I met 41 y/o guy in Aug of '05. We dated thru Dec. of '05. During this time he would call to chat 1-2 times a week, but never formally asked me out on a date. He would just show up where he knew I was going to be and we would go from there. I would see him around during this time, probably once a month, with other women, whom he obviously had asked out on a date. He claims them to be "dance partners", as I don't know how to dance his fancy dances (swing/cha-cha). As soon as he would see me, he would bring his "dance partner" home and come back to where I was. I got fed up with this (the fact he could not ask me out on a real date in 5 months) and told him to get lost (and not in a nice way). Now, out of the blue he is calling again, more than he ever did. He showed up where I was last Saturday, obviously looking for me. Any ideas what might be going through his head? Why is he back? He seems to be kind of relationship "dumb". Does he maybe just not know how to act with women?
2006-07-31 14:32:07 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Imagine being out of teh dating scene for 20 years? think you could get back in easy. Think about the difference between now and then? It's overwelming to be in the dating scene right now, if you haven't stayed up to date. I think he is not only trying, but trying too hard. Good luck. patience is your only friend in that one. good luck!
2006-07-31 14:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mikey B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe.. maybe not. Do you really want to be the one to teach him?. I mean, he is 41 already. You didnt mention this in your question... but it sounds like you probably have had sex with him and he sees you as a sure thing when he is with you. he takes the nice girls home and hunts for you to end his evening. Either way.. sounds like a loser, go with your first instinct and tell him again to get lost. He is NO mister right.
2006-07-31 21:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by batsey99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that he likes you.
The fact that when he sees you he brings the others home and goes back to you means that he possibly prefers you over them. If they are really dance partners then you should confirm it by going with him and watching him dance with them. Be prepared to accept him dancing with other people though!
2006-07-31 21:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋