Abortion to tell or not to tell???

Question

My x-boy and I have been back together only a month now..and I just found out I'm pregnant(Yes, 100% its his) We both have said we DON"T want more kids- i have 2 he has 1. I am thinking about aborting it -and I know i will forver hate myself for it but i see it my only option(we both work loooong hours, i carry the gene for multiple sclerosis as 1 of my kids have it- it would be a drain on our relationship to have another child) but I know its wrond, anyway, should I tell him I am getting an abotiojn or spare him the hordid details??? Im scared!

Answer 1

Hi, hon. I'm going to be blunt here, but please understand that it is out of genuine concern for both your well-being and the well-being of your baby. Whether you want more kids or not, you HAVE one. The fact that she is now hidden in your tummy doesn't make her any else real.

Regardless of the circumstances of your life or your medical history, your baby is depending on you for love and protection. You would never let anyone hurt one of your born children, right? You'd probably kill them first! Then how can you pay someone to harm this one? She is just as much your child as your born children. Whether she has MS or not, she does not deserve to die. Sickness is not a crime worthy of death.

If you violate all your maternal instincts and hurt this baby, it will haunt you for the rest of your life. Neither your job or your relationship are worth killing your child over. Circumstances change, relationships change, but your child is your child forever.

In addition, abortion is very dangerous for your physical and emotional well-being. It doesn't make anything better. It only makes these worse. Before you do something you regret, please take a look at these websites:

Photos of Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; ; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org

You are up to this challenge. You can still do the right thing.

Answer 2

So I take it he does not understand that you're pregnant proper? Look on the courting among the 2 of you....do you suppose it is powerful sufficient to final without end? If you do not suppose you wish to be with this man then I could procedure this predicament with a do not ask do not inform perspective. If you inform him you're pg after which abort it, he is gonna be disillusioned. If you understand deep within that you simply can't take care of this child then the exceptional factor to do is both abort or deliver it up for adoption. However, you do notice that army guys make well cash proper? That your boyfriend could be ready to aid you, your child in combination, and your son you've already? It's a huge existence replacing selection. My exceptional buddy had an abortion whilst she was once an adolescent and he or she says it was once the largest mistake of her existence since now she are not able to have youngsters.......distinct situation for you considering the fact that you have already got one, however nonetheless. Good good fortune.,

Answer 3

If you want to stay with him, then please tell him your decision and the reasons why. I'm sure he'll understand. You shouldn't have to go through this alone, you need all the support you can get. Besides, no matter how hard it is now to talk about it, it will be worse ten years down the road if he finds out. This won't be easy on you or him, but in the end I think you are being very mature and responsible and realistic to realize that you can't handle another one right now. It would be so much worse to bring an unwanted child into the world when you can't deal with the time, money, stress, and demands it would make on you and your partner. It's natural to be scared, and a supportive partner can only help.

Answer 4

I would tell him about the pregnancy.I do not think
you should be going through this alone.
I think if you don't tell him about it,you will
feel so guilty for not telling him.You could
always do adoption as a method as well.

Answer 5

If you have not told him that you are pregnant, he has the right to know as he is the father. Please do not abort that baby, if you don't want it, adopt it out. Some one will more than gladly take that baby.