How do you go about a situation where your boyfriend is hanging out with someone you really don't like who always gets in the way of your relationship and gives unwanted advice (he's really mean and makes rude comments about me to my boyfriend) my boyfriend tells me that he's just joking but It's really not funny to me. I think this kid is just bad news and he's known to be a backstabber so I really would rather he not hang out with him. I just don't know what to do! this guy talked my boyfriend into breaking up with me a few weeks ago when we were having problems (we went to therapy and have been doing so much better since) I just wonder how you act mature in this situation? I try to play it off like it doesn't bother me but I get really awkward when he brings him up. I just don't want him to get hurt and I know he will be if he keeps hanging out with his "so-called" friend.
2006-07-31 13:16:01 · 8 answers · asked by Doreen S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, lately he has been trying to hide the fact that he's been hanging out with him because he knows how much it bothers me and I really rather he not lie and avoid the situation.
2006-07-31 13:17:48 · update #1
I never said anything mean about his friend and he isn't even a close friend. My boyfriend is just so used to having all of his friends use him and leave him and I'm trying to watch his back. I know that "Bro's before ho's" saying but It's really different between us. He appreciates me because his friends have screwed him over and hurt him so much and I'm the one that is always there for him. This guy is known for being a huge backstabber and just mean person and I know that it's only a matter of time before he hurts my boyfriend and that's why I'm making such a big deal about it. Stop saying that "friends before girls" crap because in certain cases It's simply not true. Just because you have "Frat boy" mentality and think that it's cool to put your guy friends before your partner doesn't mean your right.
2006-07-31 13:39:36 · update #2
Mmm. This is a tough situation to be in for you and your boyfriend. It's tough for your boyfriend because he feels like he has to choose between you and this friend and "hiding" things in a relationship is never good. 1st I will tell the boyfriend not to share any of you all business with his friend. That is one of the worst things a person(s) can do is to have a 3rd party in their business. Normally when this happens, the relationship takes a nose dive. It appears that he's no good if he talked your boyfriend into breaking up with you (and that should tell you alot about your boyfriend since he took his advise). To be honest, if I was in this situation, I will just let the boyfriend see what kind of friend he has on his own. Sometimes, when people have so much trust in a person, it's hard to get them to see exactly how a person is. So, in this case, your boyfriend will have to learn about his friend's "backstabbing" ways on his own. Hopefully, he learns soon and you all will be able to have a better relationship.
2006-07-31 13:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the Friend feels the same way about you. Your mean to him and make rude comments to your boyfriend about him. You get in the way of his friendship. Girls come and go, but Friends are forever.
So turn it around on you. would you be OK with your boyfriend saying 'you can't see person X' or anything like that? could he say 'person x' is getting in the way, and you'd drop them. I think not.......
So you should just ignore it. Why do you care what someone else says.
2006-07-31 20:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u know the reason why he dislike u so much?this guy is acting like a little bixch,n believe me,ur bf is not going to stop hanging out with him unless he does something to ur bf that ur bf couldn't stand,i think u should first find out the reason why that guy dislikes u so much,then try to solve it out fm there.guys r different than gals,gals can forget everyone around them once they r in a relationship,but guys can't,they still need their "so called buddies",that's how most of the guys r.If u luv ur bf, trust him,believe in him that no matter wha da buddy says or does,he's not gonna leave u,because u guys luv each other.like u mentioned,ur bf might learn his lesson fm hangin out with him thas when ur bf will kno ur the 1 that's been always there for him
2006-07-31 20:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take this as a challenge on your relationship.. i know its hard but dont let him make you crazy coz his gonna be happy when he found out... just play cool.. love your guy and he can see it if the guys worth to listen to or not.. if your going to push your guy away from that crazy backstabber he might think his friend is right coz what are you so afraid of?!! he will have a second thought of you.. just ignore the guy and be the best girlfriend that you can be!!! goodluck!!!
2006-07-31 20:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by maria07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. Except this was another girl that he ws hanging out with. NOT a good situation. I found out soon after that he ws cheating on me. So,......just do what feels right to you. If it doesn't feel right, get out while you can.
2006-07-31 20:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by sisterof_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psht tell that dude off and if ur bf has a problem with it thats just weird OR talk to that dude OR ruin his relationships :D i would go for that 1 all the time
2006-07-31 20:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him it him or u one of us have to go make im think about it theres guys out there that would love to treat u like a queen try it u mite like it
2006-07-31 20:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm available send me anIM and we'll talk
2006-07-31 20:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋