we are not very close, but i know she's the only way i can get to a doctor. ive been depressed for many years mostly because of my own family and i dont know how to talk to them about it. i've tried before and its just been put aside or they havent listened. i have also have a seizure and reoccuring panic attacks that i cant rid myself of.. i dont know how to communicate this to her.
2006-07-31 18:19:44 · 13 answers · asked by Peggy G 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Why go to her, go directly to the doctor. you already said your mother doesn't listen to you. she may when you are in the hospital being tested to find out why you are having seizures
2006-07-31 18:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable talking directly to her try a third party. It sounds like your still in school...and most schools have counselors, use it. If you know you have a problem then letting it go untreated it can only get worse. A family relationship that is not close is tough enough to talk about with them but if you think that they are part of your mental health problem it makes it almost impossible. You need to find someone that you feel comfortable discussing your problems with that can help you. I'm not talking about your friends but a professional adult that is a position to contact your family. If you can't do it that way try a teen hotline or something, they probably have free counselors on hand to help you discuss your situation with your mom and they are fairly easy to contact without your parents.
Good luck...and remember you only have a problem if you don't know something's wrong...because knowing is half the battle!
2006-07-31 18:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Shiningami_Gurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a time when you can have a private conversation in person with your mom. Express to her that it is important that you discuss this with her. When you are able to sit down with her, try to explain it so that it doesn't make her feel like you hold her responsible. Tell her the symptoms that you have and that it is really troubling you. Tell her you would like to get help and you need her to help you with that. Offer to pay it back when things get better. If she does not wish to help you, there are some programs available. Try this site: http://www.samaritan-center.org/
I hope this helps. Depression can be so debilitating. Good luck to you.
2006-07-31 18:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by askme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my, I feel for you, I really do. I am concerned with your use of the word "confront"...My best advice would be to catch her in a mood where she is relaxed and appears not too have alot on her mind or alot going on and just be calm and state your feelings, let her know you haven't been feeling so good for years... Let her know you are coming to her because she is your mother and you trust her to help you overcome or get the help you need. My best wishes to you. You will be ok, I will say a prayer for you...
2006-07-31 18:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by cindybd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't be confrontational. Talk to her. Tell her you think you need to see a professional person to talk to, that will help you with your feelings of depression and anxiety. Does she know about the seizures? Maybe you should see a dr. and explain this to him, and he can talk to your Mom.....
2006-07-31 18:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever your family isn't doing...it seems they are "not doing" it out of ignorance. Definitely find someone in your area who can speak up for you. ...a priest maybe?.. how about a school counselor? There must be someone who is educated enough to convey to your parents in an assertive manner that you absolutely need professional help. Good luck to you and God bless. Please, in the meantime pray....this is the time when a belief in someone bigger than yourself- God...will benefit you, because you are not designed to manage certain situations all by yourself.
2006-07-31 18:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age, but if you can't bring yourself to go to your family...talk to your school nurse/counselor, or a favorite teacher. If they can't get you the help you need, maybe they can be a mediator to get the situation across to your family. You may also be able to find a clinic that won't tell your parents. But please, get help somehow! It is something that takes help and time to get over. And the longer you don't get help, the worse it will get. If you are religious, you might see a Pastor/Priest/Rabbi...exc. Look around your life and see who may help, or get you help. You'll thank yourself later!
2006-07-31 18:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by daydreamnamy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the ONLY way you can get to a Doctor? What about another relative? If she really is the only way and you just can't talk to her, write her a note, and sit down with her while she reads it. I know I definetly express myself better writing
2006-07-31 18:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by playdoh1986 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow bummer, i would just do it you know. Its your mom and if she puts you down just ignore it. Its all up here(pointing to head). I know depression also has to do with chemicals, but yea im sry bummer. I would just say mom ive been depressed for awhile (or however long) and i need some help. Just relax and do it. Its just a little communication.
good luck
in my prayers.
2006-07-31 18:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by postalsock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems more normal than not these days, but not healthy. Panic is caused by fear, usually subconscious. Talking to people is your best cure!! Get out and talk to people!! Experience other people!! TALK YOUR HEAD OFF!!
2006-07-31 18:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Chauncy Gardener 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋