I had three sisters, two older & one younger.
The oldest is so dependent on drugs & alcohol that I haven't really see the sister I knew in years.
The next to the oldest died in June of this year.
The youngest thinks I have ruined her life, because I dated her husband before she even knew him.
Once we were all so very close. I tried recently, after my older sister died, to connect with my other two sisters. They avoided me like the plague. My mom still tries to take care of them, and make excuses for them, and I told them if they wanted to be around me they need to be responsible like an adult. I will not take care of them, and for that they avoid me and turn away from me.
What is happening???
2006-07-31 17:30:51 · 3 answers · asked by Too Curious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well this is really sad...one thing i have not heard from one of my sons in a couple years and he went to prison at the age of 18 and he is still not out.. he must be in his 30 now...i want to hear from him so much...myself i forgive my family because i love them.. and maybe you should lighten up some if you love them and miss them so much.. they will not be around forever just like your brother..you do not have to condone their ways but least be on speaking terms..this is really a sad story though...and i do not see how you ruined your sisters life because you dated her husband before she married him..she should not of married someone you dated.. if it is them that does not want anything to do with you then it is there loss...but really i do not know what to say.....except if you believe in god pray for your family..
2006-07-31 17:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. When it comes to family, you either have to take them as they are or leave them. I have tried for years to maintain relationships with various family members and it never worked. Then I gave up and it's like they didn't even notice. I don't exist to them. I have since created relationships with friends and mostly consider them as close to family as I can get. Some of my family I do keep in touch with a bit. But I have to deal with them as the people they are. I can't change them, influence them, or judge them either. So I see them now and then, socialize and then go home and continue on with my life. I set my hopes and expectations on people and situations where they will be met. I don't waste them on people and situations where they can't be met. I'm not saying my family is a waste of time. I'm just saying that it doesn't make sense to expect from them what they can't or won't give. That's how I deal with things.
2006-08-01 00:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you gave them an ultimatum and they took it. Just not the way you thought they would.
2006-08-01 00:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋