here's what up. I have not seem my son in 6 years. his mother was a lesbian and I took her from her butch. the court told me this
bs if she not looking for you why look for her. F her I want my son
that's why I went looking. I hired a P.I. I got her mother work number and was told If I love her and my son I would just go away
I love my son what can I do. what would you do and taking her out is not an option.
2006-07-31 16:23:07 · 23 answers · asked by Reggiereg 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Screw the mother! The PI has done his job, now hire an attorney!
2006-07-31 16:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Flower Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have rights!!!!!!! First of all if you are trying to find him and the mother is not making him available that is kidnapping unless she has a court order against you. If your ex's mom isn't helping you she also can be in trouble for helping to hide your son. Hire a family law attorney. Ask the to simply write a letter requesting visitation. From there you and the attorney can figure the steps. If it is a matter of money contact your local Legal aid in the county you live in. There are legal rights but you need to make sure that you are ready to do what ever you need to legally and make sure that youhave all of your own ducks in a row....
2006-07-31 23:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by Linda G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, get a pricey lawyer who will make the courts listen. Appeal like crazy if need be. Offer to do a paternity test and do all you can to prove that you don't want to turn out a dead-beat dad stereotype. After the paternity test I would hope that the courts would see you as a proper biological parent with right to his child. But, do it all through lawyers so that there isn't a risk of a restraining order.
Good luck.
2006-07-31 23:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by elliecow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm assuming that there's some reason that you can't see her or your son. Usually that you two don't get along for some reason. If you know where they are then you might try sending an unoffensive letter or e-mail, if that doesn't work you might try the courts. Once you have lost you child for so long, though, you will probably have a pretty hard time if it.
2006-07-31 23:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure if this will help or not. But my fiance's friend,he just went through this. His ex wife(or something) was jumping around, moving on him. He was suppose to know all of that, but he didnt. So he took her to court, to get atleast his visitation rights back. She didnt show, he ended up taking her to court like two or three times before he finally got his daughter. How old is your son? Im not sure where you live, but i know where i live the legal age for a child to speak their own mind is 11 or 12, one of those. If your son is old enough, then have him get on the stand if you take her to court and have him say what he has to say.
My fiance and i are getting ready to take his ex girlfriend to court because my fiance has visitation rights for his son, but she dont let him see him. Hes going to be 12, so now he will be able to speak his own mind if he wants to see his dad or not.
I suggest you take her *** to court. If you want to see your son, then go for it! He's yours too right? Goodluck!
2006-07-31 23:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by xxlilmekristyrae32xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but you don't sound too understanding or caring for anyone but yourself. and you don't say if, during the divorce, you were granted visitation rights. i assume the court didn't see you fit...
since you are asking: talk to a shrink to deal with your issues before you become a nuisance to your ex wife and worst of all your child. kids understand very well what happens around them. you'll know when it is time to get in touch again. and i am sure that if you try to deal with your issues any understanding woman will allow you to see your son again.
don't forget that your child and his well being is the most important thing in the world for you. right?
2006-07-31 23:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by curly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did the f'ing court order say? Did it order child support and have you been paying it? Are you recognized as the father?
If you can't say yes to the last two, forget it man. You don't need the trouble you can get into, and neither does your son. If you can say yes, take Ms. Lesbie to court for failure to provide visitation.
2006-07-31 23:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by diogenese19348 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves her son, she would let you see him. She doesn't realize she's hurting him. He may even grow up with resentment because of it. And when he finally finds the truth, he is going to be pissed with her. If she knows what is good for her, she'll let you see him. He needs his father. Oh, and let me guess about the court thing: They, and you know who I'm talking about, aren't used to seeing men wanting to be with their children.There are some trife assed "mothers" out there too. So, keep your head up and don't do anything stupid because she will use it against you. fight for your rights the legal way.
2006-07-31 23:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by Rhea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as active as you can in trying to get him back or get the time to see him. Keep records of it as he may ask you why you never came looking. If for some reason you can't get in his life, you will have proof that you tried so he can't be angry with you. Go through the courts and have them order shared custody and anything else possible you can get.
Good luck.
2006-07-31 23:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mystery Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Force her to have a parternity test and when it comes back and the child is yours, then you can petition her in the courts for joint custody. Remember though, you might get stuck making some child support payments.
2006-07-31 23:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋