my gf wants me to meet her folks and i really dont want too.
she said that since shes meet my lil sister and my best friend that i have to meet her parents.
i told her i wouldnt meet her parents unless she met mine. i didnt think she would agree to it but she did i really dont want her to meet my parents she's all happy and says that she wants to see my baby pics but i havnt told her that my brothers have them and that im adopted.
wat should i do ?
2006-07-31 12:52:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do like her but im afriad of what her parents might say
2006-07-31 12:53:28 · update #1
just tell her that your not ready for something like that at this time and it makes you feel really uncomfortable- if she dosent understand then oh well at least you told her-
2006-07-31 12:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by sexysnowboarder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth and that you are afraid to meet them. There is no shame in being adopted, they are the folks that love you. So long as you have someone to love you that is all that matters. Anyway if you ask her to let you wait until you are ready to meet them. Explain why you are having a problem with it and she will like you all the more. We all get exicted and she must like you alot to want to bring you home to meet them. But if she can be patient you will make a better impression on them. It will cause problems if you don't deal with it though. Face your fears you will be surprised how things turn out for you. If they don't like you that would be thier problem. Tip. Wear regular clothes and clean your shoes, not those huge pants with your butt hanging out. Parents don't like that.
2006-07-31 20:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry so much about it it must mean alot to her for her to ask u and mabe u should tell her u are adopted u know it may seem hard and strange to u but it's really a way of life now i have a friend thats adopted and was afraid to tell ppl but eventually she did and it made her feel better cause she had ppl to talk to about it and the excepted her if ur girl friend really cares about u she will understand if u come clean with the whole situation
GOOD LUCK and if u need someone there is always someone there!
2006-07-31 19:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ace c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what is the big deal about meeting her parents? If you plan to be wit her then you are going to have to meet them eventually. Go ahead and meet her parents and take her to meet you parents. You can tell her you are adopted if the subject about baby pics comes up
2006-07-31 19:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. Tell her how uncomfortable you are with meeting her parents and why.
A girl bringing you to her parents is a big thing. You can't screw it up by being stubborn or disagreeable.
You'll be fine so long as you're yourself. And your girlfriend will not care if you are adopted or not. It's okay.
Take care!
2006-07-31 19:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by flod_prfekshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jon, being adopted isn't something to be ashamed of. No one in the right mind would ever hold that against you. In actuality it tends to show you were raised in a healthier environment...Anyone can have a baby, not everyone can adopt. Be honest with her, no relationship will last without honesty. Good Luck!!
2006-07-31 20:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mercedes_82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are adopted, so what. Let her meet them. What harm is it for her to meet the people you live with?
Take a deep breath and relax.
2006-07-31 20:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire your courage... and I wish I could tell you I understand everything your going through... but I'm not going to lie to you. Just ask yourself, do you love this girl? If you find yourself saying yes, does she love you? If she does, you have nothing to worry about. Love conquers all comrade, God speed and good luck in whatever you choose to do!
2006-07-31 20:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kamikaze Paintballer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you ashamed that your adopted? im adopted and its nothing to hide...just explain to her that you were adopted and be upfront and honest with her, your parents are your parents..even if its not by blood...they still love you like any parents do.
2006-07-31 20:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are ever planning to have any kind of future with this grl you will have to meet her family. tell her you were adopted.
2006-07-31 19:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋