My best buddy told me he's gay. Will he be in trouble at church?

Question

We've been buddies for seven years and are about to start college together. We go to church together! What's going to happen to him? It doesn't bother ME that he's gay, but are people gonna think I'm gay too? I never had to deal with something like this. I live in a small town and never met a gay person before.

And I don't think he's a bad person, but what if the people at church are jerks to him? What should I do then?

Also, he's slept with a girl before. So is he really gay? I have no idea how to handle this type of thing.

Answer 1

ok, a couple things about this... If you are going to a God Fearing Church, where Jesus is the cornerstone then the best thing that could happen to this guy is to be rebuked by the church. The Bible directly says that it is a sin. He needs to rid himself of this now, and focus more on ETERNITY. God is Merciful, and Gracious, but he is also the judge. We can not enter into willfull habitual sin and expect to be saved. He will hold us accountable of our sins if we "choose" to continue in them. Secondly, he shouldn't be sleeping with anyone male or female if it is outside of marriage. He needs to re-evaluate his view of God. For these are sin and God hates sin. Don't allow him to be decieved.. Seek truth in this matter. God has given us his requirements and they are in the Bible. There are no exceptions.

Answer 2

I think it's important for you to know that homosexuality is natural. Some people may tell you that it's not natural because it won't produce a child. Well guess what. Fellatio doesn't produce a child either, but I don't know any Christian men opposed to that. Here's some helpful information for you.

In 1975 the American Psychological Association (APA) publicly stated that homosexuality is not a mental disorder, but "the way a portion of the population expresses human love and sexuality." This change of definition was a result of serious research and experimentation of a scientist named Karen Hooker. A test done in 1990 by D.F. Swaab showed that the suprachiasmatic nucleus (SCN) in the brains of homosexual males were twice the size of those in the brains of heterosexual males. The SCN is a nucleus in the hypothalamus which is a region of the mammalian brain and is very involved in the control of emotions and sexual activity.

While Swaab was doing his research, Laura S. Allen found that the anterior commisure of the hypothalamus was much larger in homosexuals than in heterosexuals. The results of these two scientists' experiments proved that homosexuality is biological, since the size of both the SCN and the anterior commisure are determined during the first trimester.

Answer 3

First of all, congratulations on being so mature about this situation - it says a lot about your character.

Secondly, a lot of gay men have sexual relationships with women before they come out of the closet. Some of it has to do with the pressure they are under to appear straight, the fear of appearing gay and sometimes I'm sure there are men who try to deny their sexual identity by forming relationships with women.

As far as your church is concerned - if they are any kind of decent people they will not judge you or your friend because of his sexual identity, but it is more likely that they will not approve of your friend's life style. It's not he, himself that they will disapprove of - it will be the sin he is committing by acting upon his sexual desires.

It's a twisted world and this is a difficult question to answer, but I hope that I've helped you a little bit.

Answer 4

Alot of gay or lesbian people say that they are gay when they are really bi. So you never know. One of my best friends, her dad is gay, but he fathered two children before really going gay.

It won't get you in trouble at church if they are open minded and the people aren't zealous. Unfortunately alot of small towns are not.

Answer 5

if the church doesn't accept him 4 who he is, he should stop going and go 2 those gay and lesbian churches. those r much friendlier. If i had a friend like that and he was rejected from church, if it does happen, i wouldn't go 2 cuz that's what best friends do. they stick 2gether through the good and bad times.

Answer 6

You didn't say which church. It really depends on the community how they will treat him. But if he is your friend it doesn't matter what other people think. It doesn't matter if people think you might be gay too because God knows your heart. Just pray for your friend and for people who know him, that they would treat him with respect and love.

God bless.

Answer 7

I am not going to even give my opinion. Look at what God has to say about the situation. He is ultimately the final judge.
Genesis 19:1. Read the whole chapter!
http://bibleresources.bible.com/passagesearchresults.php?passage1=Genesis+19&version=9

Answer 8

I don't know about the church but God will always love him. If you have been friends for so long, stay his friend. Who cares what small minded people think?

Answer 9

The media and the popular culture often portray homosexuality as a healthy, normal lifestyle -- when in truth it's riddled with disease, unhappiness, psychological issues, drug and alcohol abuse, and death.

Homosexuality is trendy -- but it would not be if more people knew the truth about it.

Answer 10

Well, if he says he is, then he is. Of course he'll be in trouble. Let's hope he doesn't come out of the closet suddenly and scare his other friends and family to death.