How do you know that you partner has been unfaithful?

Question

My partner and I have been going out for a long time now. But
suddenly he has been acting different. He told me about this girl he got into an argument about at work and said that she would
probably call me and tell me a bunch of lies. The same day this
argument happened he started to become very loving and wanting
to help with everything. Now he seems to be very distant with me. I think he is guilty, but I am not really sure.
How could I know for sure that nothing is happening between them.

She worked with him before and got layed off. He said that went out one time and
didn't do anything.

Answer 1

You keep your eye's and ears open and if he is then it will come out. Drop by his work sometime for lunch, unless you have never done that before, it will raise his suspicions. Get a friend of yours to drive you by the place and see what you can. Good luck.

Answer 2

Sorry but it does sound like he's cheating. Don't be a fool though and rush in because of course he will deny it. Follow him or get a private detective to do it.

He will shower more often, always look good (if he doesn't already), he will want to make love less, he won't want his dinners (obviously she's feeding him), he'll come home with new jumpers, shirts, watch etc, saying he bought them. He'll feel uncomfortable holding your hand along the street, he won't be so smoochy with you when you go out.

He's upset her and she's said she'll phone you up, if she does, let her tell you things that only you would know, stay calm and listen. Ask her everything because she will talk to get back at him. If she doesn't tell you anything positive then maybe just maybe he hasn't slept with her.

Answer 3

As much as its really not nice to tell you, he sounds like he's cheating on you, he's probably finished with this girl and she's threatened to tell you. But if you have not trust in a relationship anymore is it really worth it? Because its really hard to gain that trust again...you'll never fully trust him again and what's a relationship without trust as hard as it will be...you'll be feeling paranoid and he'll probably say there's nothing and you'll really be going crazy. You need to figure out what you want but before that maybe install mini cameras in the house or go to see him at work when he isn't expecting it. I know it sounds terrible and it'll look terrible to him but if he doesn't find out it should be ok. Or if she calls you first or you know her name go to see her or talk to her and ask her to tell you an intimate detail no one else could know.

I hope you find a way which doesn't cause you too much hurt over a guy that sounds so deceitful

Answer 4

You should sit down and ask him was he ever unfaithful to you? Just to see what his reaction is like. If he acts totally out of character then sorry to say but something is up. Keep an eye on him over the next few days. Let him no you cant stand a cheat or a liar then if he has done anything the guilt will take over and will spill all to you.

Answer 5

Well you may just have to weather this storm ..... it all points to him having been up to something but you know what? I think he has had to make a choice and he has chosen you .......... that may dent your trust, of course, but you now have to decide to see it through or not. I would simply ask him outright if he has another girlfriend and if so, is it over. Your feminine intuition will work overtime but you will sense the truth here and then you must either decide to hang on in there or not. Most men flirt to excess you know and that can cause problems like this ....... he's just been silly and now he knows it! IT may be just the warning shot he needs .... keep him on the straight and narrow though, particularly if you challenge him! And if this venomous guppy phones you up to f*ck your day up .... don't let her! Let her know you know all about it and tell her to go try and spoil someone else's life. That way, you keep your cool and your pride. Bottom line? Decide if your man is really worth it ..... :-)

Answer 6

You better be honest with him, and tell him what you are feeling right now. The only way to know if he/she is cheating is when you catch your significant other or when this person tells you the truth.
You don´t need that, and he does not either. Try to be nice and open with him, and also try to set the mood for a good and honest conversation. If he is fooling around there must be a good reason, he wants an adventure or he does not love you any more. Either way, he should open up to you- Believe me, is the only way!!!!

Answer 7

You can't be sure, not unless you stalk him while he's away. You just have to trust your instincts and let time tell. If it's bothering you this much, then you need to sit down with him and have a talk. Make sure he knows first and foremost that this is something that has gotten you a little confused, and you want to straighten it out and make sure everything is okay. Let him know you're not accusing him of anything.

If he gets defensive and angry easily, acting like he IS being accused or something, then something definantly isn't right.

Answer 8

You can be all deaf or/and blind if you want to, that man is cheating on you! I'm very sorry to tell you this but those are the symptoms of infidelity. If you don't want to believe what your heart is telling you, you'll believe it when that man give you a really bad heartache by leaving you or just letting you see him with that other girl.

Don't cheat on him to try to get back at him. You'll feel worst at the end and he'll make you feel like you're the worst for cheating on him.

Answer 9

Yeah, this guy sounds majorly guilty. I'd really confront him and go hard on him until he comes clean. And tell him that if he wanted to hide this, he could've done a better job. But yeah, whether or not he's gone all the way with this girl, I don't know. But he's up to something fishy.

Answer 10

Simply just ask; and watch the body language. Perhaps he did step out on you and feeling guilt. However; he could be faithful to you and the Business Lady is instigating a fight. You partner knows her better than you. The only true way is to simply to ask.