Well my boyfriend and I were the best of friends but he broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. I have moved on and found a new guy but my ex still calls and we always talk like normal. Is that weird. My new guy says he is fine with it but I still fill like I am doing something wrong. Am I?
2006-07-31 12:55:24 · 21 answers · asked by ginny M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing wrong with being friends as long as he is not getting in the way of the new relationship. When he starts doing that you better put him in his place or you will be trying to manage 2 men and hun who can Handel that!?
2006-07-31 13:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by fancy_sweet_heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can happen in your situation is that you and your ex boyfriend can make back and the new boyfriend is left in the cold. This will be unfair to him and you have to come clean as to were you two stand.
The fact that you two are talking, it is not impossible for you two to make back as i gather it was not any thing bad that cause you two to break up in the first place ?.
Put your self in your new boyfriend's place. If he broke up with an ex girlfriend and you were the (new girlfriend )and knew that the ex girlfriend was calling him and talking as normal.
Would you feel comfortable with this and not have some reservation of some thing happening, or can happen ?. Even people that are divorce make up and some of them even get married again.
Let your conscience be your guide, as to if you are wrong towards him by being so close to your ex. i don't know the history between you two as to what he did for you in the past and may be in the future.
Since it has only being and I'm quoting you here ( a couple of weeks) since you and your ex broke up and you are talking to him. It Would have been wise to reconcile your differences as to make up.
Than for you to bring some one new into your life and you are chatting with your ex as normal ????????
2006-07-31 13:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not doing anything wrong. About 8 years ago I broke up with a girl that I had gone out with for about a year, and we are still really good friends today. Her boyfriend now is totally fine with our relationship because he knows there will never be anything between her and I again. You aren't doing anything wrong.
2006-07-31 13:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by biggin_3382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your conscience is bothering you, maybe you are. I'm sure there are still some mixed feelings in there somewhere and the best way to end it is just to stop talking for a while. Remember you say you've moved on. You must take a stand and prove what you are saying. And also, if he doesn't have anyone else
then its not fare to him either.
2006-07-31 13:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by EVEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 05:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going from one guy to the next....you're not a bee. Take a break between boyfriends to let things settle down and clear the air. They're running on top of each other and making things messy.
2006-07-31 13:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no nothings wrong with that, especially if you new man has no problem with it"better make sure that's true "your lucky any chance my boyfriend found out i was still talking to my ex, he would have hunt him down and killed him all ready....lol, but make sure you know the difference between a relationship with a friend and a boyfriend.
2006-07-31 13:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by FlAwL3ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on what you and your ex talk about? if its just normal friend talk then there shouldnt be a problem, but if you feel like your new guy is feeling a lil down about it, include him in on what you and your ex talk about...dont ever try and hide anything from him, b/c then you will become labeled
2006-07-31 12:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Limit the phone calls and work them down to "0". Your new guy may say he is fine with it, but he's not.
2006-07-31 12:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by a1quick57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when a couple breaks up they can still be friends but its kinda hard at the same time.
2006-07-31 12:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋