My daughter can't sleep at night, It just started 3 weeks ago.?

Question

When I asking her what is the problem, she telling me that she have a fear that she's thinking that she's going to lose me or her dad. I tried to talk with her but nothing seems work. In during day she's active and happy but on night time she 's different person, She don't want to go to sleep and back and fourth she has to go to restroom. I don't know waht to do Please help me?

Answer 1

Do you let her watch the news? There are a lot of terrible stories about families that lose loved ones, accidents, shootings, the war going on now with all the misplaced refugees, you know what I mean. My local news keeps emphasizing the loss of children's lives in the war; I have to change the channel or turn it off, it's too much. That stuff can be very traumatizing to a young mind. Whatever it is, try during the day when things are "safe" and talk about things. She may not know. It doesn't hurt to call your doctor if she's not better in the next night or two.
To help my girls go to sleep we let them play their radio really low, usually on Radio Disney. Best of luck!

Answer 2

I know after three weeks of this, it is hard to believe, but hang on, it will pass. Keep reassuring her, let her have a light on or anything that gives her a little control over the situation. Make sure she is not having soda with caffeine or too much sugar which can exacerbate the sleeplessness. Make sure also that she isn't watching TV news or programs filled with horrible things for her to dwell on. You might try reading some of her favorite books onto tape for her to listen to while she is trying to fall asleep, your voice will comfort her.

If it continues, you might want to talk to her pediatrician about it and get some advice. He might tell you it's common or advise a psychologist. When I was a girl, when dinosaurs roamed, I was petrified I would lose my parents, then I did. My dad when I was 8 and my mom at 15 so you can't promise her it won't happen, but try to divert her attention to other thoughts.

Answer 3

Its possible someone may have said something to her about a parent dying or she saw something on TV, alot of kids go thru fear phases and something or someone usually can set it off..try to reassure her the best you can but dont make promises that you and her father will be around forever...tell her you understand her fears and have the same ones about her as well, it shows you care about her, but you dont let worries stop you from living.As far as the bathroom goes it could be an excuse to stay up or she may have a bladder control problem which may not be related to the insomnia...she may need to see a pediatric nephrologist. Good Luck

Answer 4

I actually remember when I started having those fears as a child. I vividly remember going into my closet with a crayon and turning n the light and drawing pictures of my dad because I was afraid that he was dead. My parents were out at a cocktail party or something. I was three or four. How old is your daughter? The reason I tell you my personal story is that I told my parents about it and they brushed it off. They kept saying "aw, don't worry. dad's not gonna die" I think that because they neglected to really discuss it with me, I knew that they were not be truthful and that actually made it worse. If your discussion continue to not help her, please speak to her doctor about a referral. Just to be safe. I still have irrational fear of losing loved ones. I wish that my parents had been more attentive to my feelings.

Answer 5

My then five year old would fight going to sleep any way he could. Going to the bathroom, needing a drink, wanting a grown up to lay with him. Then he would wake one to four hours into the night and start screaming, running. His eyes would be open but he'd be asleep. He'd say there were monsters and that we were all going to die. Horrible things. I took him to the doctor and he was diagnosed with sleep onset disorder and night terrors. There are medications for sleep onset disorder, like benadryl and clonidine, but none for night terrors. Goodluck. To help me and the doctor I kept a night diary of my child for two weeks. I listed everything from what happened an hour befor bed to the incidents to how he woke in the morning.

Answer 6

How old is your daughter? Has anything happened recently to someone she knows? Often kids will hear of something happening, like a friend's parent dying(or divorcing), or anyone for that matter, and it makes them aware that things like that do happen and that's when the worry sets in. My daughter is 6, she became aware that people die so every night she was asking me questions about dying. It made me sad that she lost that part of her innocence. Make sure you reassure your child. If you know of someone who died, discuss it with her, and get her a book about dying, one that's geared towards children. Maria Shriver has one out, but I can't remember the name, but it sounds really good. Also, make an appt. with your Pediatrician, he can refer you to a child psychologist if the problem persists. Good Luck to you and your daughter.

P.S.- Monitor what your child watches, sometimes things they see on news, like the fighting and bombing in the Middle East, can create fears in children.

Answer 7

my niece is going through something similar right now. her grandfather passed away at night a few months ago and since then she has had serious issues with going to bed at night. she is terrified one of her parents is going to die while she is sleeping. her parents are starting to send her to a therapist.
has your daughter gone through some sort of traumatic experience? that seems to be a general source for problems like this - even seeing this in a movie at a young age can prove problematic. sending your child to therapy doesn't mean you think they are crazy (i know that kind of thinking can be a problem in some families), it means you care about their mental well being. take her in, it doesn't have to be a permanent thing, she may only need a few sessions. in my mind - do whatever it takes to keep your child happy and healthy!

Answer 8

ok i get you first do activities witrh her talk and see together the tv with your husband you and your daughter go to parks laugh together with you husband look like your a perfect couple take her to the store or theme parks with your husband if she keeps on crying even though you really do things together like talking nicely to your husband and talk about nice things all 3 together then theirs no excuse why she still would cry so then she probaly hears yuo or sees you doing sex with your husband some how if u do or she probaly masturbates but be nice to her if not shes probaly scared of the dark sleep with her together when u see shes really asleep like at 3 in the morning softly and quietely take her to her room and lay her on the bed and then the next day say see it wasent bad sleeping alone is noraml dont be a scardy cat finally if she keeps on she probaly has problems in school or else take her to a doctor

Answer 9

i had the same problem i would cry and cry and cry then my mom asked me why i would cry whenver i would take a shower or go to bed and i told her and i felt so much better! there was a show though on MTV that a girl was so scared of losing her mom that she started to do all these things everyday and she wouldnt stop doing them and she had to get help... you should relaly get into your daughters head before she starts doing something like that and just tell her that mommy and daddy are going to die one day but when god says its time... tell her the truth that not everyone lives forever! ok hope i could help

Answer 10

she just needs a lot of reassurance. Try to distract her from these thoughts by reading to her, talking about something she can look forward to, or anything that will just keep her from thinking about this - nightime is a lonely and fearful time for children, it might help to leave a radio on quietly in her room at night too.