will I always have big problems with my family, out of me and my sister its always me that they always yell at or its me that always gets into trouble,I really hate it here,I was thinking that maybe they even hate me to,I really feel like I kinda hate them all ,so I was thinking that I don't want to be here any more,I want to meet new people i want a new life a want a new me,what do you think? should I move away to another state after I Finish high school.
2006-07-31 12:23:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
finish school, you will have a better shot at not having to move back home.
2006-07-31 12:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running away never solved anything. At least you aregoing to finish high school,thats a good thing. Sometimes the best thing to do is face your problems head on and work them out. You dont say if you are the oldest, but from what I read Id say yes. Most parents take things out on the oldest child first because you will be the first to leave home and want you to be the best they can pray for and well prepared for the real world. Sometimes tough love is the hardest love a parent can show a child. Also parents are under extreme pressure nowadays, with providing you and your sister the best life style possible, but bills, food on the table, work pressures, etc take their toll on adults and then you add on home challenges and it takes adults sometimes to the edge, so unfortunately they take it out on the easiest one around and that is usually the children. Parents also say things that they really dont mean and later regret, but do so without thinking first. Alot of adults do this. Dont ever think your parents hate you because of taking daily pressures out on you, They may also be hiding the fact that they are scared of the upcoming day when you will leave home. Parents have so many questions that day like did they teach you to be the most loving, responsible, caring , etc adult woman they could. So, see its not easy at all being a parent with teenagers,so they holler sometimes with good intentions tah they hope you will carry on to your kids. So enjoy your life at home because it comes to an end all too fast. Rmember is not having what you want but wanting what you have. Good luck
2006-07-31 19:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a teenager (I assume) and this is not unusual for someone your age. Definitely finish school and if you can try to remember that this will change as you get older. Parents have a lot to cope with and i you get angry instead of being loving it only makes it worse for everyone - you included. Moving out when you are so young is not easy and it could be a big mistake. We must all think o what the other person is going through before rushing to judge. Be patient - be reasonable. Good luck.
2006-07-31 19:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by pieter U3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always felt the same way too. I'm 18 and the middle child. I hated living at home with my mom because it was always hell I never did anything right. Right after I graduated I moved 4 hours away from here, and now our relationship is a lot better. I wouldn't advise you to move to another state, but move a few hours away from your family.
2006-07-31 19:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by chschica2oo6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of family problems too and i am moving out with my friends real soon once i hit 18, u're not alone.. just live on with the life u have now and start a new one at 18 after high skool
2006-07-31 19:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is family you can chose them thats why we get stuck with them wether you like them or not. If you do have that option to move away after high school then I think that would be a great move. Maybe thats all thats needed to bring you and your family closer, a lil distance. I have heard that absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-07-31 19:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sketch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are the same way. Are you the eldest? Try ignoring them and also avoiding them. I often do that and trust me they will leave you alone. If you decide to move away after high school then it's your decision but make sure you have a job and a place to stay cause life is ruff.
2006-07-31 19:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lucia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think exactly the way that you are thinking right now when I was your age (10 years ago). If you ask me what I think now of they way it was back then with my parents, I'll say the following: They were right, I was wrong, not on everything but they have always wanted the best for me. I'm not being ironic, I'm being honest. When we're at that age we think the whole world is against us but is just us seeing everything so difficult...
2006-07-31 19:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Yes_It's_Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning to go to school there, it's a great idea. I know my parents and I started getting along much better after I moved out. It took away all the "you didn't take the garbage out/call us/wash your dish etc." garbage and then we just started talking about things like normal people.
2006-07-31 19:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Miro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get out of high school if you're 18 and you can afford it you can do anything you want. But you really can't run away from your problems.....they tend to follow you wherever you go.
2006-07-31 19:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im having problems with my family too..& im going to be senior in september..but we can't move away..how can we possibly?? we don't have money to live in a home, buy clothes, or food.
moving away not an option..unless a relative will take you..in my case no :(
2006-07-31 19:29:40 · answer #11 · answered by luvs2play06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋