My mother in law never thanked me and my hubby for the mother's day gift I sent to her. She told her other son she didn't think much about it and never denied it when my husband asked her about it. Instead she went on about the things in her household she needed to have fixed. She's asked for money a few times since we've been married but we didn't want to start doing that. My husband thinks it's ok that she never said thank you and says she's always been that way if she doesn't like something. Would I be wrong not to send anything to her next year?
2006-07-31 16:54:17 · 11 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother-in-law is extremely rude. I think you should just continue giving her gifts every single year - and just be super-sweet to her. You know, kill her with kindness. Plus, you should just ignore any of her indications that she doesn't like your presents. If she doesn't like them - too bad. At least she's getting presents. And if she really needed money, then she can get a job... I think you and your husband made the right decision in not going there.
2006-07-31 17:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sahara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Extremely rude.I don't think you would be wrong for not sending anything next year. But, is that really the kind of person you want to be? As you age you will begin to realize many people act like complete jerks to you, and being ugly back does no good. It only makes you feel better for a short period of time. Mom always told me to "Kill 'em with kindness". That's what I do. Don't make war with her, make as nice as you can. It will pay off for you in the end. Not to mention it is just the right thing to do. Good luck. Hope that situation gets better for you.
2006-08-01 00:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only `saving grace' in this scenario is that yr husband said that she was always like that; which seems to indicate that she doesn't necessarily do it to `get at' you. So, under those circumstances, it probably wld be wise to stick to convention, as it just might turn things in the wrong direction if you were to take exception to the rule; don't get me wrong here; I think it's damned rude alright: and I too wld be a bit hot under the collar; but let sleeping dogs lie: and keep the peace, for YOUR sake!
Good luck with this~
2006-08-01 00:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmmm why not try and keep the peace. If your husband says she has always been like that try and ignore it.
Send her a present but make it a gift voucher that way it is not money but she can spend it on something she does like.
Take the high road in the relationship. Just because she is rude it doesnt' mean you have to lower yourself to her level.
Good luck with it all.
2006-08-01 00:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by tjrj23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as though she is a bit ungrateful! Of course your husband would say he doesn't care but that is probably far from the truth. He just doesn't want to make a big deal out of it as he knows that she was wrong and probably doesn't want you to think wrong of his mother.You obviously don't have a good relationship with her either, not to say that it is your fault as it takes two to try. Maybe if you had more contact with her either by phone or visits it may help as it did for me. Had the same problem. Good Luck!
2006-08-01 00:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't give a gift and expect a thank you!!!
You should give a gift because you want to and hope she likes it!
If she doesn't say thanks then that is her problem. You keep doing the right thing and you will be rewards at some point. One day she will wish she had said thank you when she is in a nursing home!
2006-08-01 00:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you wouldn't be. No thank you this year means no gift next year. I read that quote in Dear Abby the other day.
2006-07-31 23:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely rude but since shes your mother in law you have to deal with it if she continues with this rude behavior confront her and let her know that she does and says things that hurt you and you dont appreciate it and if she could please acknowledge the fact that you guys are trying if not you will have to limit her visits
2006-08-01 00:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly, you should send her an etiquette magazine subscription.
It would make you feel much better, and I'm pretty sure her manners towards you would improve.
2006-07-31 23:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by KylieElenstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes in a would be wrong in a way,even if she acts completly snobish u should jus be nice
2006-07-31 23:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋