If you son or daughter told you he/she was gay...what would you do?

Question

(No, I'm not in this situation...I just want to see how open people are.)

Answer 1

Ask for some fashion advice.

Answer 2

Well...considering that I haven't experienced this, I can really only say that I love my daughter. I know I've done what I can to raise her to be a responsible individual. She's who she is, and I can't change her inner self. She will eventually make decisions based on what she believes is right for herself. She is 12 yrs old now, but there will come a time in the future that she will make life-altering decisions. I have to trust my daughter that she will make the best decisions for herself, and give her the freedom to do so.

If she were to tell me she was gay, then....who am I to say she can't be happy. After all - that's all I want for her, is her happiness, security, and the opportunity to love. Everyone is entitled to those things...no matter the situation.

Answer 3

ok i appreciate all the very tolerant answers and the "i'd just hug them and say its great!" stuff but i dont think thats very realistic. I am a very tolerant person, all for gay rights , and my husband and i have already had this conversation. I love my children, something like this wouldnt affect our relationship, i do beleive being gay is something that you are when you are born. However, as a mother i cant imagine that its easy either. there must be some period of grieving (if you do not know already), for the hopes and dreams you might have had for your child. having said that, i can't imagine NOT knowing if my child was gay.. i would like to think i know my children ...

oh btw people, just because your kids are gay does NOT mean you won't have grandchildren. gay couples adopt or use sperm donors all the time..

Answer 4

I would tell him he done lost his mind and get him help immediately. Of course your son or daughter do not have to tell
you cause being around them, you should have already seen
the signs. Lots of people become gay because there is no
true objections to the wrong of the matter and peers and family
don't try to give that person help. They make comment like it's
okay if that is what they want when all they do is talk and do
nothing about the situation.

Answer 5

Depending on their age I would talk to them about safe sex (as I would for a heterosexual child).

I would hope that if I had children that they would be able to come to me with this at an early age and not wait around until they were 40 or something.

Personally, the ONLY reason why I can understand parents being upset over this issue is if they wanted lots of grandkids or something.

I don't know nor do I understand why parents would be so interested in their childrens sexual life. Seems kind of sick to me, then again I don't have kids nor do I want them.

Answer 6

I would support them. I would be worried for them about how hard of a time they might have, but let them know that with me, they'll never be judged. When you squeeze a human out of your vagina, you pretty much are supposed to love them no matter what. And being gay is nothing to be ashamed or embarassed about. And anyone who thinks differently, I think need to take that step out of the closet themselves.

By The Way: People are being very tolerant. But if someone is to not be for "religious" reasons, the Bible, and the world for that matter, is based on the believe that God is never wrong and never makes mistakes. There fore the way someone is is the way that God made them. If you believe in that.

Answer 7

Not a thing.

I would love her unconditionally, but then I did that before.

Actually, I guess I'd ask a few questions ... presumably if
my kid is telling me this, then it means I didn't know from an
early age, which means that she has been hiding it.
It would make me wonder if she has been injured or
picked on because of this and if she has had problems
because of it.

I would ask.

I would then determine if any additional counceling or
support is needed beyond what she required when
I thought she was heterosexual.

But by-and-large, if she isn't having any problems
being homosexual, then I don't see that much would change.

Answer 8

I would have the child go to a gay therapist to learn how to handle the cruel, mean and vicious comments that will be hurled at them, so they can feel more assured in their gayness.

And that there is always an open bed for them to come home to.

Answer 9

Thank them for being honest and trusting me. I would assure them that my love and support was not based on their heterosexuality and thus will not change at all. I will help them to understand that their sexual preference is not, as yet protected by all forms of government and law and that they will likely receive some form of persecution. I would tell them to keep their head high and continue to treat others with respect and dignity even if others do not return it. I would assure them that one day, all men will truly be treated equal in this great country.

Answer 10

I would thank him/her for trusting me enough to let me know, although I probably would already have a good idea about it.
It would take alot of guts to come out, but knowing the way I raise my kids, they would know I'd be cool with it.
The rules of dating and sex would be the same for straight or gay children.
Now, if he/she told me he was a democrat, well then we'd have an issue!!! HAHA, that's not right.

Answer 11

Accept him, and that's the truth. Sexual orientation does make the person. It's who he is on the inside that would count. My husband, I don't know about. lol He's very openly "anti gay", having been brought up by strict, white collar highly religious miltary parents, but I suspect he'd get over himself after a while.