How come I can never get the girl I want?

Question

I've had some girls over the course of my life, but the handful who have come along who I truely like and want to pursue are just never interested never. I would say that i'm decent looking, not great, but not bad, and i would like to think i have good personality funny charming. After the latest mishap, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that my standards are probably way too high, and the girls I want i'll never get. But I don't want to settle for less cause i dont think ill ever be able to live with myself. I'm almost 21 and have never had any sort of relationship plus as years go by and each dissapointment mounts up I'm becoming more and more bitter and empty. At this point I've pretty much come to accept this as my lot in life. I think I'm just gonna go down to mexico, buy a boat, and chill out eventually. Live out the rest of my life without any love and just drink, sit in the sun, and fish.

Answer 1

The Husband Store
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A store that sells new husbands recently opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance this description of how the store operates.
You may visit the store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends. There is, however, a catch. You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!
So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor she see a sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 - These men all have jobs.
She goes on and at the second floor the sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men all have jobs and love kids.
Proceeding on, she arrives at the third floor the sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men all have jobs, love kids, and are drop-dead good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men all have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it" Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men all have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
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The same company opened a new six-story Wives Store just across the street.
On the first floor the sign reads: Floor 1 - Wives that love sex.
On the second floor the sign reads: Floor 2 - Wives that love sex and have money.
No one knows what the signs say on the third through sixth floors. They have never been visited.

Answer 2

Wow! U R only 21 and U R giving up already? None of us ever find the one we want. The perfect one doesn't exist. Even if U found someone close to being the one, and U tried to make her the one, you would be doing the wrong thing. Sometimes people think they can change someone to meet one's expectations, but that just doesn't work. Your standards should remain high, but you should be willing to compromise on what you expect in a relationship. Never compromise your standards or your principles. Perhaps U are wanting or expecting too much, too soon. I don't recommend that U drink, but U can sit in the sun and fish whereever U are, and with the right one. Just be patient. Keep looking, keep trying.

Answer 3

i'm about to make your dreams come true but you have to listen up and follow my advice. If you THINK you want a particular girl, you should really pursue her...don't be so pushy and lovey dovey but ask her out for something casual, a coffee, and if you are 12 then maybe a vanilla hot fudge sundae. get to know her, find out what she's like...and develop something with her, learn everything about her that you possibly could learn about...try to mimick her style..
and if she keeps pushing you away, that's fine, let her know that you understand she's not interested but ask her what specifically turned her off about you...
give her specific questions..such as what is it my hair? my eyes? my smell? my pushiness? my passiveness? really research what girls that you seem to really like dont like about you....maybe hot girls and superficial girls are girls that you are naturally attracted to, but you have no fancy clothes, no fancy cars, and no muscles...if thats the case you need to start achieving those things, or perhaps girls you like are in love with nerds, and you are just a dumb jock....or vice versa.
so find out about them and in turn you will find out about yourself.
Good luck, and 21 is still a young guy, so dont worry you have lots of time to figure it out, but definitely put in the time and research and you will never be left with the feeling of having to settle.

Answer 4

sooo the drama. you are looking for love to pump you up, love is something you share. look for the love inside, if you're lacking, ask God to put some there. then you will also bring love(not action) to the table. seems to be a better lure than you're using thus far. Fill the "empty" first. works every time.

Answer 5

if what you want is on the outside . The the outside is what you'll get !!!! those "hot" girls pay ALOT of money to look that good . ( i think its a waste of money ) but if thats what you want then you need MONEY to get a girl like that. Btw they wont love you . i f you want real love you need a real girl and real girls are rarely "hot"

Answer 6

Because guys feel protective about their mom's and get offended if you say you've slept with them (which is the whole point of saying it). No one really cares if their dad is sleeping around.

Answer 7

Love is in the air, women just like a piece of chocolate...you don't know what you get....just wait...time will come...seem like you and me in the same boat...I am 50...too old for for love, too late for romantic and no time for game....good luck for you and me too.

Answer 8

first of all maybe those girls who u have liked and havnt liked u that could be good do u kno wat kind of people they are?? they could look beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside! and well u and me have asimilar story i am 15 now gonna be 16 in jan and back lik 1 year ago when i was in middle school every guy i liked NEVER liked me back but now in high school things are weird because almost every guy i start to lik ends up liking me! and its weird because it never used to happen!

Answer 9

you shouldn't be looking for love, let it find you, you don't always get who you want instead you get who wants you. most people feel pretty much the same as you do, they just learn to accept that experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

Answer 10

Have confidence first, then build your body like mine, Treat those ladies with respect and always tell them that they are great and Victoria Secret type. Always compliment them and be a good listener always.