my gf wants me to meet her folks and i really dont want too.
she said that since shes meet my lil sister and my best friend that i have to meet her parents.
i told her i wouldnt meet her parents unless she met mine. i didnt think she would agree to it but she did i really dont want her to meet my parents she's all happy and says that she wants to see my baby pics but i havnt told her that my brothers have them and that im adopted.
2006-07-31 12:32:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wat should i do ?
2006-07-31 12:32:42 · update #1
Sorry to say, pal, that you and she are not on the same page!!! Meeting the parents is a big step.....she is thinking permanent! If I were you, I would tell her that you two and not on the same wave length and need to go your separate ways. If you don't want to meet her parents then that is on you and you must have your reasons. So, you are adopted.......sounds like an excuse to me.
2006-07-31 12:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems that the real issue here is that you have a complex about the fact that you have been adopted. You need to get over that fast because you are planning to lie to conceal the issue. That is not a good start for a relationship. Since you started off on the wrong foot, make it right immediately. Either she accepts you with the truth or she doesn't. At least let the truth prevail. Hope that she does. If she doesn't then you have to blame your self for not being honest in the first place. Do not delay because the worst thing that can happen is for her to find out that you are a serial liar. So get it right as soon as possible.
Boaz
2006-07-31 19:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Boaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen...if you are having a formal relationship you should be honest with her. Being adopted is a great thing...just remember that your parents choose you to be their child...it a great love act so dont be ashamed of telling your gf that. If you think the relationship is kinds new...then try to make her wait and just tell her that you want to let time pass and be sure about her
2006-07-31 19:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. Meeting the parents doesn't mean anything bad. Your issues are with commitments, giving them and accepting them. Tell her about the adoption, about how you need to move slowly because you have trust issues when it comes to commitments - this way she may be more helpful to you when you do meet the parents, she may help to make sure that it's not too heavy. You just need to take it in "bite-sizes".
2006-07-31 19:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this girl then just meet her parents. I mean whats the worse that can happen. Just shake her dad's hand, tell her mom how great of a cook or w*e she is & laugh at all the jokes even if they are stupid. It'll only be for a few hours so suck it up and do it.
2006-07-31 19:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're adopted. There's nothing wrong with that and you shouldn't be ashamed. Also, don't be so afraid to meet her parents. Chances are that they will be great people. Just be yourself, there's nothing to worry about.
2006-07-31 19:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to meet them then don't. Seems like your not as interested in this girl as she is you. Be honest with her,
2006-07-31 19:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a relationship with her...meet her parents and introduce her to yours. Why don't you want too?
2006-07-31 19:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her immediately. Suck it up and meet her parents -- it's only one night. And learn to use proper grammar.
2006-07-31 19:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by petlover948 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well be honest and tell her it's not time. If she insist and you think she's the one than make and effort and be honest with her.
2006-07-31 19:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Lucia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋