Can anyone help me?

Question

I don't want to admit this but I'm afraid of leaving the house alone. When I was younger I had no problem. I would leave alone and not even care. Now I'm afraid to even hit the back porch unless no one else is out there. I'm 16 now and I shouldn't be going through this.

I live in a bad neighborhood. Mainly hustlers and people with bad intentions. I've lived in bad neighborhoods all my life but now I don't know why I can't leave the house.

Sorry about putting this Religion & Sprituality.

Answer 1

Sounds like you have... Agoraphobia- Fear of open spaces or of being in crowded, public places like markets. Fear of leaving a safe place. Please see a doctor.

Answer 2

You know, this happens to a lot of people, sometimes when they are going through a lot of stress.

I remember one stressful time in my life where every time I left the house I had to go back--I had so much anxiety about whether I had left the stove on or the iron plugged in. When things stabilized for me, these obsessive compulsive feelings went away.

I think it is a big step that you are admitting the problem today. You might want to find someone else to talk it over with--a counselor, a therapist, a doctor or nurse--a minister or parent or trusted friend.

Sometimes what helps is some therapy and sometimes a few months of medication can be effective as well.

When people get to the point where they cannot leave the house at all, it is called agoraphobia. It sounds like you are not at this point but nevertheless it would be a good idea to get some help with this so you feel better about the situation.

Answer 3

Hi Sweetie - well with the neighborhood you live in and according to one of your other questions you have some goof sending you creapy emails that make threats to you , I can see why 'free' is building up in you.

Block the goofs emails. They are just emails however they are affecting your lifestyle.
Talk to a parent about everything that is going on and how
fear is ruling your life. This is not good for someone so young.
Talk about possibly moving out of your neighborhood. If you are unable to do this...try to do more things with friends indoors to keep your mind off of things. Don't know what state you are from but some states adult age is 17. So, maybe at that time you can find a job and a place of your own or to share with a roommate.

Answer 4

If it's a bad neighborhood it's understandable if you are afraid to go out, especially if something traumatized you as a child or more recently. Best thing you can probably do at this age is set some goals for yourself and work hard for them. Work towards making a good living to support yourself on, save up, and in a few years or so move out on your own and into a safer area. (Also working someplace safe will give you a good escape from the neighborhood while you are working.) Also think about working towards getting good scholarships and things (start now!) so you can get into a good college and out of there, and a good education will hopefully help you stay out. Good luck, stay safe.

Answer 5

Is there a counselor or something you can speak to about this? This happens to alot of people, so you're not alone. Maybe the more you practice going outside on your own, the better you'll get at it? Try not to think too hard when you step outside...don't let bad thoughts get the best of you. Practice with a friend or family member for awhile. And don't be afraid to tell someone you trust and care about that this is happening to you.

Answer 6

If you have lived in bad neighborhoods your entire life you should be able to go outside and be around other people in that type of neighborhood. Since you are having a difficult time, you might want to consider some type of counseling. Your sub conscience might be trying to tell you something or you might have pushed some things to the back of your mind and now they are trying to come out so you can deal with them.

Answer 7

you may be developing a phobia due to the stress you're living in. You might need to see a Dr or counselor to help you get thru this, I know about this because I suffer from it, all my life since I was 11 yrs old when something traumatic happened to me. Your self conscience mind keeps you scared and hyped up you may need meds and relaxation therapy. Meds are the extreme way to go but if you can't leave your porch you may need meds to help with the anxiety you're experiencing. Go to this link and read about and see if it fits you if it does post a question again and I'll give you more feedback on this, you're not alone in this world there are plenty of us out there and plenty of us can help you thru this...take care and God bless

Answer 8

please speak to your school guidance counselor or a trusted teacher. Better yet your family doctor if you have one. If not make an appointment with a family practice doctor. If you have a minister he or she may be helpful also. There are people out here who care about you. I think your neighborhood has caused your fears, and now the fear has taken over. Stay in school, go to college or Jr. college, or technical school----there are ways to go--there are grants and scholarships. Education is your ticket out of the bad neighborhood. All colleges will be glad to talk to you about attending there. Talk to the financial aide office of the college. There are also work-study programs at college. For instance a girl I know worked at the college library to pay for her education.

Answer 9

The bad people in your neighborhood are like teriorists. They win when no one goes outside because of them. Do you know why Missionaries can go to Countries where the Governments want to kill them? They can go because God and his Son,Jesus, are more powerful. With Jesus as your savior you don't fear what man does to you,because being in Heaven where no evil dwells is better than here. You should try to get your neighbors to work at taking back their neighborhood.

Answer 10

Maybe if you could talk to a pastor. Let somebody know.
It could be on a help line. Look in the phone book. Sometimes it is easier to talk to strangers.
Maybe there is a medical clinic you could go to.
God bless you. I wish I could help.
One of my sons is going through a lot of trouble right now. I just got through talking to him, and I am a little upset; but I wanted to try to help you if I could.
Use a telephone or go online if you need information about someone you consider a threat. I read some of your questions.

Answer 11

You shouldn't feel afraid to admit this. Because to you it is REAL. And I can understand your fears. It is very mature of you to admit it. I think what you need to do is talk to a counselor or your pastor. They can probably get you the help you need to overcome this. You have taken the first step by admiting you have this fear...now it's on to the next one!
Good Luck & God Bless!