are young. Please avoid dating someone who has been violent. It's hard for someone like that to truly change. It takes time and lots of professional help. There are plenty of guys out there to date. Find one who will love you....and never ever hurt you physically. Good luck.

Answer 5

I wouldn't go back out with him becuase what if he is just saying that he has changed? Then he will be violent again.

Answer 6

No girl!!! Stay far away, even though you do love him, sometimes love is not a good enough reason to be with someone and that's what it sounds like in this case. Once violence is present in someone it very rarely disappears completely and trust me it will come back!!!

Answer 7

Blue and black must be your favorite colors. Because this is what you're going to look like with a violent boyfriend. NO don't get back with him.

Answer 8

NO NO NO, why is it that some women continue to put themselves in this position. There is no reason to live in this type of relationship. The majority of men are not like this, and if you have an opportunity to get out take it.

Answer 9

No you should not. You know it is strange but most of us are attracted to people we should never get involved with! I say move on gal - there are some real nice guys out there who can love and treat u well. Respect yourself - You deserve it

Answer 10

Absolutely not!!! My sister's husband beats her on occasion. Everytime she runs away. Then, he says that he's SOOOO sorry and she returns, but he never changes. It's like a circular cycle, he will never change. Run before it's too late. I would get a restraining order against him.

Answer 11

I've reached the conclusion that women are too stupid to know what's good for them. Why don't you slam your hand in the door instead? It would save a lot of time. Better yet, ask OJ out on a date.