You hear and read about them when they say "I don't let my wife work" or "when I get home the dinner better be on the table" and other such neanderthalic gibberish...
Honeslty have you people not noticed that this is the 21st century? Are you all so mired in your bronze-age mythology than you can't tell the difference between a materiel posession and what is supposed to be your best friend?
Honestly some of you treat your dog or your lawnmower with more respect than you do your wives...
2006-07-31 11:17:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ok other than amdirien's answer we've seen nothing but crap.
Could we hear from someone who's not a total retard now?
Thanks.
2006-07-31 11:23:43 · update #1
Now that kind of speaking to me would get you either a burned supper or no supper. That is not being the head of the household but the heel of it.I don't know what their problems are either but there are obviously many.Love demands respect.
2006-07-31 11:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better be careful how you classify people. Not all Christian men do this, and not all of the people who do it are Christians either.
The correct question should be: why do some men treat their wives in an old-fashioned and outdated manner, when clearly they are oppressing and disrespecting them?
The answer is: because that is their culture, and you should respect it. Who are you to say that your values are somehow better than someone else's?
When I lived in Utah, there were a lot of homemaker women around, and in addition to being strangely sexy, they were also very happy. How can they be happy when they are clearly oppressed?! Because they have a different viewpoint than you do. They see themselves as liberated from the world of work, and as a vital part of the family structure.
Just because your idea is newer, doesn't mean it's better. This culture has been going along fine for years, and meddling in other cultures is not what America is all about (at least, it didn't used to be). Now if we could stop imposing our values on whole other countries, that would be a step in the right direction.
I myself am a working woman, and I wouldn't have it any other way, but that's a personal decision, and I respect the decisions of others. In a way, I'm far more oppressed than any homemaker out there. I'm a slave to the clock, never have enough time for family, and I'm always stressed out about something work-related.
2006-07-31 18:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by polly_peptide 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a Christian thing, my friend. It is a sexist and shovenistic thing. Actually there are passages in the Holy Bible that says that a man should put his wife on a pedestal, and the wife to respect and obey the husband as the head of the family. There should be respect on both sides in a marriage, as the Bible teaches. You should study up before making such generalized statements. Also, watch how you use "you people."
2006-07-31 18:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by jrf0290 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Referring to your observation with christian men regarding their wives as tools or dogs, I am really sorry
that you observed that behavior! A Christian is suppose to be one who lives according to the teachings of Jesus.
And treating your wife like a tool or a dog is definitely
not what Christ taught in the bible. His love toward many
was with true love, compassion, and forgiveness. And what He taught of a man to love a woman, his wife was like how He loved the church. If you were to check out
the book of Soloman in the New King James bible...
it is very passionate between two lovers...best friends.
There is a lot to learn about true love. Unfortunately those men that you observed didn't find the truth of what God taught on love.
Jesus was also very disturbed about those who misrepresented Him.
We should all follow the golden rule before judging others.
Unfortunetly not only christian men treat thier women
like they were not valuable and vice versa. We all fall short
of perfection and are of need of a Savior. Shalom.
2006-07-31 19:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You misspelled several words and are obviously young and ignorant. Most Christian men I know love and respect their wives and do not regard them as chattle. Perhaps you should research the customs of the Muslims before you lambast Christian men again
2006-07-31 18:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by willy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Christian husband is very kind and respectful. He respects my position as wife just as I respect him as my husband. He doesn't care who is the breadwinner, just as long as one of us will be able to stay home when we have children. We have decided together, with some prayer, that it will be me. He won't "make" me work when we have children, I believe that is respectful of motherhood. As far as dinner being ready, when we do get to have children and I am staying at home, I do expect to have dinner ready for him. When a woman stays home, housework is her job. I'd expect my husband to go to work and bring home the paycheck, why shouldn't he expect dinner when he comes home? However, I agree that they shouldn't talk about their wives like that. I know many Christian men who honor and respect their wives. The men you are talking about are giving all men a bad name.
2006-07-31 18:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gross generalization. I am a Christian and I do not know any Christian men who behave this way or even think this way. Not sure what you are trying to do but it seems it is you who are buying into some sort of "mythology"... about Christians.
2006-07-31 18:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know any Christian men that are that way, and I know quite a few. Do you honestly think that only Christian men could be that way? I don't think being a Christian has much to do with that mentality. It's just being a "neanderthal" like you said.
2006-07-31 18:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by ☼ lovethesun11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know who you hang around but I have never heard a Christain talk like that. On the other hand I know a lot of guys that are like that, they are stuck with the 50's mentality
2006-07-31 19:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say about this is, if a man works all day and his wife doesnt, why would she be so lazy that she cant cook the man some food? he's tired and hungry. on the flip side, if the woman works all day, why should she cook and clean all day when the man's been there all day anyway? ....i think u know not what your talking about on this sir
2006-07-31 18:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋