I'm BEYOND done trying to meet a guy at the bar, and I work a LOT so it's hard to meet people..
2006-07-31 15:06:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good q.
You have to define decent.
Then notice your biases, blond, brown..etc etc.
Pick your wants.
Go out to non threatening places. (not a bar)
or use family references.
Make eye contact.
Flirt.
Learn about him. If he's "hot" but nothing else then move on.
If not, he will ask you or you "suggest" things you like to do.
He WILL ask.
2006-07-31 15:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL, bars and clubs are horrible places to meet decent people, men or women. You could theoretically, but the percentage is very low, and you'd have to meet a lot of crappy ones before finding a good one.
I'd suggest expanding your social circles. Best way to meet people is through friends. Don't meet people to "find a man". Meet people to make friends, and one day you'll find him.
Also pick up hobbies, but not ones you stay at home on your own like stamp collecting or something. More social hobbies. To meet guys I would suggest sports, tennis or whatever. Teams sports are even better. If you go play hockey with the guys, you'll be one of like two girls on the team. Excellent percentage for you.
2006-07-31 15:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Match.com or MySpace.com? There are loads of guys around, it just depends on your definition of 'decent'. A guy with a clean slate can turn out to be a potential murderer, just as much as a twice-divorced guy with a string of affairs might just be decent enough to settle down with. Your right guy will come along when you are ready for one. Meanwhile, go about with your daily routine...God will lead your man to you some day. The whole point about going with your daily routine is important because you'll eventually meet the person who goes to the same places as you do...rather than going out of your way, to a bar where you don't feel comfortable, and meeting people who ARE comfortable there.
2006-07-31 15:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've recently come across the same problem..except in reverse... for women. All the women that catch a guys eye in a bar...are um.... not the "decent" types. It may be the same for women looking at men. I've recently figured out that in order to maximize my efforts, I should be looking for women that want to be found! The internet is the best possible idea, and it seems to bring out some great gals! I've decided that the type of gal I'm going to settle down with wont be hanging out in a bar when I (purely by chance) happen to walk in the door... and then SHE happens to get my attention...and then I (the nervous semi shy dude) happen to get the nerve up to go talk to her....and she for some reason decides to date a guy she met at a bar. I dont think the odds are stacked in my favor. For women... most of you rely on the men to come to you. If you are going to be in a social setting... be confident and ask a guy out. Give him your number without waiting for him to ask you. Otherwise.. I suggest the net. Maybe I'll see ya around?
2006-07-31 15:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Church or other religious affiliation if you have one
By volunteering
Check out singles meets in your area for whats going on
Ask friends for a blind set up
Join a co-ed sport team (for fun)
Join a book club or art class, cooking class etc. Even if you do not meet men, you may meet a friend who knows a friend or at the very least learn and have fun! Good Luck!
2006-07-31 15:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but don't look in churches. For some reason most of the guys that I have encountered in churches have been really perverted (even though some might be nice- its a risk).
Try something that involves something that you are interested in, such as a book club or something.
2006-07-31 15:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by Aurelia KMNO4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not try a book store, like Barnes and Nobles, that way if you strike up a convo, you can go get a cup of coffee right there.
2006-07-31 15:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by bobbr241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are your interests? if you like shopping, perhaps you'll meet someone at the mall. if you like golf, just do that. you're bound to meet someone you find interesting. at least this way you already have something in common.
2006-07-31 15:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by hugmeshootme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try internet cafes. The guys may be nerds, but they treat women right (or at least they would if they ever got any).
2006-07-31 15:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by 2 'til Midnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Internet
2006-07-31 15:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by netnew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋