i hate my parents ways!!!!!!! i wanna hear from parents themselves!?

Question

okay..so i'm not just being a typical teenager and saying this but my parents gets on my nerves!!!!!!! all they do is yell, yell, and yell some more..even when i do nothing wrong. if they yelll at me for stuff that makes sense then i wouldn't be complaining but they yelll at me for the most stupidest things ever. for exampel, i NEVER go out..well hardly..i problally go out once a month, to a movie for something...i get yelled at. i go to the mall with my sister ..i get yelled at. it's like they want me to stay in the house all the time. they fking get on my nerves!!! I do nothing wrong..they just always want me home..and who can staly home all the time. I am 18 by the way and i work in an office..and it's reallllllll boring there..so i get home and want to go to the mall with my friends..can i do that? noooooooo...they so cheap they don't want me to go no where ..omggg...i think i will go crazy one day. what should i do? are they the most craziest parents out there?

by the way...i think i am not a bad kid, i try hard in school, i respect their decision of me not moving out (old tradition) don't ask. I help pay for bills, I have the cleaniest room in the house..out of my sisters/brother. I help wherever i can..and all i ask for is a little freedom!!

**** And also they'renot abusive. They just don't know what freedom and fun means. I guess it's cause they never had it in their life or something!

Answer 1

Have you tried to sit both of them down and just discuss your feelings with them. Maybe they need to hear that if you havent. Now that you are 18, your an adult. See if they will just sit down, maybe talk to your mom first. Whoever will be the easiest one to talk to first. I am a parent of a 13 yr old and a 8 yr old. Im just beginning these years. I did however have parents similar to yours. when i was 18, i couldnt be out no later than 10pm. Even when i was on a date. My goodness, she had to be home much later then i did. I couldnt do anything on week nights either. Because on those nights, i had to be home before 9pm. I know what your going thru. If they wont sit down as adults to talk to you, then go with some of the other answers. Save up some money that you make, and see if one of your friends will help you and live in an apartment, you know, split the rent. Then you will get all the freedom you will need. GOODLUCK!!!!!

Answer 2

First off, find out the difference between abusive behavior and nonabusive behavior. If they are yelling at you and criticizing you all the time, that is probably emotional/verbal abuse.

Secondly, get a copy of "Toxic Parents" by Dr. Susan Forward. Also, "Emotional Blackmail" by the same author. Toxic Parents was the book that helped me to finally escape the severe abuse from my own keepers/parents. I was 35 when the abuse finally stopped. This is much too long.

Take the test at http://www.thingsarelookinup.com/Abuse/test.shtml and substitute "parents" for "partner" and you'll get a pretty good picture of their behavior. NO-ONE deserves to be abused.

Answer 3

well I am a parent but my children are still pretty young...young as in my oldest is only 2 years and my youngest is 2 months....anyway...i can't fix your parents and i don't have any tricks to train them so to speak, but you said you are 18 and have a job....why don't you try to grin and bare it a little longer and secretly save money to get an aparment......then just move out! by the way my parents are the same way and i am 20 and have been living on my own from 17.......you don't have any kids so all your money can easily be put to your OWN apartment....com'on say it " MY OWN APARTMENT!" ok well i hope i helped a little if at all......good luck

Answer 4

maybe you should move out and get roommates.

if you're working and living at home, are you paying rent, are you doing laundry, preparing meals, cleaning the bathrooms? what are you doing to contribute to the home and to your community? what are you doing besides taking? (I know nothing about you and am not making any assumptions about the answer to those questions. I just think the answers to those questions will tell you a lot about whether your parents are crazy, mean, righteous, or all three...

Answer 5

are you the middle child? i'am in adult now. But when i was growing up my parents was on to me over nothing. i never got the attention that my brothers did. i'am the middle child. thats why i was asking you. after i got married my mother was still saying things to me. i would cry at times. but you no i never talk back to my parents. but i cryed a lot. my friend they are your parents. some day you will be on your own . and you will think about your life that you had at home, right now i still do. just love your parents.

Answer 6

i do not have children, but i do not have parents either! i miss my mother something terrible. when she was alive, i sometimes had the same feelings and so has most anyone. she died 9 yrs ago and i think about the good and bad times, i would not trade any of them for the world. i need her now, as i have systemic lupus and a rare brain disease called arnold chiari, i will be going in for surgery soon so i need my mother and she is gone. i do pray and try to talk to her, but it is not the same. relax, take things a little easier, because someday things might change and you wont have the chance to gripe to yahoo about things that sometimes can be taken for granted. please let us know how it goes.

Answer 7

You need to find a friend to live with if you are 18. If you can provide for yourself then you should move out. It is your life and you should be happy. You are an adult now and they should treat you like one.

Answer 8

You're of legal age and hate your parents' ways? Move out; get a job; support yourself; find out why they might be stressed out.