My 3 year old son spits?

Question

my 3 year old son has been spitting for awhile now and i have tried everything and he stops for awhile but then starts back up when he gets excited and i just dont know what else to do. I have tiried to put him in the corner, tapped his mouth, put a dab of kids soap on his tongue with a drink, time out and nothing just wont work i even toke some toys away and wouldnt let him go swimming.

please if you are not going to give me a respectalbe answer then please dont write back to me i dont want to here rude comments thank you

Answer 1

He is 3 years old, this is a normal thing. When he is spitting is he hurting anything? Is he spitting outside? If he is not hurting anything or spitting outside then I wouldn't worry about it. If he is spitting on others and indoors thats another subject. He needs to know that this behavior is wrong and needs to be corrected, by taking him outside and making him apologize for doing this, also make him take a time out. He needs to learn where and when he can do this. Expecting a child not to spit is silly. All kids spit and so do most adults. This is like telling your child not to burp or fart.

Answer 2

I agree with making special time with your son so he doesn't feel threatened by the new baby taking away your attention. When my son was born, my daughter was 1 and most friends and family members would bring her a little something when they came to see the baby with a gift. Everyone congratulated her on being a big sister and made a big fuss over how important her new position in the family was. She was very excited about being a big sister. I also got her very involved in helping with the new baby. Perhaps your son could help with some of the preparations. Let him know how invaluable his help is. He can help pick out crib bedding or a special toy he can give when his new sibbling arrives. As far as the spooky men are concerned, I would definitely get him a night light. Maybe have him lock up with you before he goes to bed. Check all the doors, lock his windows, etc. Don't be so quick to dismiss his fears out of hand, though. When I was little, we lived on a corner lot. The street light on the corner would cast very strange shaddows in my room at night. It was very spooky. Then there were sounds I didn't understand. Cats or raccoons squabbling or yeowling. At one time we had squirrels in the attic and for weeks I thought something was trying to claw it's way through my ceiling! My parents thought I was imagining things until they finally heard it for themselves. Rather than banishing him to his room when he's frightened, maybe you could keep a toddler size mattress under your bed. Then if he needs to be near you, he can pull that out and sleep on the floor next to you. I have 3 kids of my own now, but I still remember quite clearly how awful it was to lay in bed, alone and scared of all the sights and sounds I didn't understand. I'm afraid of the dark to this day and have night lights all over the house! It sounds silly, but I can't help but wonder if it would be different had my parents had been a little more understanding when I was small. Good luck!

Answer 3

He consciously spits, or he more of ... 'drools'?

Drooling may be unintentional -- perhaps an overactive saliva gland.

Spitting is unacceptable, and rude. Kudos for realizing that it must be stopped -- now.

Kids learn slowly -- and though you may hesitate to use it, do remember that physically is the fastest way to teach a child. You learned fastest when your mother took a switch to your backside, right? You may have disliked her intensely for it afterwards, but the behavior improves and kids realize that sometimes, it is necessary.

Don't just tap his mouth. Look him in the eye, tell him what he did wrong, and slap his backside. Not his mouth, -- God gave us cushions for a reason.

You're not a bad parent for using this -- our dim-witted society wants us to never handle our children without anything but the upmost tenderness. That never, ever works.

Your 3-year-old is making an effort to be rebellious against you, and problems like this only grow worse when left unchecked. Even if you find another way, above all, don't let him win.

Good luck!

Answer 4

First of all soap in his tongue is not the best idea of making him stop spitting, its a way that you can make him become sick. Secondly hitting isn't the best idea either he is a "3yr." old. And last but not least putting him in the corner doesn't solve your problems. You should try taking him to a doctor. Spitting back at him may result to other problems. He might think that spitting is something you do for fun whe he doest it try to distract him and try explaining to him why he shouldn't spit in the simplest way.

"Best thing to do is taking him to a doctor."

Answer 5

Well... When he spits, make him clean it up (if possible), if not possible then take a drop of soap and put it on his tongue and say loudly and clearly "NO SPITTING IS ALLOWED AS LONG AS YOU LIVE IN THIS HOUSE". Be firm and vocal, don't take back sass, if he gives you back sass, slap his little @$$. If its more of a drool, there's nothing you can do. If all fails, pop him in the mouth, or put a hot suace on his tounge and give him no water, then pop his cheeks and say if you do it again, you will have to tell your daddy what you did, and you'll (name a punishment)

Answer 6

Is he doing it intentionally or is it a automatic action / bad habit. For one thing don't let him continue to get away with it. Or sometimes a good ol spanking a few times will do the trick, just make sure he understands why.

No offense but perhaps an evaluation by a child psychiatrist might give you good direction as well.

Answer 7

Spitting at people is a very dangerous thing for him to do. Someone is going to slap the **** out of him (without thinking). When your child spits, squeeze his checks together just enough to make him uncomfortable and say no. He will soon stop. Be sure not to do it too hard. and don't yell. Just say no and go to something else. He will stop.

Answer 8

You said he spits when he gets excited. Is he spitting as a form of aggression or is in on the line of stuttering where it's an involuntary action?

If he is doing it deliberately try spitting on him and see how he likes it. I've known that to work with biters.

If it's an involuntary action, you need to see a pediatrician.

Answer 9

Is he spitting to be disrespectful? If he is I'd stick with putting him in the corner and explain about germs and why it's gross. It is pobably just a faze. If he's spitting when he talks then made a little speech therepy would help.

Answer 10

Yes, spit back at him and if he throws a fit, tell him, "see, you don't like it when people do it to you, so don't do it to them."

It may sound like "child abuse" but honestly, some kids learn that way.

My mom said I used to bite, until I was about 3 and she bit me back. I never bit again.

Just make sure you don't spit on him, then say, "don't spit" the kid needs to understand how it feels.