2006-07-31 16:31:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't tolerate cheating at all. You would only be hurting yourself by letting it go and forgiving him unconditionally. Break up with him. By doing that you're showing him that you won't allow him to walk all over you. But at the same time, you need to be somewhat forgiving, so be compassionate towards him by never bringing it up and just dropping it. Don't talk to anyone about it, just let it go. If you end your relationship with him, that's a little bit of justice, and if you put it in the past and not hold it against him, that's a little bit of mercy mixed in.
If he really does care about you, he'll come crawling back to you after you break up with him. If not, then it's over. But if he does, and you still have feelings for him, then it's your decision from there. If you would take him back and love him regardless of what he did in the past, then fine. But if you couldn't see yourself ever getting over it, if you doubt you'll ever be able to truly trust him again, then I'd strongly advise against it. It might hurt to lose him, especially when you really care for him, but it will hurt even more if he betrays you again. It takes longer to rebuilt trust than it does to get over losing a bf/gf. Don't let your feelings for him override your reasoning. You probably already know, in your heart, what you should do. Just follow your gut instinct and everything will turn out fine.
2006-07-31 17:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Silver Spoon 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That depends on how you feel. Strangers can't tell you what to do. Talk to him and see how you feel about it. Can you forgive him and give him a second chance, or are you too mad to get over it?
I wouldn't give him the time of day afterwords, but then I don't know your situation or the details about his cheating. There's no excuse, but some mistakes can be forgiven. Remember that it will always be in the back of your mind that he cheated, and that trust is hard to rebuild.
2006-07-31 23:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you hon,he's not so amazing.
Two years of being with someone is serious
and you would have to follow your own heart.
From my point of view is he really worth it?
You already invested two years with him
and for him to cheat on you,that's sad.
I think you could move on and do better
for yourself.Find someone that will treat you
with respect.Then again,he can possibly
change for the better.
2006-07-31 23:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by lostgrandma1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is: Once a cheater, always a cheater.
He cannot be that amazing if he cheats, he will continue to do it now. There is no excuse for that!
2006-07-31 23:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by oxosasoxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there. i recently went through the same thing. it's the worst feeling in the world. after giving it alot of thought i stayed. what you need to figure out is if you can forgive him. another thing to consider is what led to him cheating. what were you going through when this happened. was she a friend of his or someone who he barely knew. you need to find all of that out and he needs to be completely honest. for some people it's easy to say f*ck it and just leave, but if you think this is worth saving you have to try your best to make it work. let me tell you though if you stay make damn sure he earns your love and respect back. he has to work harder than you to make this work after all he's the one who screwed up.some people might not agree with me but you have to do what your heart tells you to do.only you can make this decision all we can do is share our thoughts and opinions. good luck to you.
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2006-07-31 23:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to think is this a good man or is he just gonna cheat on me again.But I say stay then again follow you heart
2006-07-31 23:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by Yoyo2525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go... there will ALWAYS be something that makes you uneasy whenever you look at him or think of him. Respect yourself and the courtesy you've shown to him for at least questioning whether or not to leave. Do it for your future.
2006-07-31 23:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Stevie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he isn't AMAZING. Has he apologized? If you believe the two of you can work it out then try.
2006-07-31 23:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the type of person who is forgiving and is willing to give him 1 more chance? There lies your answer.
2006-07-31 23:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go, because you're 'amazing' boyfriend is a jerk.
2006-07-31 23:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋