Do you believe in disciplining your children?

Question

give examples of how your children are punished or corrected ---

Answer 1

well children need to be disciplined or they will walk all over adults! My daughter is 2 and a half and the terrible 2's are really starting to get bad, so when she is naughty, i make her sit in time out for 3 minutes or i send her to her room....I do spank her, but only when i feel she needs a spankin, so i can get my point across to her! when she wants something she has to do something first, like pick up her toys or eat her dinner, and if she gives me a hard time about those then, she can't have what she wants til she does what i want her to do!

Answer 2

I do not have children of my own but I have taught preschool for over 12 years and yes, I believe in disciplining them and this is how I do it.

I use logical and natural consequences whenever possible. Taking away a toy or privilege when a child misbehaves is not a logical consequence. Taking away a toy if they throws it or is destructive with it is logical. These are some other examples of logical and natural consequences. If they make a mess, they clean it. If they break something, it goes in the trash. If they want to be too loud, I show them an area where they can be loud. If they purposefully fall out of a chair, they can use the chair until they are ready to use it without falling off. The discipline always fits the crime.

Another technique I use when a child is misbehaving is this. As soon as they misbehave, I get down to their level and say "I don't like when you (I explain what and why)." I then take them gently by the hand and put him in a spot in my classroom (usually a chair) and say "When you're ready to (listen, stop, behave) then you can get off." This is not a time out because I am not giving a time limit (me controlling them). They return when they are ready to control themselves. I sometime have to take them back to the spot a few times before they get the message. I thank them when they behave.

I often say things like "You worked on that for a long time! Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on that picture!" These are intrinsic motivators rather than extrinsic rewards ("Good job," stickers, candy). These phrases are great confidence builders.

I always set limits, follow through, and offer choices, not chances. I may say “Do you want to do that by yourself or do you want some help?” "No" means "No" the first time I say it. I say "Yes" as much as possible. I am always patient and consistent.

Over the years, I have had many difficult students. It never takes me long to discipline them with these techniques. I have had several children who were kicked out of a school or several schools. If I punished these children (time outs for one) I would never gain their trust or respect. I love children and they love me back because of how I discipline them.

Answer 3

Most of the time just the tone of voice will suffice with my daughter. She like all kids will push the limits to test how far she can go. When she was young time outs were used. I have only had to spank her twice in her life, but she knows that the possibility is there. She is now 13 almost 14. I worked for a Sheriffs Dept for years and could tell the kids who were not disciplined. We took them to Juvenile Hall fairly regular. They had no respect for their parents at all. Alot of people say that you should never spank a child. Look at the stats for juvenile crime today, they are out of sight. Alot of people can be wrong. There is a difference tho between spanking a child on the butt, and abuse and beatings. If you can't tell the difference you shouldn't have kids

Answer 4

Discipline yes, no hitting! Time out, one minute for every year of age. Children over 6, take away privileges like TV, computer,phone, IPod, etc. I really liked offering incentives or rewards for doing the right thing, so that punishment was not needed much! Like do your chores get a star, 10 stars get a special privilege.

Answer 5

It all depends on the child. As long as you have balance and are not angry when you discipline it will work out just fine. But children DO NEED discipline of some sort. Just go with what you are comfortable with. Raising children is, unfortunately, trial and error.

Answer 6

Disciplining means TEACHING, not punishing.

My kids are 7.5 years, 5.5 years and 3.5 years old.

Some of the things that we do in our house.....

"Service"
If you hurt someone else or you damage someone else's property, then you are "in service" to that person for the rest of the day. My kids *hate* this consequence and will do just about anything to avoid it. If you are in service to someone, you must help and serve them for the rest of the day. If you hurt them, help make them better. If we go out, get them their shoes and jacket. Pick up after them. Do their share of chores. Bring them their PJ's. Etc.

We have a stoplight system. Every child starts the day on green. If they do something wrong, they can be moved to yellow on the first offense and red on the second offense. If you are on red at dinner, you don't get dessert.

Logical consequences.
If you fight over a toy or don't take care of a toy, you could lose the toy. If you get caught playing with your Gameboy instead of doing your homework, you lose the Gameboy. If you are caught sneaking candy, you don't get any dessert. Etc.

Loss of privledges. Loss of Gameboy, computer, TV, reading or storytime at bedtime, etc.

Answer 7

Before you discipline your child take a step back and evaluate if it actually is your child that is playing up or is it you that is stressed and won't pay your child any attention. Most of the time it is the parent stressed or not paying the child attention which leads to the child playing up. If they are playing up, take their priviledges off them until they learn how to behave. Keep consistant with this and they will learn eventually that they won't get what they want by playing up.

Answer 8

All children need to be taught how to behave within their family, their community and this world. We have to show them by example what is OK, what is not. And, when they misbehave, it is important to gently correct them and teach them that what they did was no appropriate, but, no need for severe punishment.

I have adult boys, never hit them or spanked them, and they turned out just fine!

from a grandma-aged person

Answer 9

I once had a minister council me about discipline... He said we punish criminals, we discipline our children because we love them.

Answer 10

When my daughter was 2 or 3 she used to get Heine spanks, which were mainly love taps. lol Now she is 4 and when she gets a Heine smack she laughs at me...so I just go for the stern voice and it seems to work.