How to stop loving someone?

Question

How do you stop loving someone and thinking about them all the time, it's driving me nuts. Will it ever go away? I have been keeping busy with work and friends, but he is always on my mind. Anyone else with this problem.

Answer 1

Dear,

you can not stop loving someone..
if you say so it will be a cheating to yourself..

Loving people is a common thing in life nothing to worry about it.

It seems at present yours is not LOVE in real meaning but,
only an attraction to that fellow.
It can become a Lovable relation if you feel comfortable.

You are trying to avoid it by keeping busy with your work and friend.
still your mind wanders means still you wish for the company of that fellow.

you yourself denying it to you,
if you are sure he also wish for you good
why don't you use this company judicially for your heart's pleasure
?
If you are talking about a broken relation then the only solution
to cure the wounds in your heart is
forgive forgive.....and forgive.

In practical life if you can not forgive a person means,
you are keeping a revenge to that person in your heart,
again means the memories of that person are always alive in you.

Forgiven means we are removing all the trace of that person from our heart but the memory still remains, only time can clean the memory out of it.

All The BEST......!

Answer 2

That is a hurt only time will heal honey. The more you try to forget, the more those memories start coming back to haunt you. Keeping busy isn't always the answer either. When you do that, you never really deal with the problem. Face it head on. If it was a relationship that went bad, concentrate on why it went that way. If you don't have an answer, take a piece of paper and make yourself a list. List ten things you wished you would have done differently with this person. Then make a list of ten things you wished that person did differently. Then cry a little, mourn the relationship lost. The next day, flip that paper over and write the list of things that person did to annoy you. Make a list of all the quirks that just got under your skin. Add to the bottom of that list all the arguments and what they were about. Then take a few minutes to say good riddens. On the third day, make another list of what you are looking for in a relationship, the qualities of your ideal mate. On the fourth day, go and find that person and don't look back! Just remember this relationship was an experience for you, maybe not a good one, but you've learned from it none the less. What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger!

Answer 3

I'm seeing a shrink and a therapist. I've been on a couple of anti-depressants. I have been in love with my male best friend for 19 years. We've always had a flirty, kissing off and on, always helped each out with dating kind of relationship. I had always wanted to be with him, but he never pursued me. I eventually got pregnant and married to someone else. My feelings have never went away for this guy. Six months ago, I finally told him how I really feel. It's been rocky ever since. On again (very flirtateous, then off again (he doesn't talk to me). I know I'm married, but 2 months ago we had sex, for the very first time. Not the best sex, but still the most wonderful! All was good, until I kept asking him why he didn't try anything years ago question. He's sick of me asking this question and knowing I want more of him(which he cannot offer-emotionally). So now he's not emailing me again. Anyway, he's been on my mind for 19 years. He never goes away completely. It's hard b/c he really has always been a good friend of mine. He really does want the best for me. That's kind of why he hasn't been talking to me. He wants me to better my marriage and have a happy family. It's so complicated. I'll never stop loving him. My advice to you is to keep doing what you're doing(work and friends). Find "something" else to put your passion into: walking, drawing and helping people out on Yahoo Answers:)
Try praying. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I was going to suggest keeping busy but I see you tried that... Why do you want to stop loving the person? What did he do? Is he married or something? What ever the answer is, use that as the reason why you should stop loving him

Answer 5

No matter what anyone says, the answer is not to find someone else. It wouldn't be fair to the next guy if you were thinking about another man. Purge your mind for a few months, and then try again with someone else.

Answer 6

It's normal to be experiencing you feelings. It's almost like a death. It normal to grieve for the lost of someone. It will go away in time. You just need to allow yourself to grieve. Keeping busy definatly helps. Anytime you have a close relationship it's hard to let go. Take your time and do what feels right for you.

Answer 7

It won't go away. The thing that sucks about having feelings for someone is that you usually have no control over those feelings.

Does he know how you feel?

Either way, the only thing that will help you is time. You just have to either do something about it, like confront him and tell him how you feel, or wait it out.

I waited it out.
And I regret it with everything I've got.

Answer 8

Well, I actually tried doing this myself a couple years ago, and it pretty much worked. I thought of only the bad and/or annoying things about him. I compared him to other men who had qualities i liked or wanted in a partner. I thought of everything that he DIDN'T do for me, etc. Be careful, tho, once you harden your heart it's hard to soften back up. Even for somebody new who hasn't done anything to you.

Answer 9

You don't stop. You just have to find something or someone to replace that void. And only after time will it get better. then comes the saying..... if you fall off a horse, get right back on : )

Answer 10

Time heals all wounds. That's the only thing that seems to help... and keeping busy. Take up a new hobby, etc...