I am a single mom. My son is five years old.. since I got separated my mom stopped helping me since she thinks that her support encourages me to go for divorce(she wants me to go back to my husband). I go to work everyday and when i come back I pick up my son from school and i go home. On weekends I am with my son. I am not alone by myself and I have no chance of meeting other people. I have neither money to hire a babysitter not I can trust anybody.. What should I do? I feel so depressed..
2006-07-31 12:55:55 · 13 answers · asked by chinchin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try yahoo personals. i was in your shoes last year and found my now husband on the internet. just be careful who you give your number to chat online for awhile first.
2006-07-31 13:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something that goes with the territory when you've decided to become a single parent. Your primary concern is being a good parent. So, when you've mastered that & you really want to get out and date again, you will find a way. If you're not even divorced yet, why are you concerned about meeting someone already?? Just take care of your son, and make him your priority. I don't know if anyone told you, but once you have kids, it's not about you anymore. Accept that.
(And, yes I am a divorcee with children. I do have a boyfriend now, but I definately did not become depressed about the time that went by until I had one. I had children to take care of.)
2006-07-31 20:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so down on yourself. Stop thinking about a man you haven't met yet and think about the one you have already. That five could turn out to be the best fun you've had in a long time. I am a single mother also and me and my children go to the movies, mall, zoo, live theater, chuck e cheese, fun zone, go karts, mini-golf. You never know where you might meet that special someone maybe while you and your son are out. I have met men like that and it is actually better that way because they know that your son is a big part of you life ahead of time and they know what they are getting into.
2006-07-31 20:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by el68niou1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good idea not to trust anyone with your precious son.
Try and get out with your son during the day..you can still meet people that way. Join your son in activity groups - I did with my children and made so many friends that way!.
Also perhaps you can give it some time and then your mum and everything else around you will change...which It Will!! without a doubt.
What you mustn't do at this moment is Panic. You need time with yourself and your son...time for things to settle down and then you can start to think about going out in the evening.
Take one day at a time and Good Luck!
2006-07-31 20:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by Surething 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church and get involved in their activities. Usually they will provide a nursery or childcare for the parents - so this is one way to get help with your son, and to get help with your needs.
Start a play group with other single parents, and take turns watching each other kids so that everyone gets some adult time.
Most of all - hang in there - soon enough your child will be older, and you will have your time then.
2006-07-31 20:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Karla R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ddont egsacaly have a great life eather im 13 i live with my mom most of the time but i could live with my dad and he has a lota money and my mom usually has none but i stay with her to help her with my lil bro and just help her. shes gettin a job and were doing a lot better. about the baby sitting im sure u will b able t find some one to do it for free untill u get on ur feet.
2006-07-31 20:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♠missthang♠14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on why you are so compelled to get a divorce, so you can enjoy your freedom to bring yet another child into the world, that you don't have the ability to care for. it is usually the women that enjoyed the security of a mother/father homelife that are so insensitive to their childs situation. why bother meeting someone? if you have learned nothing from your past, you will just replicate it. too much info left out.
2006-07-31 20:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what your doing, a night pray and just know that better days are coming, I'm single with two kids, and it is never easy, but in time things will change. And as for your mother, if she loves you, she will be by your side no matter what.
2006-07-31 20:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by J J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to divorce your hubby, get away from your mom, and get a job. Welfare can help you with childcare while you train for a new job. Look into it hun.
2006-07-31 20:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit a singles ad.
2006-07-31 20:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by jason m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋