I met this guy online and we've been on 3 dates. The last date was hanging out a his house and things got a little steamy and we did some on top of the clothes action. When we talked the other night (3 days after), he seemed distant and stuck with one word answers and was very silent. He doesnt seem to anxious to see me again, am I being paranoid or is he trying to send a message? Should i let him make the next move?
2006-07-31 13:00:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
things would have gone farther I think that night, but he said he didnt have protection.
2006-07-31 13:06:24 · update #1
guys do it all the time. its natural. you need to read the book 'mars and venus on a date'....phase one is attraction, they come on really strong...phase two is uncertainty, they pull back...what you are to do as a female is let them pull back and give them their space...if he does come back, do not ask questions, do not talk about the relationship and do not interrogate him about where he has been...if he feels like he can come back freely, without pressure, he is likely to spring back time after time during this phase while he is distant!
2006-07-31 13:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by wysiwyg_f_40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is sending you a message to not bother him. It is too bad that you let that happenned but you learn. Do not worry there is another more fishes out there to catch and this time you may find a keeper.
Let him make the next move. Ignore him and if he does not come back to you then you learn the type of a person he is. Next time do not get into that position again, and make sure use protective thingy since AIDS is rampant and herpes.
2006-07-31 20:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in touch to let him know you're still alive, but let him make the next move. When I was dating that happened once. I didn't think about it too seriously at first but when things steamed up I started thinking about whether I really wanted to be with her.
Meanwhile, if you're friendly and not pushy he might decide he wants you after all. Or maybe he was just not feeling well the other day. So just be friendly and meet other people in the meantime. There are other guys out there who are just as good for you as he is.
2006-07-31 20:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mister Cruddo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this guy just wanted some & is done w/ you. Or maybe something else is going on in his life right now. Just dont over analyze things...thats the worse thing you can do. Just ask him what's going on & if you dont want to do that then stop calling and wait for him to make the next move and if he never calls you back then it wasnt meant to be.
2006-07-31 20:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make the next move.
I hate to say this, but some guys have a "three date" rule. If they don't get sex by then, they are gone. Maybe they are gone if they get it too. I don't know the guy. But women should be aware of this. there are jerks out there.
2006-07-31 20:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make the next move and see what happens. He may just need his space.
2006-07-31 20:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by onucoqui2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, you don't do it for him and he was trying to use you for sex and when you did not "put out"........he's gone!!! I suggest that you had better clean up your act, sweetie and stop acting like a whore. He is sending you a BIG message......and that message is.....he does not want you. And think about this.....what kind of a guy is he anyway with his behavior. Stop acting stupid!
2006-07-31 20:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey no he is just mad that he didnt get to hit it i'm just keeping it real he wanted sex and thought you would be an easy score and saw that you were not and now he doesnt want to mess with you so kick his A** to the curb ...
2006-07-31 20:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by ree_reese_reesebaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have had someone else at his place. Men are known for dating more then one girl at a time.
2006-07-31 20:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by latina21_01ucf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make the next move, maybe he's using you.
2006-07-31 20:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by xoxo§kailey§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋