we been going out for a month we have kiss and you know got 2 know each other but he want 2 get in my pants i am not ready yet for that,but it is also killing me inside 2 see him that way when everhe see me.i am also scare 2 have sex wit him because i afraid of getting pregant and getting a diseases.
2006-07-31 17:12:43 · 39 answers · asked by sexy Ada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you both are way too young to have sex. if he doesnt respect you enough to hold off, and he gets upset that you wont put out for him, he isnt worth your time.
2006-07-31 17:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by eboney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and a single mom of 2 babies. I wasn't quite as young as you, but I started having sex when I was 17 years old. I believed I was next to God I guess - felt nothing could touch me. Luckily, I never got any STD's, but I did get two babies. Granted, I would NEVER trade them out, but now my life is on hold. It's hard being a single mom and having to work full-time, find a sitter, keep a job when the kids get sick, and support all of us. I have yet to finish my dreams of going back to college. Don't do that to yourself. If I could do it over again, I'd say no without hesitation. Growing up, I had people tell me the same thing - Just say no - learn from other's mistakes... I didn't. I had to learn the hard way. 17 was too young - 13 and 14 are WAY too young. If he truely "loves" you, or REALLY wants to be with you, he'll wait until you're ready. Sex is supposed to be something special between you and the person you love. Today too many abuse that. I'm guilty of doing that. I've been "sex-free" now for almost 2 years, and I'm loving it. I don't have to constantly worry if I'm pregnant, or if I'm going to catch something. Plus, the emotions with sex can be hard. Also, remember your ages - if you get pregnant at 13, and you've only been with this "boy" for a month, is he REALLY going to be with you for the rest of forever to raise this baby? I was with my babies' daddy for 3 years, and he left me when I was 6 months pregnant with his son - and I haven't heard from him for a year and a half now - and I can't find him. The guy can always run, can always hide, but you'll have another life for the rest of forever. Even if you choose abortion (which I will NEVER suggest) you will think about that life, and if you give it up for adoption, you will hope and pray you didn't just put a baby in the arms of a bad family. You need to think of the consequences of have sex before you do it. Also, has he been tested for any STD's if he's had sex before? Might think of that too - never know what you can catch - and some of those stick with you until you die... think it through girl... if you want to talk, I'm open. Send me and email - Aymeesmama04@yahoo.com - best of luck, and don't let peer pressure get to you. They won't always be there for you when you are facing the consequences of a VERY personal choice.
2006-07-31 17:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a multple part answer.
1. If you are not ready, then don't do it. At 14, if he already had sex, he is a player. Romance means nothing to him and you are just his next notch in his tree. Get rid of him.
2. He may be lying. You might be his first. If you love him and you know he loves you, ask him if he will wait until you are ready. If he won't wait, then I guess he really doesn;t love you.
3. If you find you want to please him but do not want to have intercourse, see if he will accept a hand job or a bl*w job. All a 14 year old needs is to let off some steam. Tell him you will assist him in masterbating.
4. Dump him. WHo wants a 14 year old that has already had sex?
5. If you were my daughter I wouldn't even let you date yet. 13 and dating???
2006-07-31 17:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by guess who I am and win a prize 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex with this guy especially since he has already had sex with someone else. He could have any number of std's including AIDS. And if you happen to get pregnant, your life will never be the same and you are too young to raise a child right now. You would miss out on all the great things ahead in your life, and ultimately this would be the biggest regret of your life. If he really loves you, he will wait until you are ready to be sexually active, and he will also get a health screen for you to be sure that he doesnt have any diseases.
2006-07-31 17:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by South Louisiana Chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first off, if he truley cared for you, he would wait for you until he knew you were ready to and willing to, second off please make your decsion wisely, your only 13 and got a lot of teenage years left for you, Im not saying he will, but he might leave you and all you will be left with is frustration and a feeling of being used, and i dont want to see anyone feel that way, you do also have a chance of getting diseases and becoming pregnant as much as anyone else does if they are having sex. Think real hard about this and i know in the end you will make the right choice. Whatever suits you best, you should go for.
2006-07-31 17:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by LeLe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very wise not to want to have sex, or get pregnant at 13. Tell him NO! If he insists drop him, because he doesn't have your best interest in mind.
He is being selfish. Since he has already had sex, once he has sex, he may not want to be your boyfriend any longer, boys are like that. Once they get what they want, they drop you and find another girl.
Do not let him talk you into anything. You are too young for sex, pregnancy and diseases.
I hope you find a nice boy that will not put pressure on you the way your current boyfriend is trying to do.
Just say NO! Don't give in.
2006-07-31 17:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, don't worry about him. Hes young and you are too. Yes you may get pregnant and/or get a disease. You don't wana have any responsibilities right now. Hes in lust right now hes only 14 yrs old. Trust me hes not serious at all. Know when your ready dont rush into anything at this time. Focus on books and trying to become a very special person in life. I am 29 yrs of age and a female and are very very hard to get. These guys respect me to the to the highest. Just a little encouragement. please wait and don't rush having sex.
2006-07-31 17:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes only 14 he probably doesnt have any diseases, and you can wear a condom, having sex for the first time isnt really that big of a deal, but at the age of 13 you really arent ready to start having sex, especially if you are getting pressured into doing it, wait until you feel right, wait until you are completely ready, not only will you feel better afterwards, it will be more rewarding
2006-07-31 17:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by Rasalibre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl don't do it, im telling you first hand. i am 14 and i was in your same situation just a few months ago as a 13 year old and he was 14 also. we did it, but we had known each other for about 2 years but went together for about 5 months. im going to tell you like my mother told me only have your first time with someone you love because if you really dont love him the sex wont be too great.
2006-07-31 17:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by cece2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,you are so young! Don't ever let him pressure you because in the end,you will regret it.You shouldn't even have to worry about having sex yet,you have your whole life to find yourself and the one person that you want to give yourself to.My advice to you is to wait as long as you can and don't worry about him.If he really cares about you,then he will respect your decision and he won't pressure you about it.If he doesn't respect your decision,then he is not the one guy that God has made just for you.Don't worry, he's out there.You should be proud of being a virgin,there are not many left. :-)
2006-07-31 17:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mz.Yvonne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont Let Him Push You Into Doing Something YOU Are Not Ready To Do Yet. Tell Your Mom and DUMP HIM!
2006-07-31 17:17:11 · answer #11 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋