Wedding Invitations?

Question

We need to create Wedding Invitations that have the Bride's and Groom's first names ONLY -- which name is first and why???

She is NOT taking his name, that is why they want first names only.

Answer 1

The brides name is first. I did this on my wedding invites, and had the same question. I searched in wedding etiquette books, here is the answer: An unmarried womans name comes first. When she is married, then the mans name comes first.

So for your invites, use your name first, then your fiances.

When sending thank you notes, put his name first.

Answer 2

The child of the people/person who are giving the wedding comes first. i.e. Mr. & Mrs. Joe Smith...their son John to...Susie.
If the kids (kids used loosely) are throwing it themselves the woman comes first. This is basic.
Last names ARE used in any event. You don't announce by what surname the couple will be known after the wedding on the wedding invitation!! One option is leaving out M.D., Esq., John III, etc. It's a bit pretentious. Both parties middle names should also be used. Remember - ONE MONTH is the rule - unless you're going on a month-long honeymoon, then you get a little extra time. Even if over a year has passed - still write the thank you note or your mother's friends will be talking about you for the rest of their lives and YOUR mother will NEVER fail to "gently" remind you...You'll always be "Molly - the one who STILL hasn't sent out her thank you notes."
In a somewhat perfect world, when the couple sit down and write their thank you notes, preferably engraved with the names they will be known from here on out, they can have John Smith and Judy Brown engraved on the flap of the card, then sign the card "John and Judy."
Also consider adding an engraved return address with the names as they will henceforth be known, or use return-address labels just so.
A post card is good enough. Just acknowledge the gift or your sunk.

Answer 3

The Bride comes first, according to tradition. But why not use both names?
Amanda Smith
and
Jason Williams
are pleased to request your presence at their wedding,
(date) (time) (place)

You don't have to say whether the bride will take the groom's name, the groom will take the bride's name or they will hyphenate their names. At present, everyone knows them by their current names, so use them both.

Answer 4

the grooms name is first because the bride's last name is changing to his last name thats why usually you see Sam weds Sarah you know what I mean?

Answer 5

That would depend on who is paying for the wedding. Usually the bride is first.

Answer 6

I don't really know. I would say the Groom's, but ultimately it's up to you since it's your wedding. We are trying to plan ours at the moment as well...it's overwhelming. We have an account at TheKnot.com, it's been super helpful. Maybe check that out because I know they have a section on etiquette, and you can e-mail questions to them. Congrats & good luck!

Answer 7

Brides. Because if you're being traditional, then it's the woman who is being "married off". Sound pretty old school, I know but if you're being more modern, then it's your invite, you can do whatever you want. You'd have to be more clear as to what you're goin to say then I can be more clear too. Hope it helps, somewhat!

Answer 8

the brides because her parents are supposed to throw the wedding so that means they would be the ones doing the invites it would be like.... mr. & Mrs, David Hale would like to invite you to celbrate the marrige of thier doughter kelly to jim king on so on and so on. Theirs really good books at he library on formalities and etiquette

Answer 9

Groom's, your taking his name.

Answer 10

Every hear the old saying....ladies first!!! If you don't like that...go alphabetical. another way to think of it is who asked who....if he asked, then the lady goes first, if the lady asked the man goes first.