This Saturday night,my bf ask me to sleep with him in the hotel.Am i suppose to go or not?? What do you think??
2006-07-31 13:28:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot would depend on things like your age. But more importantly, what do YOU think you should do? Do not do anything you are not comfortable with.
2006-07-31 13:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not even sure. Then a safe answer would be "No".
It's normal wanting to be more intimate with the person you dearly love. And it's hard to refuse his advances because you could be totally in love with him & all that.
But are you ready for it? Tell him you love him but you're not ready. If he truly loves you, he'll respect you & wait till you're ready. Share your thoughts, opinions & views. Tell him you're different from the rest. Remember you're special.
You must understand a lady normally will feel more secure having sexual relationship with a man when the relationship is stable (as in a strong marriage).
There's risks involved even if the bf / fiance promised to marry and back out the last minute. If you can handle the risks involved, then it should be okay, no matter what happens. If it takes a long time for you to recover, I strongly suggest you say "No" to him.
Having an intimate relationship means you risk it all for him.
Only say "yes" when...
1. You think he's worth it; and
2. You're totally ready for it; and
3. You're totally prepared of the different outcomes that may happen, be it good or bad;
4. You're equipped with an answer when your prospective husband (as in a different guy from this) asks you why you're not a virgin if it bothers him alot.
OR
1. You don't mind at all and just want to enjoy the ride/fun without attachments/commitment. Less expectation means less disappointment. Less disappointment means less suffering.
ALTERNATIVELY, just try cuddling, heavy petting, HJ, BJ etc to relieve the urges of your passion for each other.
2006-07-31 13:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the time is right then go for it. However, it is a little risque for someone to come straight out and make plans to sleep with someone in a hotel. If I were you I'd have mixed feelings about his suggestion.
2006-07-31 13:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn on your Tv, if the channel is an odd number then no ... if its an even number then yes you should. Or you could just ask yourself... is it worth it? Do the benefits outway the cost? Personally i would go with option 1. Have fun
2006-07-31 13:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by unrealis1mylife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice is yours to make to sleep with him or not !
2006-07-31 13:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a virgin, it depends on whether or not you want to give that up. i dont know what my beliefs on that matter are exactly, im still figuring that out, but you probaly shouldnt unless you love him.
if you arnt a virgin, you probaly shouldnt unless you love him.
2006-07-31 13:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to do it, just make sure that you use any birth contraceptive control.
If you are not sure just don't worry about it, just tell him you are not ready.
Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-31 14:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by inlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him and care about him.the time will come and u will find out
2006-07-31 13:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Rats Rule! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on his intentions. i think no you should not thats if your under 18.
2006-07-31 13:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by rick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on you..but you know the possibility that will happen both of you.
2006-07-31 13:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋