How do i deal with being in a relationship with someone in the military? should i take a chance? NEED ADVICE?
I just started talking to this guy he is a drill instructor for the marines he ask me to call him anytime but he misses my call or when he calls he could only talk for 20 -30 minutes and then go back to work he barely gets a day off sometimes a few hours off I work on the same base with him i see him marching his platoon or running with the recruits so i will see him sometimes i'm not used to this i need some advice on how to handle it i don't want to back out on him but not hearing from him or seeing him drives me crazy it makes me feel like he does'nt care i know it's not his fault and people keep telling me that drill instructors are dogs and they treat their women bad how will i know that he's not trying to take advantage of me?
2006-07-31 13:26:33 · 6 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Believe me, you're definitely not alone in this situation. I'm going through something like this as well, and even though I'm nervous about what may happen, I'm also excited about being with someone who's truly a hero. Like what everyone's said before, drill instructors, and people in the military in general, stay busy and have busy lifestyles. Just because he doesn't talk to you as much as he wants to (and as much as you want him too) doesn't mean that he doesn't care or that he doesn't want to be with you. The way to keep your relationship strong is to always build that trust, and when you do talk, make sure you're laughing and enjoying yourself when you do get a chance to talk to him. If you can, send him letters, or little notes, just to let him know you're thinking of him, even when you're far apart and when you can't talk to each other. It's definitely tough, but if you think it's worth it, then go for it, despite the doubts that people may try to put in your head. Wish you nothing but the best!!!
2006-07-31 16:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kerra L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm the wife of an Army man. An Army Drill Sergeant to be specific. We've been married 18 years, so of course, I think you should take the chance. First let me tell you, if he misses your calls or can't talk long, it's his job. As a Drill, he works all kinds of crazy hours. My hubby had 20 hours awake yesterday and went back in after only 4 hours of sleep. His average day is 15 hours or more. Those are good day. So, you need to learn patience right away. Having a strong woman is half the success of any soldier....or Marine in your case. I'm sure he's not taking advantage of you. Learn to trust him. Should this develop more, trust will be a huge issue. Our soldiers and Marines are deployed alot now days. Trust is one of the only ways to survive it. That and a whole lot of love. Not all Drills are dogs....only the bad ones. My hubby doesn't work with a single dog and I can say that without doubt. They're all good and hard working men. Some just as happily married as we are. Go for it and don't believe all the rumors. Half of them don't know what they're talking about.
Good luck!!
2006-07-31 15:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drill instructors have crappy hours... As long as they have a platoon, they have to be with it and all the recruits. A DI gets little time off. He/She has a job that requires an almost 24 hour a day responsibility and takes most of his/her attention and energy. To try and date a Drill Instructor will be more challenging than trying to get 2 monkeys to perform simple math problems on paper. Ill say one thing it will be extremely challenging at the least and dang near impossible at the worst. Good Luck!!!
2006-07-31 15:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by eldertrouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DI's work CRAZY hours. I couldn't tell you whether he cares or not, but I can say that if he does, he doesn't have much of a chance to show it. His job is EXTREMELY important, and thus takes up almost 100% of his time. He probably needs some reality, something other than work, and that's probably why he's reaching out, wanting a relationship. I could be wrong, but I say give it a chance. I'm in the Navy, and there are a lot of dumb guys in the military, but there are a few decent ones too. Give us a chance. =)
2006-07-31 13:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by hawk22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give it a chance. He has no choice on what his hours that he works are. My husband is in the guard and is deployed for the second time in three years. We hardly ever get to talk on the phone and when we do its very short conversations. If you really like the guy you will be willing to put up with all the crap that comes with dating in the military. I don't know much about DI's but I know that my husband and many of the other guys out there are well worth the crap that we put up with. Try it and if it isn't for you then you always have the option to just explain it to him and get out. Good Luck
2006-07-31 14:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by SSG wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough but if you really like him than go with it. Not all men are dogs, I am married to a military man it has its ups and downs. But if you really like him you can make it work
2006-07-31 14:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by cnkbrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋