I thinks my boyfriend is cheating on me...because he stop calling me and coming 2 my house. What do i do....should i leave him or stay with him. I am pregnant with him baby. Help me
2006-07-31 16:52:57 · 31 answers · asked by Ms. Plummer 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
OH GIRL YOU SHOULD DUMP HIS *** IF HE IS CHEATING ON YOU!!....WELL FIND OUT FIRST OK?....AND THEN GET CHILD SUPPORT OR EVEN BETTER....FIND YOURSELF A BETTER MAN WHOU WOULD ACCEPT YOU AND YOUR CHILD!!...GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-31 16:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. I know you are heartbroken and scared. It's so hard when girls have sex out of wedlock, because they are stuck "holding the bag" or in this case, holding the baby.
You can't force him, obviously, to have a relationship with you. Although, if he is the father, you must take him to court and force him to pay you child support.
Back to your question, since you are about to be a mother, you need to handle this as maturely and grown up as possible. Call this boy and talk to him frankly. Ask him if he is going to do the right thing and take care of his family. Don't let him play games with you. If he doesn't give you a solid answer and begin to act in a mature way, you need to make the plans to take care of yourself and your child.
There is one option that you may want to think about. It is a very difficult and self-less option. You must think about your child's best interest. What do you think is better: A teen-age mother with a teen-age father who is not interested in making a family or a grown, mature, married couple who are finacially, emotionally and psychologically mature and ready to raise a child? A couple who has been LONGING for a baby and praying for a baby and are ready? Which one would you rather be raised in? A young girl and a boy who may or may not be around, with new boyfriends in and out of the baby's life, money struggles, daycare so you can work and finish school? Or what about a woman who wants to stay home and love that baby and care for it and give it stability?
I don't mean to lecture. Maybe it's an idea you would be willing to consider for your baby's well-being and YOUR well-being??? Think about it, you need a chance to finish growing up and get your schooling and finish having some teen-age years and then get married.
Good luck to you whatever you decide. I wish you the best.
2006-08-01 00:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mistress T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope you enjoyed the two minutes of sex that got you pregnant.
Now you will suffer a lifetime bringing up a child by yourself and I can guarantee you won't get any support from the boyfriend.
He's not "cheating" on you...he's simply "done" with you.
Now he's gone and you're left holding the bag, uh...baby.
Sorry to sound so cold and heartless but I'm hoping that another young girl might be reading this and will think twice before making the same mistake you just did.
When will you kids ever learn?
This same sad story is repeated way too many times.
2006-08-01 00:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by GeneL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey.. first congrates on the pregnancy. have you tryed to call him? if so does he not talk to you? if you have tried to call him and no responce i would leave him.. he is scared because of him getting you pregnant which most men or should i say boys do when they get a young girl pregnant.. im not sure how old you are and you said boyfriend. he dont want to grow up by taking on the responsablities of haveing a child.. which in fact is a part of life..and besides you dont need a man to raise a child, i know of alot of teens that got pregnant between ages 16-18 and have beautiful children and there is no man involved... once the child is born he will have to pay child support. i wish you the best of luck with the decision you make, and the future with your child.
2006-08-01 00:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by littlechicky_82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the best way that you can do is ask him personally if he is ready for his responsibility as a father because if you will leave him the baby that you are suppose to have will suffer because he grows up with no father beside him and its hard to have incomplete family , just try to give back your relationship for the sake of your baby , but if is not working , well better to leave him and strive your best in raising up your baby .And wish you all the best with you baby.
2006-08-01 00:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by grace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 years old and I just had a baby. His father was always cheating on me and treated me like crap. I left him because I know that I deserve better and so does my child. I do not want my son growing up thinking its ok to treat women poorly, especially me. I know that if he watches me get disrespected and I don't do anything about it, then he will think its ok to disrespect me also. And to me that is not ok. If you have a girl, she will grow up to allow her men to treat her like your boyfriend is treating you. so you may think that because you're having his baby you should stay with him, but I think its the opposite...you have to make the best descisions for your child first. It is hard being a single mom, but its also possible. AND he'll still have to pay child support if you're together or not!
2006-08-01 00:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by lilgreek19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like your boyfriend is cheating on you then he probably is...You can't let a baby influence your decision what would you do if you weren't pregnant??? Maybe he's getting cold feet try talking to him about it if that doesn't work move on
2006-07-31 23:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just assume.. find out! Maybe try going by his house one day when he unexpects it. Try talking to him about why he never calls or never comes over. Maybe he is stressed out and confused over you being pregnant with his baby.. and is drifting away because he feels like that is the best solution. Who knows.. the only way to find out is to take action.
2006-08-01 00:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deadbeat dad. It's too bad because you could've benefitted from a few extra years of education in the English language department. Good luck with the baby though! I know it'll be tough raising it on your own. I wish you the best!
2006-07-31 23:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by SomeoneUdunno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. You are a woman and you are strong, you can be a great parent without the loser. Support from friends and family is all you need. You do NOT need someone that will flake out on you, if he is doing that while you're pregnant he will always do it. You deserve better, and you will find that someone.
2006-08-01 00:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. you can do better. think of the baby. if he doesent love you enough to stay with just you, then whats to say that he will be a good father for your child. there are plenty of men that want children and could love you and your baby.
2006-08-01 00:00:00 · answer #11 · answered by Chuck M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋