I have an almost 2 yr old daughter who I am sure is left-handed. I don't want her to be left-handed. No matter how often I tell her to hold her spoon with her right hand, she will switch back to her left when I am not looking. I would not give her treats unless she takes them with her right hand. Recently she has been scribbling and she does that with her left hand too. I never expected to have a left-handed child... both my husband and I are right-handed.
I have a left-handed friend who was converted to become right handed. Her mum tied her left hand to the back of the chair so she wouldn't write it. This is legal where I live (indonesia) and I am thinking I should do it
It's not very acceptable to be left-handed in Indo as the left hand is the hand meant for washing your butt. In Indonesia, it is not table manners eating with your left hand... you have to use your right. Receiving and giving things to people should always be done with the right hand. Using your left hand is rude.
2006-07-31 16:58:41 · 22 answers · asked by Stacy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I'd love to tell you what to do with your spoon and where to put your treats. Oh, how I wish I could tell you personally how vile I find you and everything you stand for. Respecting others and their cultural differences is one thing, but when the actions border on barbarism then it's time to say something. LEAVE THE CHILD ALONE. Don't you have tsunamis and earthquakes to worry about instead of trying to regulate how you wipe your butt? Get into this century people!
PS, which hand is the correct one to use to flip you off with and would it be rude to wipe my butt with it first?
2006-07-31 23:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by GVD 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
ask a occupational therapist I can not remember what age it is but it was much older then 2 yr old. A child that age still does not know what hand to use. would it really matter if she was left handed most children I think before the age of 5 will experiment of what hand they are more comfortable with. but if you really don't want your child to be left handed yes then swapping the hands over the other way should do it. my son could use both hands at the same time using a crayon and drawing the same in both hands but a occupational therapist kept changing his hand all the time and now he is only right handed. But really if she is going to be left handed then she will be.
2006-08-01 01:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am sorry that in your culture in Indonesia being left-handed isn't accepted. However, here is the thing, it is something that is not planned nor changed. It is something you are born with, whether right or left handed. I know that I was always taught that if a child is left-handed you never try to change that for when they are trying to write or do things in years to come with the "wrong" hand for them, it is a total disaster. Why put your daughter through this? I just am sorry for her to have to be put through all of this as if she has done something wrong. Its perfectly fine if she is left-handed and should be loved, encouraged and appreciated for who she is!!!! Please don't try and change her. I respect your cultural differences but truly being a dominant right hand or left hand is not a cultural aspect, it is a part of life, how you are born, how you are made. Why try and mess with that?
2006-08-01 01:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do what ever you feel you have to because of where you live, and your beliefs. Chances are your daughter is not left handed though. Kids that young switch the use of their left and right hand all the time. They don't know what hand that want to use yet. You'll know when she is 4 or 5 though. My mom is right handed and my dad is left handed. All their kids are right handed. I don't see anything wrong with being left handed. My dad is a very nice man.
2006-08-01 09:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that your society looks down on something that is completely natural. However, I understand your dilemma. She's a little young, but if you start telling her about hygiene and cleanliness now (the part about washing your rear), eventually she'll realize that for the sake of her health, she'll have to use her right hand. It might take a while, since it's not an easy concept for a toddler to grasp, but I'm sure it can be done. Keep encouraging her to eat with her right hand. The really hard part will be getting her to use her right hand for writing. Good luck!
2006-08-01 00:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Quiet Amusement 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not advising you to make your daughter to become right handed. The reason, is that the center for being right handed is situated is your brain's left side. Because your daughter uses her left hand, the center is situated in her brain's right side. In order to change this, your daughter will suffer, her brain will suffer, and could become ill: she is obligated to do something she is not programmed to do. Let her use the hand she wants to use. Her health is more important. And about you, the parents being right handed: the child inherits not only their parents genes, but their ancestors' as well. Somebody in your family was left handed.
2006-08-01 02:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by m_kiss2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh MY Freckin gosh, what are you thinking. That is just way creul just let her do what comes natural to her. Tieing her up, thats what you want to do to your poor 2 year old daughter who will not understand what is going on. What are you crazy. There HAS to be a better way. Just let her be the way that god created her to be. there has to be left handed people over there. there are everywhere it is not rude. when she is older, tell her and try to teach her (but NOT force) to use her right hand in public or when she is shaking hands, or doing other things like that. but when she is at home just let that be.
There are bigger issues in the world to be concerned about and more worried than your right or left handed ness of your daughter.
Go on with this and just let her be.
2006-08-01 00:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by singlemom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is showing sings of being left handed and I think it is great. Is it really that bad to be left handed where you live? If that is the case that's really sad. I have no advice for you other than to let you daughter grow naturally and not force her to change things she has no control over - like being left handed.
2006-08-04 22:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible that you would punish a child for that. Trying to change someones use of hand psychologically screws them up in the end. I should know... I was getting forced to go right. I do mostly everything with my left. Creative people are lefties. Leave her be,shouldn't be punished for the way she was meant to be......god created her to be what she is....I wanted my son to be a lefty... doesn't look like its gonna happen. But i LOVE him and he great the way he's gonna be...
2006-08-01 01:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by soleilmoon_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to do that to her?
I'm sorry it isn't acceptable where you live but it is natural for people to be left handed. It isn't natural for someone who is left handed to use their right.
My grandmother had the tendons cut in her left hand so that she had to use her right hand, it is a horible thing to do to a child.
I would either sugest moving to a contry that accepts left handed people or accept her for who she is and ignore other people.
2006-08-01 00:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋