I liked a guy. He liked me back. he asked me to be his girlfriend but I freaked out and said no..because at that point in my life i could not have handled a bf...but now I AM..and i've realized what kind of a great guy he is and etc..so he moved on..and i am moving on and dating other people but he is in the back of my mind. i dont know if he has anybody because we are not talking anymore.
the question: i know i will be having the same courses with him..and im thinking of just trying to become friends..or maybe more?! Is that true that if you liked someone a LOTTTT....you will still have kind of warm feelings towards a person? can you "turn back time" and start from sq 1? love has no history...is that so? thanks.
2006-07-31 15:50:06 · 20 answers · asked by Feodora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks so much so many insightful answers..by the way. im 20 and he is 22. and we havent seen each other in 4 months.
2006-07-31 16:28:56 · update #1
One thing I know for sure in life is you always wont who you wont and love who you love.Just like my wife it took me three years to get her.The first time I laid eyes on her I knew she was the one.She was with somebody and so was I.But a feeling deep down inside came over me.It's something I caint explain or mere words could never capture.You know when you know go get your man.
2006-07-31 16:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still have that big chance of getting him back because you said you don't know if he has somebody else by this time. And I think that Destiny may be working to your advantage because you will see him in school more often because you have same courses.
When you see him, ask him if you can have a talk with him and perhaps it may be in a coffee shop where you will have the opportunity to ask him personal questions. By then, you may know what you want to know concerning his love affairs at the moment. If he does not have anybody else now, you may imply with grace and modesty your feelings for him even through gestures alone. And that would be a great start towards a possible love relationship between you.
Surely, when you really like a person, you will always have that kind of warn feelngs towards that person with him or without him by your side.
I've longed dream to be Superman who could turn back time to save his girl but nobody can be a superman in this world and only God can turn back time. But what you can do is reverse your attitude towards him especially now that you realized that you like him a lot and let him know that in little ways if he is still available. I'm sure, if he still likes you, once he gets the hint that you are now ready to have a bf, and that he feels that you have a liking for him too, he will let you know about his feelings again.
May your heart be gay with what is to come between you and that guy. Good luck.
2006-07-31 16:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hung up on "the one that got away". It's good to have fond memories about someone, but I doubt it's really love. Call him up and arrange some time together, date or just as friends. He may not, and probably won't, live up to the image you have in your mind. It's common to think about him the way you are, but most people find that the guy/girl they remember is a thing of fiction in their mind. The real thing turns out to be somebody totally different. As for "love has no history" where did you hear that?!? It's not true. You can never go back, only forward. You didn't say how much time has gone by or ages of you and him. If he's old enough, he may have a girlfriend, be engaged, or even married by now.
2006-07-31 15:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,it's very true that when you love someone that those feelings will stay with you long after the relationship ends. Try to move slow and work your way back into his life as a friend. You can find out if he's with anyone serious and maybe eventually say exactly what you said here,that you freaked out when he asked to get serious and you realize now what a mistake that was.
Just be sure that you have genuine love for him before you do.He may have changed.
Best Wishes
2006-07-31 15:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by moonstruck_ru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know that you will be taking courses with him. Just relax, hook up with him when you get the chance and re-start the communication. Don't worry about projecting into the future or speculating, just let events unfold on their own. If now is the right time for the two of you to get together you will know soon enough. Be patient. Good Luck!
2006-07-31 15:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and exactly what you said about at that time you were not ready and ask him for a second chance.
all he can say is no (and 70% sure he won't) yes the rejection would hurt but the regret of never knowing would hurt alot more
GO FOR IT YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-31 15:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by pandala777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the start, is this one journey, or a series of a number of issues that has outfitted up so a approaches in time and your decision? i think, in my view, that "something" is forgiveable, if the guy somewhat seeks forgiveness and needs to truly do greater advantageous and recover from their betrayal/errors. the final analysis, is that that's on the two considered one of you, no longer in basic terms them, and not in basic terms you. Do they comprehend what they did? Did they actually do something? each and every so often human beings say/do issues that worsen us, and make rage boil interior us, yet we on no account tell them for in spite of reason, leaving our harm festering hidden under the floor. i think you may desire to respond to 3 questions on your very own words, to verify this.. a million) Did they knowingly do something? 2) Can they greater advantageous the situation, whether it demands a mutual attempt between the the two considered one of you? 3) in the event that they actually and truly compensate for his or her wrongs, are you open and forgiving adequate to settle for his or her sacrifice?
2016-10-01 08:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by bjorne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left an "imprint" of his feelings within you that is why now you are having such a hard time expressing yourself to him.
But the mere fact that he has moved on should tell you that he wasn't really "die-hard" in love with you.
Don't let yourself be fooled by this. Respect yourself.
If he really wants you, let him come after you again.
2006-07-31 16:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by stardustalpha2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should some how get in touch with him and tell him how you feel. If he feels the same he will forgive you for sayin no the first time and give it a try. Don't do it in stalkin way though. Trust me.
2006-07-31 15:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know but it sounds like it maybe worth a try. just be up front with him. tell him it wasn't him, you just wasn't in the right place in your life to have a bf and now you are looking for someone and that could be him.
2006-07-31 15:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋