of course i don't give in to her tantrums, i understand this is a part of life all babies go through. they call it the terrible two's and sometimes it starts a little earlier than two. the problem is my husband thinks we are doing something to cause this. i have been around lots of babies and my husband has not. any advice???
2006-07-31 16:42:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think you're right in not giving in, you have to just ignore them when they act like that. every child goes through this and they are just testing the water, seeing how far they can take you. they'll learn that they won't get a reaction for throwing a fit and they will eventually stop. my kids did this at different stages for a long time. it's part of growing up. just remember that dad has to be with you on this, you need to start teaching your child that your together in parenting early so they don't run you around later.
2006-07-31 16:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would have him be around kids her age, like in a playgroup or at the library sometimes they have infant/toddler time. Show him how it is perfectly natural for her to be like this. See, she can't express herself with words yet, so she expresses her frustrations, anger in throwing tantrums. It's all a part of the learning and growing up process. It would be best for him to see it firsthand. However also getting books on toddlers can be very helpful too! Good luck! Sounds like you have some experience which will help and you are a good Mom! I think that's one of the cutest stages and ages, 18 months, awesome stuff!!!! Every age has its good and its hard but it is all amazing! Good luck to you and hubbie and just love her up! Let your daughter know how special she is,how loved she is,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,no matter what! You can also set the guidelines for her, yes even at 18 months, by letting her know she will get rewarded if she doesn't throw a tantrum or if she does it, then she'll have to sit in a time out and not get to be with you guys, even if it is for a minute or two. They learn quickly!!!
2006-08-01 01:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. Tantrums are completely normal. Generally speaking, tantrums result from an inability to communicate. Toddlers know more than they are able to say (talking is hard!), so they are easily frustrated when they can't make their needs clear. The most important thing is to stay patient. The more you can do this, the easier it will be for your daughter to do the same. Beyond that, sign language is a good resource. Young children can sign much more easily than they can talk, so by learning "baby sign language" they can have twice the vocabulary that they know verbally. This aids communication and prevents a lot of tantrums. Of course, toddlers are notoriously stubborn, too, so even sign language won't stop all of them. Good luck!!
This website has a dictionary of common words for toddlers. It even has video so you can see what they look like!!
http://www.mybabycantalk.com/content/dictionary/dictionaryofsigns.aspx?letter=A
2006-07-31 23:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by Quiet Amusement 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your hub thinking you two are doing something to cause this? Can't answer too specifically when not given enough info.
However, 1.5 yrs old is not too early for tantrums. I think your heading to the right direction by trying to reach an agreement of standards with your husband. It's the most important thing. This will be a good foundation for your child as he/she grows up.
2006-08-01 01:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by juggler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your husband around more babies your childs age. Get some good books on the subject and read them together or sepparately, but get on the same page with discipline. My 16 month old is starting to get very assertive and demanding from time to time, and had I not seen my 2 other kids do this, I would have thought I was doing something wrong. try not to let your child upset you or suck you into a battle of wills. assure your husband that its a natural part of learning autonomy and self awareness. Without this stage, your kid might not know how to stand up to the kids who want to push him around, or say no to a stranger who wants to lure him in. this is all part of the crazy ride of parenting. have fun!
2006-08-01 00:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by prancingmonkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your husband one of your parenting books that explains about tantrums-you are totally right. My children seem to go through that stage when they are 3 for some reason.
2006-07-31 23:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by hagren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprise surprise... my lil guy is a raging nut also.... started at 18 months. Now he 20 months. I hear it passes within a year. Lets hope...... i feel for ya!
2006-08-01 01:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by soleilmoon_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him a few books or videos about babies and what is and isnt normal.
2006-07-31 23:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋