I have dated someone for year who tells me he doesn't want a girlfirend. But I am in love with him and keep hoping he will change his mind. Now here are the facts.
1. He calls every day.
2. He doesn't want me to break up with him. He calls incessantly when I have tried.
3. After 10 months, he introduce me to his 14 year old son.
4. He says It is ok for me to date others, but then calls me from a restricted number when he thinks I am out on a date.
Is he sending me mixed signals or does he really not want a girlfriend?
2006-07-31 13:16:23 · 16 answers · asked by Bonnie D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's sending mixed signals and whether he wants a girlfriend isn't the question I'd be asking. I'd be asking if I wanted a boyfriend like that. You know what that answer is. If, by chance (fat chance) he does change his mind and want to get serious and you do get serious and marry him, what do you think your husband will be like?
2006-07-31 13:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say he sending you mixed signals. Him calling everyday would say to me that he wants a relationship. By him not introducing you to his son until 10 months into it sends the opposite message I think. I don't know much about this guy or how much you really love him, but I would say you probably should get out of what ever type of relationship the two of you have.
2006-07-31 13:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by biggin_3382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mixed Signals
2006-07-31 13:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by Brandon... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does want you however, he feels that keeping you at bay will keep you coming around.
I guess he is going by the age old saying women only want you until you want them.
He would be upset if you were with someone else.
he hopes you wont date any one.
He calls because he wants you t oknow he is thinking of you
Sounds like the outer shell of a Lion but the insides of a teddy bear.
He loves you
he has a 14 year old so he has been through love before. he is scared. Bare with him. Then tell him how you feel.
It will change give him a little more time.
It took me the 6th year to actually understand that I wanted to be with the woman I am with now. Of ocurse I needed my daughter back in my life before I did this.
give him time
2006-07-31 13:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by St Guido 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mixed signals. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone like that? Sounds like his real intentions are to be with someone who adores him so he gets the major self esteem boost, but still wants to do as he pleases. Since you're in love with the guy, I would give him an ultimatum: either we're exclusive and we don't see other people or we're not and things are strictly platonic. Good luck.
2006-07-31 13:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess, is that he has had a bad relationship recently (likely a broken marriage). He is protecting himself from that again, if he considers your relationship not to be actually a boyfriend/girlfriend one, then you cannot really break up with him.
Tough call on what you should do, seems like the longer you hang in with him the more at ease he will become, but how long are you willing to wait.
2006-07-31 13:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he wants something serious but his not ready at the moment. I had the same relationship with someone for six yrs (off & on). I finally decided to brake it off and i missed him so i asked him back. Then i realized that i can't keep my hopes up for someone that doesn't respect me enough to be exclusive with me. So i told him i was going out on a date and that from now on i was starting to date and out of respect i wanted him to know. I wasn't lieing i did go on a date but that pushed his button and told me that he wasn't ready for a relantionship but i was the one girl he cared about the most and decided to be my bf. Ask your self this: How long i'am i willing to wait for him to come around? Second, Do i want to continue with a relantionship like this. Third what do i really want out of the relantionship. If you could wait a bite longer then wait,if your not. Don't waist your time with him. He cares about you and won't let you go. Make the decision and i guarantee he will either come around or he will distance himself. Either way you will be doing yourself the favor of finding out sooner then later. Sometimes they don't realize what they have till is gone. Start by not always taking his calls......try to distance yourself first. Is hard to just actually cut them off of your life when you care about them. Best of Luck Friend!
2006-07-31 13:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by dodgergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all guys don't beg sweetie, I don't, that's for damn sure, no easier way for a guy to lose self respect than to chase a woman that obviously wants to be chased. if you chase him, he knows he can have you at any cost or maybe you and your best friend. he is finding your weaknesses, I had a friend when I was growing up hat had a little dog, that little dog would lick your hand when you came in, you thought how great then all the sudden that little dog would bite the shyt out of you, it was looking for your soft spot, a fold of skin it could get it's teeth in, that's what your guy is doing looking for your soft spot before he bites you.
2006-07-31 13:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have dated this dude for a year and he doesn't want a 'girlfriend', then it's time to move on. Don't waste your life sitting there wondering if he ever will want to move to the next level with you. Life is too short.
2006-07-31 13:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by a1quick57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girlfriend said she wasn't looking for anything serious, seven years later we owned a home for four years lived together for five and we are talking about having a baby. hes in denial.
2006-07-31 13:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋