so im 16 my ex is 24..and he says we wont get back together,but yet he always asks me too come over,he has a girlfriend,but i keep getting that feeling he loves me,but cant be with me cause i hurt him a while ago,i dont know what too do..he told me too give him some space,but should I?and he always wants sex from me,and everytime we have sex he says i love you,does he really mean it?
2006-07-31 17:50:03 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he doesn't mean it. He is only interested in having sex with you. Run away from him as fast as you can. He obviously has no morals nor can he be trusted. Afterall, by sleeping with you, he is cheating on his girlfriend.
Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free???
2006-07-31 17:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not mean to sound harsh, but he is too old for you. It is against the law in many states for a man (over the age of consent ) to be having a sexual relationship with a young woman of 16. He would be considered to be a rapist, because you are not able to make a responsible decision about having this type of relationship at 16. He has no respect for you, and is using you for sex, and he does not love you, he only loves the sexual act. I can only pray that he has been using condoms, when you have had sexual intercourse with him. You could end up getting pregnant and or catch an STD or HIV. Stay away from him. Where are your parents? Do they know that you are having sex with a 24 year old???? You have many years to find a man to be in love with you, and treat you with respect and love, and not just use you for sex. STAY AWAY FROM THIS MAN, THIS IS WRONG!!!
2006-07-31 18:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first, find someone closer to your age. He can go to jail for having sex with a minor, sorry but that's what you are. He's your ex for a reason, plus he now has his own girlfriend.. So if you become a booty call you'll be they other lady or better know as homewrecker. Forget about wanting him back. You lucky your parents haven't step in yet and put an ened to this madness. Terminate all conversation with him, no matter how hard it hurts. There are other fish in the sea.
2006-07-31 18:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by donlide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im pretty sure he loves you, but it looks to be, that he only loves you cause your giving him sex. That is not right, especially since he already has a girlfriend. He probably says I Love You when having sex, so you would come for more, he probably wants you to feel loved, so you would do anything for him. He is just showing the same appreciation.
Seriously, age doesnt matter, but he is just using you for sex. I'm pretty sure there is a good guy for you out there, who actually cares for you, and doesnt want you just for sex.
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2006-07-31 17:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by cursedconcept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants 2 use ur clueless azz 4 s*e*x!!!!
he's 24 and ur 16 - ok u'd better hope nobody finds out cuz if they do they can lock his azz up 4 stat. rape! then he really wont want u anymore!
if u pizz off sum girl at school then all she has 2 do is tell ur parents about him! but im sure his girlfriend's age is a lot more mature than ur age - and thats y he is STAY'N with her and not with u!
if i was a guy and u'd give me azz anytime i wanted it - like if my g-friend was at work or something like that - i'd keep call'n u too! and yeah i'd keep tell'n u that i love u just to keep draggin u along cuz ur 2 stupid 2 know any better!
trust me - he already knows that there is no future 4 u and him - he's 24 and ur 16!
girl - u are like his spare tire in the trunk of his car!!!!!!!!
2006-07-31 18:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by BOSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have hurt him in the past, but he is more than making up for it now. Where has your self respect gone? He is using you. Yes, using you. Telling you he loves you when he is using you for sex is the oldest trick in the book. If he wants to be with you, he would NOT have another girlfriend. He no longer respects you as you are willing to fool around with him when he has a girlfriend. How could he trust you? Or you him? It will be hurtful but quit seeing this man and move on to somebody who will respect you and want to be with all of you. Not just the sex you. You will feel much better for it.
2006-07-31 17:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is saying he loves you to keep you coming back for sex. He doesn't love you as much as he loves "sex" with you. He's way too old to be messing with a 16-year-old. your too young to be letting an older man mess with you head. You need to be worrying about school and the boys you go to school with. I'm sure there is a boy at school that you have the hots for why don't you pursue a boy your own age and leave this "man" to deal with his own problems. He's using you to fill a sick fantasy and you are getting hurt by it.
2006-07-31 17:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Fuzzybunny95531 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off. don't give him sex while you are giving him space. if he is with someone else and they are also falling in love with him (by his doing), it is not fair to you or the other woman to be sleeping with him in a desperate attempt to lure him back to you. 16 and he is 24. try getting your parents back into your life and listening to them and not rejecting them. you are too young to start doing this stuff (relationships with adults) without at least listening to the older and wiser individuals in this world. he loves the sex but he is making you a loser loose confused young girl. you are not a bad person here he is. let him go and if he comes back make him wait for a while to see what it is like to leave someone hanging and aching for their love. you need someone younger who is able to go and have age appropriate fun with you. he goes to bars, You cannot. You still love to dance and hangout with your friends all day, he cannot (he should be at work). really lose him and get over him. it is a maturing experience that you can use as a step to adulthood. GOOD LUCK. it is your choice, I am afraid you ask for advice and will then shun it for your own emotions.
2006-07-31 18:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by trying to help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16, you should not let a 24 year old MAN, use you for sex. Obviously he only has an interest in you sexually. That is NOT good.
Do not let him treat you like that. He apparently has no romantic interest in you, only sexual. Men say "I love you," to get sex! He does not love you, he only loves the SEX, you foolishly give him! Nothing else! He is taking advantage of you! Don't let him.
2006-07-31 17:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're 16, you don't know what love is.
Second of all, this is BOOTY CALL for your ex. He probably loves making it with you but that ain't love, it is just sex. Maybe it's you who wants the sex.
Does he tell his girlfriend now that he loves her?
I think he just loves having sex.
If you told him you did not want sex, would he still call you to come over, or is it you going over there instead??
Reality sucks sometimes, but I think sex is the tie that binds you two together. Without it , you probably don't have a relationship.
2006-07-31 18:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confuse sex with love. if he really loved you he wouldn't have another gf and use you for sex.I recommend you to stop seeing him and give your self some respect by not letting him use you just when he has his needs don't be the side girl your better than that .You deserve someone who tells you that he loves at all times not just dooring sex.Your young and you can find someone else better. HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU and maybe if he really loves you he will see what he lost and by you saying no to him he might learn to appreciate what he lost.
2006-07-31 18:03:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋