I meet a girl and she wants to date. Does not want me to date anyone else. I explain that I am not ready to start a serious relationship and would like to just have the freedom to see other woman. By the way, I am not just hopping around for sex with one and then the next. I thought dating was just that, dating. Has dating been changed to marriage? I also do not have sex with these girls. I have only had sex with 2 woman when I was a freshman in college. I would like to date woman to find the right one. I can;t do that if each woman I date wants me to not see other woman. So what should I tell them? Isn;t dating suppose to mean you are also seeing other woman to find the right one? I am confused.
2006-07-31 17:40:32 · 13 answers · asked by guess who I am and win a prize 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I've been in your position before, and it's hard. I thought dating wasn't really a serious commitment. I saw it as going out with someone, on a date, enjoying each other's company, and seeing where it went from there. While the commitment had not come yet, it gave me a chance to see what I wanted. I didn't really want sex very badly, and I can commit to a relationship when I see it is going in the right direction and it makes me happy. But really, I am comfortable in the dating stage, and meeting with multiple girls on separate dates. It's just up to you, you can't really sacrifice your freedoms for her. Just explain it again to her that you'd like to keep things laid back for now. If that isn't what she wants; then you're a good looking guy, you can find more out there that will understand what you're saying. If she isn't willing to still date you after you explained that to her, then she wasn't really your type right now anyway. Good Luck.
2006-07-31 17:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mitch J 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I think you are absolutly correct...dating is just like you said. Although the other catagory of dating would be called exclusive dating, which is what they are asking of you.
I would simply explain that you enjoy dating and It doesn't mean that I don't enjoy spending time with you nor does it mean that I don't respect you... In fact I do, I don't sleep around with the girls I date. Explain that your all about getting to know you and discovering for myself what I really like in a women and what I don't. Perhaps explaining to them that ...many people never take the time to date and commit to the first girl they hit it off with only to find out 6months later that they just spent 6 months discovering that they weren't ment to be together. Explain that if we are ment to be together then it will be..eventually, but for know lets just enjoy our time together and date.
If they don't get it...let em go, u'll have another soon enough. I think it's important though that they really understand that you not out there just sleeping around.
2006-07-31 17:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by reighngstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep doing what you are. That is what dating is supposed to be. You must be a good catch and they know this and want you all to themselves. If these girls cannot understand that you want to date others then maybe they are not the right ones for you. Keep looking and dating.
2006-07-31 17:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by ChaCha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know just that then! Women are insecure and want one guy that only has one girl at a time. If they can't understand your concept of "dating" then just go one girl at a time. If she doesn't work for you then break it off quick and easy and find someone else. Still the same dating thing, just a different process.
2006-07-31 17:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by HotFudgeSundae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend you have a dilemma.
My advice is that you should remain true to your principles, that way you will feel ok with yourself.
I would if I were you also broaden my circle of females so as to have a better chance of finding the one who will be riight for you.
I can assure you that there is such a woman out there but it may take you a while to find her.
A hint. Girls who go regularly to church usually have fairly strict morals (not always but sometimes).
2006-07-31 17:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Stuart G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) your grammer sucks
2) tell her how you feel, tell her you aren't ready for a serious relationship
3) listen to yourself
what do you want?
is this the right thing for you, at the moment? (if so, go for it)
4) dating just means you're dating.. as in seeing different people.
2006-07-31 17:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by beluga.whale 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't part of finding "the right one" experiencing a serious relationship to see who they really are?
2006-07-31 17:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not confused, they are...Nothing you can do but tell them your not interested in a relationship...This is so odd, it must be a nowaday thing...What did ever happen to just dating???
2006-07-31 18:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look all gurls arel like that see i was not popular but i had freinds see what i am trying to say is do bet ur self down ok fined that speacial someone
2006-07-31 17:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that u don't wanna to serious relationship with her.
Dating can be marriage, can be not.
It's up to u.
2006-07-31 17:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by aya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋