I have two guys in my life. One who I have known for about two years(we'll just call him AM), and one who I have recently began seeing as more than just friends (we'll call him BB). AM and I have gone out before and we ended it on a sour note. BB and I met through my best friend and she thinks that we shouldn't go out. Well, when BB and I started hanging out, AM started wanting to hang out with me more than ever. So AM started treating me like BB does and now I have to choose between the two before I get into trouble with the two. AM and I ended because he was too much for me and was always wanting me to do things that I didn't want to do. BB isn't like that and will never presure me into anything that I don't want to do. I can't choose and I can't really ask anyone who knows the two. HELP!!!
2006-07-31 15:46:24 · 17 answers · asked by J-Bird 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BB sounds like a real man. Someone who is willing to sacrifice to your needs and freedom of your identity. AM is just doing it out of jealousy. However, your best friend might have good reason to worry about BB and you should find out what it is that you may not know about. Definitely not AM dahling. BB had to show AM how to treat you, so definitely go for BB. I would really try to find out why your best friend doesn't like him though, and see if any of it is harm to you. If it's over something silly, then just go with BB. BB= Better Buddy
2006-07-31 15:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Choose BB....if AM was only interested in you after he found out about BB it is probably just an ego thing for him. BB sounds like a nice guy, you should give him a chance and tell AM to piss off.
2006-07-31 15:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Shelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BB sounds the best AM and you ended on a sour note and he is only acting different because BB is there.
2006-07-31 15:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely go with BB, AM is just in a jealously phase where he doesn't really want your attention but he doesn't want you giving your attention to anyone else. A guy who you tried dating before with it not working will not again just because he changed for a minute or two. You know that BB isn't into pressuring you, so go with it!
2006-07-31 15:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Queen_Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BB sounds like the better guy especially since you and AM ended things on a sour note...things like that happen for a reason...
2006-07-31 15:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BB friendship is always a good base for a strong relationship. I think if you date AM you will just end again on a sour note.
2006-07-31 15:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by acidicblackrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off: You will hurt one of them. Nothing you say or do will change that. Accept it. Rejection is a normal part of being human and dating. There is nothing you can do to soften the "I'm just not into you" blow. Second off: This may sound nuts but trust me, flip a coin. Make Guy 1 heads and Guy 2 tails. If it lands on heads and your immediate gut reaction is "Ok, sweet" then go for Guy 1. If it lands on heads and your immediate gut reaction is "No, no him" then go for Guy 2. Same thing apples for Guy 2 and tails. Don't over think your reaction, just go with it. Your subconscious is way better about interpreting the body language and "goodness feeling" of a person then your conscious mind ever is (eons of evolution and all that, seriously how do you think we survived until this point with out this instinctual understanding?). Lastly: Do it quickly. The longer you wait the greater the chance you will loose both.
2016-03-27 11:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's really or you to figure out. No one else can tell you how to live your life and thus no one else can tell you who to love. However, from your description, I would choose BB. Things didn't work out with AM and it doesn't look like they will again. Try BB and see how it goes.
2006-07-31 15:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by Not done with love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets put it this way. AM is jealous you are talking to another guy b/c you are his ex. That's why he is getting clingy. Girl you broke up with AM for a very good reason and he is just going to do it again if you go out with him. Try dating BB. If he is going to respect you like you say he is, then he is the right one for you.
2006-07-31 15:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question, the one guy has to act like something he wasnt in the first place,and he is too much for you, sounds like to much pressure. BB sounds like he is more respectful to you, but your bf is always right unless she is a backstabbing cow, then dont trust her, maybe neither of the guys will work out so end it with both.
2006-07-31 15:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by curiosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋