Is it common that a guy who hasn't dated much or in a long time is scared to get into a relationship because he has had his single time and is scared of a girl trying to take away things he enjoys doing? Like hanging with the guys or hunting....things he has enjoyed doing since he has been single. I've read the book he's just not that into you and I really do feel like he is in to me and this isn't an excuse but I understand that he could be scared but I'm just kinda lost because I'm not that type of girl to do that and I've told him that but he is scared that when the time comes I'll change. How do I show that this is who I am?
We are both in our 20's
2006-07-31 12:09:30 · 4 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not common for a guy to avoid a relationship for fear of losing freedoms, but one that hasn't dated in a long time may be afraid because he has been emotionally/mentally hurt by previous relationships.
He may be scared because every other relationship has brought about changes in the woman that made her seem manipulative that way and he may have even previously been told by other women that they were not going to change and they still chose to change.
It is normal for people in a romantic relationship to want more from their partner so that it feels like a deeper more meaningful relationship, but the only way to really be able to assure him you won't change is to get to know yourself and know what you want from the relationship, and then tell him what you really want and expect.
It is most important you know yourself, and ask yourself why you want to elevate the status of the relationship if you really don't want to change.
Take your time, be honest with yourself and get to know how you really feel about it because in my experience women have hurt me and lied to me by not knowing the truth of how they feel when they tell me 'it won't change anything', and that keeps me from getting into relationships until I am well aware of how much they know themselves.
2006-07-31 12:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Demosthenes&Locke 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, this is wrong... this is something guys have dreamed up as an excuse to reject girls. The sad part is some ladies actually belive it bacause they cant face the fact that they could be rejected... if your a girl that a guy is interested in he wont think like that, but dont be suprized if he still wants his guy time.
2006-07-31 19:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Reverand Ray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - guys want to do whatever they want - some single guys think that women are evil and manipulating.
Venus, Mars... blarg
2006-07-31 19:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by Starlight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't u take a hint, to be a woman and to be turned down, GEEEEEEEEEZE, get over it.
2006-07-31 19:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by bobemac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋