tired of the flack.?

Question

I catch flack still for being honest with somone. long story short came upon an accident a few years ago we stoped to help the girl didn't have a chance in hell she could talk you could tell she had been drinking (stronge alcohol smell) she asked if she was gonna be okay i said probly not. I told here if she needs to get right with God now would be a good time. she did and died about 10 minutes later. Was I wrong for telling her she wasn't going to make it and if she needed to get right now was the time?

Friends keep saying still i was wrong telling her that but if you would have seen her you would know there was no way she would.

just a little info on the accident the car fliped she was through and then pined against a barrier wall and another care that was in the accident her lower half from the abdomine down was basicly severed it was so crushed.

Answer 1

It is completely wrong that you did this. What gives you the right to use her situation to try and convert her?

First you tell her she is not going to die, then you tell her if she needs to get right with "god" now is the time? Gimmie a break. You not only lied to her first off, but you probably made her feel worse when you said what you did. This is a point in time when your opinion meant absolutely nothing. You used a time when you could have helped save someones life (life in the physical term, not spritual christians) to further your religious bigotry.

Is the reason you really stopped to help her? Or did you stop to convert her? Did you give the shirt off your back to try and stop the bleeding? Or did it cost to much at Macy's? I can bet that you didn't. I can also bet that you were on the way from the gas station filling from filling up your SUV. If you really cared you would have done something other then try to convert her.

Answer 2

Standard doctrine is that you reassure the person that all will be okay, regardless of their condition. However, your religious beliefs seem to have compelled you to offer this person what you believed was the most important thing: A reminder to consider the fate of her immortal soul in what you rightly perceived to be her last moments. If I were a person of faith, I'd say you did the right thing. Not being a person of faith, I probably would have followed the standard emergency care training, and reassured the person to the last.

If your beliefs tell you that her soul was the most important thing at stake, then take comfort in your encouragement to seek absolution in the last possible moments she was able. Either way, it seems that nothing you could have done would have kept her alive much longer, and perhaps putting her focus on the here-after took away some of her fear and pain.

Answer 3

Sometimes there is no clear right or wrong and I think this case would be an example.

I think we have to trust our instincts in situations like this. In some cases, it might be best to be reassuring, as we know that people who believe they are going to make it sometimes do in spite of tremendous odds.

On the other hand, if it does seem inevitable that death is close by, I think personally I would want the warning and encouragement to take these final moments to connect with God, remember my loved ones and prepare myself for what was to come. This approach can be the kindest, most courageous and loving thing to do for someone.

I think you did what you thought best. If your friends are true friends, they will eventually understand your perspective and at least respect your position even thought they might disagree.

This was no doubt a very difficult thing for you to go through and I hope you have some friends who are supportive of you,

Answer 4

You did what you believed was right for her. In your place, I probably would have done exactly the same thing. Let's hope you did the girl a favor, and that she is now smiling at Jesus and telling him about the guy who helped her.
I'm sorry you've been getting flack for it. That's just the way the world is.
You take after your Father--you are not willing that anyone should perish. I am sure He is proud of you.
I know I am....

Answer 5

sure i do! i'm in the medical occupation and that i'm continually getting flack from sufferers and different team. they conflict to make me experience like a loser or sinner. i'm drained of it!! i'm a grown grownup and if i trust like have a smoke now and again, then rattling it i will. i'm ill and uninterested in maximum of those those that imagine they recognize what's appropriate for me. i do not smoke and blow it of their faces, i attempt to be as thoughtful as conceivable, and nonetheless seize crap about it.

Answer 6

You were honest and there is nothing wrong with asking someone if they are right with God if they are passing away. You may have been the only one to even consider that she wasn't saved.

Answer 7

Did it do any harm telling her that she needed to be right with God? Given the circumstances? You did what you did, it happened, and it is done, it is in the past, why worry about it. Perchance you did her a favor. Who is to say?

Answer 8

when someone has been through trama and you tell them their prospects aren't good at all, the bad info could bring on shock, which could further complicate the matter to the extent that it could bring on death. i hope you don't work in emergency rooms.

Answer 9

dude I'm an atheist and I don't mind you trying to comfort someone on their deathbed. the fear of death is what religion was created to cure in the first place, wasnt it?

Answer 10

""tired of the flack.?""

Nope!