All my friends say that my boyfriends friends are jerks and i cant say anything because i am afraid to say anything to him because i dont want to lose him. I dont know what to do and everyone i asks says break up with him but thats stupid because i love him. Any advice?
2006-07-31 16:55:05 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His friends are jerks, but if he's not then there is no reason to break up with him. Tell your friends to get out of your business.
2006-07-31 16:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably blinded by "love" but the reality is that people tend to be friends with people that are just like themselves.
Your boyfriend is probably a jerk too and the truth is, thats why you love him. Women tend to fall for the jerks and find the "nice guy" boring.
The real problem is that when you are a 30 year old single mother because your jerk boyfriend knocked you up and dumped you, you will actually want to find a nice guy and you will be done with the jerks. The nice guy that you could have gotten years ago now has a good job, makes lots of money, and doesn't want you because you are all used up.
Listen to your friends.
2006-07-31 17:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by S R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you, don't be afraid to tell him that his friends are jerks sometimes. He won't break up with you if he truly cares. If you cannot tell him the truth or your feelings because you are afraid he will leave then that is not a very healthy relationship and he doesn't get to see the real you. Just tell him. It will be ok.
2006-07-31 17:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to what others say. Peer pressure is something you should never give into, if you are happy that is all that matters, dont let others dictate your life who are possibly jealous of your relationship - If God Forbid either of you ever do break up, it should be because it was not working for YOU. And Your boyfriend should straighten his mates out if they get rude to you, but if your friends have a problem with his friends, that is not your problem as long as your boyfriend is keeping you out of the cross fire and doing his duty to protect and defend you.
2006-07-31 16:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't "put into the bank" your emotionalcurrency if you first and foremost cannot be treated properly. True love has to be mutual and come from respect. If you afraid to assert your true feeling because you feel that he is going to abandon the relationship then he must not have much respect for you or the relationship. Review how much feelings you have put into this relationship and ask if he will still keep you if you are honest with hi and if you cannot be honest with him let him go
2006-07-31 17:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by stratisnj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends will have your back, even if they despise him. All of my friends couldn't stand the woman I dated & married for 10 years, but they didn't ever bring it up after the first time they told me. And we are all still good friends.
Unless your boyfriend is abusive, or a bad influence on you (druggy, in trouble with the law), then you should tell your friends to accept it or go away.
2006-07-31 17:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ajosh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His friends have nothing to do with your relationship, don't listen to them. Like she said up there, your heart knows best, just follow it. Don't break up with him just because people say to or because his friends are jerks. Don't even worry about it.
2006-07-31 17:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Devoting yourself to someone is a huge commitment, if you love them you ought to be open enough to talk to them about how u feel. Trust your feelings in the relationship, if you can't talk to your partner honestly you shouldn't be with them. If the relationship is worth it then you need to talk. Ignore your friends they mean well but whether the relationship is meant to be or not is something you have to find out on your own. Your true friends will support your decision.
2006-07-31 17:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by TR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your boyfriend is prone to act like the company he keeps. In other words, he could become a jerk. But the real question is, do his friends bother you?
2006-07-31 16:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by c_w_b_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, talk to him about his friends. when you do, dont be demanding or anything, just ask why he hangs with them. and, dont tell him to change his friends.... but, you might ask if they could be a little less jerky. but, youll have to ignore other people, because just because his friends are jerks dont make him one, so they can just deal.
2006-07-31 16:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by mdrieber00013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋