would you ladies say yes?

Question

my fiancee whom i love dearly is graduating soon. he wants us to get married after he graduate. but there he is a fresh graduate out of college not exactly got a steady job and financially. so any advice out there please. any experienced story? advice?please most appreciated thanks in advance.

if we are married im worried about getting pregnant and not financially and work stable yet. that will lead to more stress. i know we can have protect sex yet u can never be too sure. its not the money. i just not ready to have kids on the not right time yet though with protection which is 99% what happen if i get the 1% instead. can never be too sure.

Answer 1

I would (and I did) say yes. However, in hind sight it would have been better if we had waited until he had a job. I was working and supported us while he looked. The first year of marriage is hard enough without adding more stress like job hunting.

Answer 2

i would wait a while. i mean obviously you guys are serious about this so what is the rush. just let him know that you are not ready for that next step until you are both financially stable and have a secure job. If he loves as much as it seems, which i am pretty sure that he does, then he will completly understand. Thats what i am doing. My fiance wants to get married now, but he is just starting the fire fighter academy. I told him that i want to wait until he is sure that this is what he wants to do and on top of that i have not graduated college yet. After i told him that he completly agreed with me and everything worked out for the best. There is no pressure on either of us to just jump into the next step. So my best advice to you would be just to wait until everything is perfect and set up. Getting married is a bit thing and brings alot of pressure the last thing that you should be worrying about is money. That comes later :). Well good luck and congratulations.

Answer 3

Hang in there things will get better. Just because he doesn't have a job right now doesn't mean he wont get one, and plus he a college grad there are plenty of jobs out there waiting for him. We as women have to learn to stand by our men and help to keep them encouraged, because that's what he is going to need because finding a job, all though there are a lot to be found it's hard getting up every morning to got hunt for one. When me and my now husband, about a year into our relationship decided to move in together, he could not find a job he would get up every morning rain or shine and go look for one. We didn't have a car then so he would walk because he was to proud to take money from me to catch the bus. People looking in would tell me he was no good and that he would never be anything, but I knew different because I saw him leave walking in the pouring down rain and then come home with nothing. So what I did as his woman I got him a job where I was working. He worked hard and within a few months he was team leader and now 4 years later he is an assistant manager making good money. So hang in there things will work out just find. You don't need a lot of money to get married, we got married for under $4000.
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Answer 4

My husband and I got married right out of college.
We've had some very trying financial times and it would have been easier to wait until we had both been working for a little while and saving up.
But on the other hand, we've built things up from the bottom-- together.
I guess it really depends on what you'd rather do. I don't think there is truly a right or wrong answer to this.

Answer 5

Well.. there are some thing's to consider with Marriage.
Perhaps it is better to wait, and see how thing's can go, financial issues can have a heavy burden on newlywed's.
Money can create alot of problems, it's never too much, but always never enough.
If you feel this is the time for you, you can check out your options that won't start off a new life together in debt, but a more less expensive solution.

Answer 6

Getting married is expensive and the last thing you both want to do starting your new life together is being in massive debt. Most men feel better about themselves when they're earning a living and providing for their family. Maybe you can tell him, "I know you love me so much that you want for us to get married right away, but I think we should wait until life settles down first." I moved from Boston to Dallas to be with my then-girlfriend (now wife) and made her wait until I got the job I wanted before I proposed. It was longer than she wanted, but it was definitely better than rushing into something when one of us wasn't ready.

Answer 7

if you are going to wait until you are financially secure before you get married. My advice is don't get married.

He could land a job making 6 figures and have it for a year, or ten years, then get downsized, promoted, laid off or blown up. This is a different world babe, also.....there is NO right time to get married.

Either do it or can it. The future is now.

Answer 8

Are you ready? Do you want a big wedding? Can you survive married, but 'poor'?

My husband and I waited a long time because we both wanted a huge wedding and we wanted a house and to start on kids right away. You need to talk to your fiance...... figure out your concerns, find out why he wants to marry after graduation. plus, resolve problems now. both of you work out a budget for living (not just the wedding). put into writing how your finances will be when married (how much to save, how much to spend, ultimate retirement goals). If you spell it out now, you'll have less arguments later.... I know, it worked for me!

Answer 9

I say you both get jobs. Once you both have decent enough money flow coming in. Try and see if ya'll can live together, and use condoms and spermicides and stuff like that. Now once you see how much you guys are making to finacially support both of you, your car, and your home, see if you can be able to have time and enough energy to afford a child. Because kids really cost alot with dr. appointments and all their diapers and food and stuff. Once you know for sure you can really do all those things successfully without much strain on both of you I say marry that man.

Answer 10

just wait a little bit to see if his graduation will get him a better job. Unless you really love him i wouldn't rush into anything just yet. Wait a couple of years.