im real depressed and i have no reason to live. what will truly help?? please only answer if you understand?

Question

im depressed and i never got any professional help (counseling) i had a friend who went to counseling and it barely helped. the drugs barely helped either, so why would it work on me?? i have no reason to live. and i wish i did because i was so happy before. i just feel like theres no reason to be here. im a waste of space litterally. and when im having a good time its ruined somehow and im always left thinking at the end of the day, 'why do i even try to stay happy cause it just never lasts'... yes, well i want to know if theres any people who were once like me and got help somehow that turned things around. does counseling really make a difference???does prozac and all that other sh** work???what else would change my look on things??? please answer this however you can. i need to know from someone who once expierenced this, what truly works.

Answer 1

Try Zanax. It seems to make you not dwell on the negatives as much.

Answer 2

hey~ it sounds like you do need to get into some counseling. just because it did/didn't work for your friend, doesn't mean that it won't work for you.
the fact that you are asking for help says that there is a reason for you to be here... let me point a couple things out to you: your friend went to counseling and it barely helped (but it DID help).
there is "no reason for you to live", (but you wish there was). a very positive statement if you really look at it.
counseling is the best thing because, some-times it just helps to talk to someone.
anyone.
i know there have been times when i have been upset about whatever, and talking to someone, hearing my own voice, i could feel the pieces just kind of "pop" into place.
medication can be helpful because it replaces ~or stimulates the production of~ whatever chemicals our brain (for whatever reason) isn't making enough of.
but counseling and medication together at the same time is a really good thing.
i have felt like you describe and i know it is nothing nice...
i described myself for years as "beYoND sUIcIdE" because i didn't make it when i tried the suicide route, (& i really tried~several times) but that isn't part of the plan that whoever our higher power is, has for me.
things will get better they always do; not to sound too cliche`~but i actually believe they will.
i don't know how old you are, but i'm guessing that you are probably still pretty young. you have got your whole life ahead of you; go get some help and then THINGS WILL GET BETTER! i know they will.

Answer 3

Yes, I know how you feel. I have also taken the attitude not to look forward to anything because happiness doesn't last. I have also found out that You cannot depend on other people to make you happy. You have to be happy within yourself. You sound like you might be bi-polar although I am not a doctor. Surround yourself with positive people. Negative people and situations will NOT help you right now. I exercise, which really helps me a lot. I got a gym membership real cheap. If you can't go to the gym, exercise at home. You will feel better about yourself by doing this. Please, either go to your regular doctor or a mental health professional to see what else needs to be done. I have carried a lot of baggage with me, (old hurts and abuse I'm sure you know what I mean). They will show you how to let that stuff go. I am LIVING proof that this does work.

Answer 4

Unless there is a chemical imbalance (which can be caused by the way you think) meds will only reduce the symptom... doesn't do anything for the causitive factor.. Unless the counselor is able to remove that Trigger from your subconscious mind, you will not receive the help you desire. Few know how to accomplish this feat.

There is some trigger held within your mind that stems from some time ago. It is an emotional state that has been stored in the depths of you mind.. It apparently allows you to keep your mind active in the negative direction and on you.. Eliminate the trigger and you should be able to recover well.

Answer 5

Yes, I understand. I am just now starting to recover from a depression that has been plaguing me for most of this year.

One of the requirements for healing depression is simply time. You won't be able to take a pill or spend one hour in a therapist's office and then feel fine the next day. You need to think of it like a broken leg or any other medical problem that just takes some time to heal, no matter what you do.

There are a couple of natural dietary supplements that you can buy over the counter which I found to be extremely helpful. One is called 5-HTP, and the other is called Sam-E. I found Sam-E, in particular, to be miraculously helpful for me. Prescription medications may help also; I've taken one called Luvox, and also Xanax, and found them effective in the long term. Whatever you try, only take one medication at a time unless your doctor suggests otherwise. I've mainly relied on Sam-E. It makes me feel better almost immediately, however the depression does come back when the pill wears off, so you have to keep taking it. That's where the element of time comes in. I am now at a point where I don't need to take the pills anymore, but it took me months to get there.

Therapy can be helpful. Depression can be a matter of chemistry and genetics, and sometimes it hits people for no apparent reason, but often we have personal issues that contribute to it, feelings of regret about choices we've made, dissatisfaction with how our lives have turned out, anxiety about the future, and a therapist can help you identify these issues and reprogram your thinking. The most essential requirement for getting effective therapy is a willingness to be completely honest in the sessions. If you hold things back, you won't get as much out of it. And again, it does take time. There are no overnight cures. A good starting point towards therapy is to call your local crisis hotline. That will give you someone to talk to in the short term, and they can probably refer you to available therapists.

Look for new things to do. Visit a local landmark you've never gone to before, go to a zoo, take a class at the community center, try a new book or magazine, go to a gym, take a weekend trip. Look for ways to break away from your routine, no matter how small. Seeing, doing, or learning something new will stimulate your mind and lead you out of depression.

Look for ways to help others. Buy a gift for a friend, help your mom paint her house, make a donation to charity, answer people's questions on Yahoo Answers, or volunteer somewhere. Helping another person in even the smallest way can make a huge difference in how you feel about yourself.

Getting over depression is a bit like getting over a broken heart. You try to go on with your life as best you can, despite feeling miserable. It seems like the pain will never go away. And then, at some point, something shifts. You usually don't notice exactly when it happens, you just realize that you don't feel so bad anymore, you have a sense of hope and interest in life again, and you're not sure where it came from.

You can remember being happy before. Trust me, that feeling will come back, and the pain you're feeling now will be a faint memory. It will take time, and you may need dietary supplements, medication, and therapy to help you until you get there, but you will get there.

Answer 6

Yes my friend I have been in that same dark place you are in right now. The idea of suicide is only an idea because you don't think there is anyway out. Counseling does work because they guide you through your pain to discover why it is really there. I will be as honest and frnk as those whom I needed were to me. Healing is not a quick fix, Your pain did not come all at once, as you will soon discover. Meds will help you maintain stability as you journey out of you dark place. I hated meds also. But I had a counselor follow the rules they are given and threaten to institue me if I did not get some meds. I did. after several months I came through my darkness. One more thing. I must tell you, I prayed to Jesaus Christ to help. He did, by giving me the strength day to day to fight.
1st get help now, call a crisis line, now, second call someone you know, anyone and tell them this same thing. 3rd Never stop seraching for the answers. Each minute you fight, you live, the search for knowledge endured me.

Answer 7

I've been scanning over some of the responses this question has yielded thus far, and I must say I agree with most of them as far as prospective drug usage goes. I've never undergone therapy myself either, though I do consider myself depressed-albeit not "clinically" so. In all honesty, however, if ever I should seek treatment I'd much prefer if it didn't involve prescription medicine of the Prozac persuasion. While it may provide short-lived relief, it's likely to hinder your recovery in the long run. In the meantime, alter your outlook by basically doing whatever you feel makes you happiest.

Answer 8

Being depressed and full of anxiety is REAL, and not just in your head. Until you accept depression as a disease and seek out professional help no amount of good will answers will be of help. You have a sickness unlike no other just as if you had diabetes or heart problems. One of your earlier answers offered you was some great advice in the article found in the Whatchtower from the Jehovah's witnesses. I am a Witness and depressed I know I have a disease and can not make it go away just because I want it to, you need medical help along with faith in God to help.

Answer 9

If you want to get better and not be depressed go talk it over with some one. But if you are thinking about committing suicide I hope you know its not going to make you get any where in life cause I tried and I got help but it takes a long time but any way. Depression is like a chemical illness in your brain and some times you can't control what your thoughts are so you end up thinking about death and stuff. But If I were you I would try to talk it over but if you want to take medicine go a head I guess but you want to make sure just in case because you never know it might help you get some where in the world.

Answer 10

I know what your going through somedays are worse than others. You need to reach out and seek help from your family, friends and your doctor. If need to be get yourself to the nearest hospital. Regaring medication everyone is different it took yrs. to find out which was best for me. Some drugs take time as well as therapy. I find working part time helps as well as eating healthy (I'm trying to though) and having a good connection with family and friends can help too! Don't beat yourself so much and learn to care and love yourself in a more positive way. All the best.

Answer 11

Counseling can help. espically group sessions . You then realize there are other people who have worse problems than you. It helps to be able to talk i n group because they never put you down and will be there for support. And pleas don't be scared to say what you think and how you feel. You need to find something positive to focus on. I always thought of my family , children. Depression does come and go but you have to try find a way to deal with it. it is hard but you can make it. Just get help.