My husband is currently mobilized and will be deploying to Iraq in about 8 weeks or so...I'd gladly take any advice you have to offer.
2006-07-31 10:45:11 · 9 answers · asked by Kelly B 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Just a little more information - my husband is AGR - so we live in a little tiny of 4,000 people - no Army base. I am the FRG leader for our soldiers families - my kids are 17 and 19. In many ways I am my own support network...civilians are great - but they just aren't the same as being with other Army wives...
2006-07-31 12:11:23 · update #1
Most people say deployments are harder on the people back home than the servicemen in the field, and having had both sides myself, it is absolutely true. He'll know what's going on. You won't know what he doesn't/can't tell you. Be strong. Have faith in him and his training.
Love him. Send pictures and letters. Keep him updated on things back home. Don't let yourself worry too much. Pray. Spend the next 8 weeks talking as much as you can because it will be more difficult later. Say "I love you" until you can't say it anymore.
Most important to keeping your wits, stay busy in whatever way you find to do that. Branch out with other wives. You're all going through the same thing. Don't be afraid to ask for support. Anyone who refuses to help the wife of one of our great servicemen is unpatriotic and has no idea what it means to be an American. When you deal with the people who are ungrateful or unsupportive, remember that it is a minority of people and don't let it bother you. Chin up, chest out. You're an Army Wife! Hooah to you!
Good luck you both of you.
2006-07-31 12:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by sandostrich 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My hubby has deployed to the sandbox 3 times and had 2 unaccompanied tours to Korea. The main thing....keep busy. It makes time go by faster. I was told not to watch the news all the time, but I did. I just didn't believe everything I saw. Keep in close touch with other wives from the FRG. That's your best source of info as to what's going on over there (other than your hubby). Send him lots of mail. When you send boxes, be sure to include the kids school work and art projects. Also, lots of pics from home. Don't be afraid to take a trip or go see something while he's gone. Alot of wives move back home, but I've always been too independent for that. However, I do call them all the time. Keep the kids active in things at school....it'll help them keep their minds busy too. Find a craft that you like to do. If you work, there's already the good portion of the day gone. Just always stand by him and be patient. Sometimes, we don't hear what we want to hear or even hear from them often enough while they're deployed. Be strong and good luck!!
2006-07-31 11:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a my space you can find a group for the spouses of men at your base.. i have found that to be the easiest way to make friends out here... Also I don't know if you have kids but getting a job helps it gives you something to do since he isn't around to take care of... Also make friends with the wives that they have in charge of each of the unit and battalions... try to have get together... the wives of those that your husband works with are in it with you and are knowing how you are feeling... and if any thing... you can make it through this... if you need someone to talk to feel free to email me at any time... my husband is being deployed too so we can cry on each others shoulders...
Be Strong and Your not alone...
2006-07-31 12:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by A_Soldiers_Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is in the Navy, and he isn't due back until November (hopefully). Im not living on a naval base yet, but around october i plan to move to Virginia where he is to be stationed at. It is very hard for me, not having anyone around who knows the situtation that i am in, but i have found very nice people through posting a similar question on here. Also to save some time, and i know this may not be qorkable for you, but we have to young boys, and ive spent alot of my time making a scrap book of the things my husband has missed while he has been gone, that way when he gets back, he can see what all we have done. All i can really say is that everyone handles it in there own way, but for my first deployment with him, this is hard! Good luck!!!
2006-07-31 13:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not Army, but Air Force. My husband is currently overseas, half way through our year already. I moved back home and surround myself with family and friends and work two jobs to keep myself moving. I didn't think I would make it at first, it will be hard wherever you are though. Trust me. If you are staying close to a base (or Post I think the Army has) though there are wives's support groups and activities. Good luck and keep your head up.
2006-07-31 11:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by Rhiannon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im no longer married and that i don't have little ones...yet my fiance' is on deployment top now and that i be responsive to the way it feels....kinda. Has your husband continually been OCD? ought to there have been something that surpassed off (in keeping with possibility on deployment) that would have further in this? have you ever adult adult males tried any form of counseling? Does he decide for to artwork to make this extra clever? i be responsive to you have been finding for solutions yet I basically had some questions LOL. you're saying which you adore him becasue ya'll have little ones and been jointly all this time....yet so which you nonetheless basically love him? Or are you staying for those motives...he ought to study to be added data and appreciative. each so often women ought to go away for me to finally understand.
2016-11-03 09:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real army women get their husbands out of that mess. You know all the men ridicule the married troops. The married men get the dirty jobs and suffer constant humiliation from the more stalwart soldiers. Where do you think the term Woos came from??? It's a Army term for married. Killing people is best left to bachelors Your husband should be home with your children.
Go big red Go
2006-07-31 10:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by 43 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to the negative stuff on this site!
Good for you for sticking by your husband, he'll need your support no matter what! i don't like wars or fighting but, sometimes it's necessary.....that's why we have our freedoms because of men like your husband!
there's a book, i'm not sure the title..something about the wife of a soldier..it's really good...gives you lots of tips and things you can do and join with other wives of military men!
good luck!
2006-07-31 11:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decorate your house or apartment. Cry a lot. Then decorate some more. If you have children they will keep you very busy. Mom and dad are usually good support systems. When you think you can't go on being alone remember he misses you too.
2006-07-31 11:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋