what do you do about missing someone who will never come back because they died?

Answer 1

I know what you're going through. My dad died 28 years ago when I was 9, my best friend died 3 1/2 years ago and my mom died 2 1/2 years ago. It's INCREDIBLY PAINFUL but you go on and surround yourself with people who love and care about you. That's what helps me. You cry alot and feel like someone reached inside of you and ripped your heart and guts out but you have to think about how the person that you lost would want you to go on and live a happy and healthy life.

Answer 2

I know it feels like the world around you just keeps going on without your loved one, and it can be really maddening sometimes, because people just get back to work/school/etc, don't want to talk about the person or whatever. Don't be that person. I'm not suggesting that you dwell on it forever, but take time to remember the good things, the bad and the crazy times, and how much fun you had. Make a list of the ways the person influenced your life, and things that you want to do because they inspire you to do them. Then, do those things, be who you are, and celebrate their life and what they gave instead of mourning their loss.

And maybe get together with other people who knew the person on a special day (like the person's birthday) which would normally be a sad event for people, and turn it into a "share ways that this person touched my life in a positive way" party.

Loss is hard, but it's a fact of life, so how you deal with it will make a huge impact on how your life turns out!

Answer 3

You are asking a question as old as time immemorial. There is obviously no simple answer to this question because everyone"departs" in different ways.
There is nothing wrong with missing someone forever. You very might wind up missing more than one person who is dead for a very long time. Simply become a legacy of their spirit,a d live your life to the fullest, and joyfully, just as if they were here.
Nothing you can do can ever bring them back, so the sooner you accept that, the faster you will be able to live a totally fulfilled life, just like you would if they were walking right along side of you.

Answer 4

I understand exactly how you feel. I think of my Mom several times a day - She's been gone for over 15 years. I STILL wish I could see her again!

In all the trials of life, death is probably the most difficult to recover from. I cannot tell you how to prevent the ache of not having them around, I can tell you how I eased it.

Whenever I am reminded of my Mom, I never push the thought away. I relive the memory because that is the only connection I have with her now.

I think of little things like her face, smile, clothing or hair and I feel good to know she was a great person AND my Mom. I speak to her with my thoughts - I tell her I love and miss her and I know wherever she is - she hears me.

Answer 5

I have been trying to do the same. I lost my father 2 years ago in April, happen to be on my 20th birthday that he past away. After that my whole family fell apart. I look at the good side of things, just because they are not here with us in person doesnt mean they dont come around and visit. I dream about my father when I miss him and that just means that he came to visit me. He is my angle and I call on him when I need to. On fathers day, my birthday, and his birthday I just send him a orange balloon with a message to him and thats my way of dealing with it. I not only lost my father but I also lost my family and I do have a hard time sometimes but I get through it and my husband helps me, although I do take it out on him sometimes when I really shouldnt. Time will help but just remember they will never be replaced.

Answer 6

First, I am sorry if you lost someone recently. The best answer is knowing that you will see them again in Heaven. I have lost many people in my family over the years and the only thing that keeps me sane is knowing I will be with them again. Remember the fun times, the happy times and keep this person alive by those thoughts.

Answer 7

Well, one thing you can do is become educated about the grieving process. Be aware that anger, denial, wanting to "bargain" with God, and sadness are all part of the process. Be aware that there is no one way to grieve correctly...some people cry, some people don't, etc. Time is the only thing that can truly heal the wound. But it may help to surround yourself with people who knew and loved the person who passed. Spend time remembering them, laughing together, celebrating their life.

Answer 8

I have being in that road, i know what you mean. I lost some one that was so special to me and i had hard time getting over it. I can tell you what help me. I start taking meditation class like Chi-Kung or know as Thai-Chi. I don't know if you are familiar with eastern medicine it is very helpful. The other thing is don't hold anything, if you feel like crying let it go. In time you will be fine.

Answer 9

Nothing. You keep on living. And laughing and loving. Every once in a while you will cry and still you will keep on living and laughing and loving. You never get over it. But respect the life they had and live yours well. :)
It has been 32 years and I still miss my father like I did when I was 10. God Bless.

Answer 10

I once heard in a movie that the hard part isn't missing that person, it's remembering that person that's difficult. Write your thoughts and feelings down in a journal or diary. Write everything down that you remember about that person and then you will have it the rest of your life to look back on and remember that person with.