Shouldn't I date someone I am happy with? What if I wouldn't be happy with anyone around my age?
2006-07-31 13:47:39 · 32 answers · asked by Cledus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People are stupid when it come to age. It's only a number. What counts is if that person makes you happy. Guys my age are usually dumbasses.
2006-07-31 13:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Aha! I Caught You! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you're happy being with her, but it's also not "natural" in the sense that what sort of real interests do you share? She was born back in 1956 while you were born in 1985.
If she's a baseball fan, she probably remembers the 1986 Mets very well (she was 30) while you were 1 and probably didn't even get off the milk bottle yet.
Does she really enjoy your company from a loving partner sort of way, or is it more a boy toy sort of thing? Also, you're 21 and just starting your life and you can look for your real soul mate. You can keep her as a friend of course, but if you were to advance this further and let's say marry her, are you really going to be able to take care of her in 30 years, when she's 80 and you're 51?
You may then find that you've had a very good 30 years with her but will that be enough for the possible lonely 30 more years you'll have. It doesn't get easier finding a partner as you get older...
Good luck no matter what your choice.
2006-07-31 13:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People may want you to date someone your age because you have a lot of your life ahead of you.
In 19 years, you will be 40. If you're talking long-term attraction, your girlfriend of 50 will be 69. That's just a couple of years past retirement age. I know older people are preserving themselves well these days.
I've heard it said, 50 is the new 30. And now, 60 is the new 40. Then again, for a lot of people age is considered nothing more than a number.
If you plan on having children, there's a higher risk of having children with health problems. Then too, there are May/December couples who have beat the odds.
Not knowing what the odds are, do you want to take such a chance? And if you're in love, nothing anyone says will matter.
So, be happy.
2006-07-31 14:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you be happy if you were having sex with your grandmother's friends or mom's friends? Whom is enjoy this more? My brother date an older lady he was 19 and she was younger than 50--she died and now he is too old to start a new life. Sex makes you happy but dating an old gal is not really enjoy love, try someone closer to your age if you are experimenting well you know where you stand in this relationship. By asking this question you are only trying to get the "go" for it from young people like yourself. Seek someone that you will love and work at developing a solid relationship. Best of love with the right girl not with someones mom or grandma.
2006-07-31 14:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People want you to date a girl your age because that is what USUALLY makes a 21-year-old happy. You should date someone that you are happy with. Take each situation and relationship as it comes and find what works for you.
2006-07-31 13:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by onucoqui2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most ppl suggest you date someone your age because ... you guys will be on the same track and yeah you might be happy with a 50yr old girlfriend.. but i tell you this she wont be able to have kids with you anymore and sooner or later you would want to go to "social places" adequate for your age and parties of your own age and she.. well .. shes gonna feel left out because she had already been thru taht and all more.. i am not saying it is bad to date her.. do whatever makes you happy .. but ppl say that for a reason .. and yeah she might be great person but when it comes for you forming a family i dont think she can give you that unless you really do want to spent all of your life not being a dad and taking care of a women. Think about it twice ...maybe you never did had a mother present and that is what you are looking for in her and she gives you everything that you never had.. before... but that is a different kind of love.. much love and peace out buddy take much care :)
2006-07-31 13:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
50 year olds have very little in common with a 21 year old. You can't do the same things, you can't have the same kind of conversations. The attraction might be there initially, but once you spend a little more time together, or as life goes on, things would change. No one is saying that you need to date another 21 year old, if you like someone a little more mature, than even in the high 20's is ok. Trust me, you do alot of changing in your early 20's...you'll see. (don't you hate it when people say that?)...but it's true.
2006-07-31 13:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Peach Tree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because in the end you'll probably end up happier with someone your own age. And imagine a broken heart when your significant other dies in twenty years and your only forty. But if a fifty year old is what God has for you I can't say that I'll argue, but if not, you know life isn't all about making being happy. Some things are painful before they are happy.
2006-07-31 13:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, through everyone else's eyes this is what they think
1 - What if he wanted to have children? She can't give them to him
2 - What is her children are older than him? Will that cause friction in their relationship
3 - She's old, whats he gonna do when she's 75 and unable to get around as much and he's 45 and still younf
4 - What can they possibly have in common
Truth is, no matter what the age, someone will have something to say about you. That's just life. Look at Jerry Springer and Maury - ppl love to have something to ***** and moan about. So do your thing young man. If that's what makes you happy then do it. No one else have to live in your skin but YOU. In the end we're all on the slow march to death. Take your happiness as it comes to you and start worrying less about what people have to say.
Diva
2006-07-31 13:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by black_bi_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to date the person that you are happy with. Those people that say you should be with someone your own age don't matter. Be happy, do what feels right for you.
2006-07-31 13:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should date who ever you like and are happy with. you are an adult and ultimately it is your choice who you date. I can see your family maybe wanting you to date someone your own age, maybe because your parents want to be grandparents one day and that won't happen with a 50 yr. old women. do what makes you happy. If you are truely happy then everyone around you will except it.
2006-07-31 13:51:30 · answer #11 · answered by irishmomof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋