My boyfriend lives in london temporarily (one year) w. his parents. He comes back every other weekend to visit me. he is 17 i am 16..we have gone everywhere but sex. I want to give it up to him. I don't know how i should tell him. I want to do it (tell him) but I don't want to be all loud and proud about it. I want it to be special in the way i tell him. I know he wants to too because he talks to his brother and his brother is friends w. mine so i always see his brother (lives here all the time 21) so he told me. I am not being pressured thats not why i want to do it fyi.
I need to know is it a good idea?
and how to tell him?
when?
and like where?
2006-07-31 17:36:40 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should just wait till that special moment happens
2006-07-31 17:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just let it happen. Be prepared and know what you want to do. (have a condom ready and maybe a candle) Watch a movie or do something that will but him in a make out mood. Then suggest it quietly in his ear when your ready. It hurts so be prepared, lubrication is a good idea. Just remember that your giving him something that you can only give once and if you marry someone else down the road it wont be his. Also keep in mind that once you do it thats it, no turning back, your relationship is going to change and I hope that both of you are ready for that. If you handling a long distance relationship than I think your ready.
2006-08-01 00:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by Hottestwallflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, make sure you have a condom with you...wear some sunglasses and a hat and get some from the drugstore. It can't be too hard to make it happen...it would probably be easier to tell him in the heat of the moment though. That's why I say have a condom stashed someplace. Although if he's got any sense he'll have one too, "just in case". As far as where, it doesn't matter as long as 1) you feel comfortable there and 2) no one's going to walk in on you. I understand you're nervous, but to be honest the first time's going to suck anyways. It's going to be nerve-wracking, awkward, and it's not going to feel that good. The second time will be better though! Good luck!
2006-08-01 00:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by goatluvver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
What you have is a precious jewel and don't take this wrong like I am some religious nut or anything like that but I think you should seriously consider your decision. Don't let your emotions and your hormones dictate you making good decisions for yourself. Your body is the most precious gift that you can give to another and it is designed for you to only share with your husband. You are 16 and you have your entire life ahead of you and there is plenty for you to do with your time besides engaging in sexual activity before you are ready to handle the emotions and feelings that come along with it. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up - these days the only thing you can save and keep a precious gift is your virginity.
2006-08-01 00:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by 2deep4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian guy so i would tell you not to do it. But if your not maybe you should. For a guy to visit every other weekend from another country means something. Just talk to him I'm sure he feels the same way. And it doesn't really matter where just who with.
2006-08-01 00:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT a good idea. You are too young and it is sooo risky. Wait until you're married! All kinds of bad stuff could happen...and what if your parents walked in on you? Don't do it, girl!
2006-08-01 00:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Susie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u and these guy need to be alone for a whale and if you guys start kissing and making out just bring it up because then you guys would already be in the mood and it would probably happen. you want to have candles and perhaps ky gelly to make it romantic.
2006-08-01 00:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come enjoy the life who knows ur boyfriend is enjoying with any other girl, Just go get a boy and have fun.....
2006-08-01 00:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tourguide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, when he comes home to see you, thats when you need to tell him. and you need to be like, hey, i wanna give you a surprise... but, thats only if you wanna use a condom... and, you should prolly do it at your house or something, and hoefully he'll either have a condom, or you will.... cause, safe sex is good sex.
2006-08-01 00:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by mdrieber00013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say anything, eek i hate to say this your under age, but things happen naturally, if its going to happen it will.
2006-08-01 00:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋