What do you do when you've been wrongly accused and others are convinced to believe it?

Question

2 years ago my sister's youngest childs father lied and told her that we were involved and still is 2 this present time. However, I don't know the individual and has only seen this man 2 since then, (1 yr. ago)do to him visiting my nephew @ our home. Now, my sister says that this man has supposingly have come clean about our so call affair. (God give me a break!) Come on this man is playing head games with her and she has the family/friends looking @ me and now questioning my character, because she cry and says that the spirit has shown her that this is true and also, a couple of my friends were suppose to have told her that I confided in them that this is to be true. Unbelievable, I feel that this has gone on for too long. You know she has yet to come to me with any of this, she goes to our mother with the foolishness and this is literally really making her sick, to know that one of her daughters has animosity in her heart towards the other and this is not the way she has rasied us.

Answer 1

Where does one start? First you need to let your actions speak for themselves. If you are truly innocent, then be the bigger person and go to your sister and tell her that it's not true and that no amount of lust is worth ruining your relationship with her, causing distrust between friends and/or causing literal illness in your mother. What "spirit" is she talking about? She needs to shut that communication down, God warned about it in the bible and for good reason. No good comes from talking to supposed "spirits" seemingly good or bad. (As you can see). Communication is the key, if she won't talk with you write her a letter. Don't do anything or say anything that would lead people to beleive that it's probably true. Do everything with love. If you're not sure what "love" really is read 1 Corithians 13: 4-8 below:

Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5 does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6 It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails.

Answer 2

It sounds like this guys has done some nastys and is covering them up with you as the geinpig. Confront your sister and both of you go to a card reader together this way she will hear with her own ears in your presents what the cars say and hope fully things will work out unless you have crossed her. Good luck. Why don't you also hire or follow this guy and catch him on film doing something coz if he has something to hide it will come out.

Answer 3

It sounds like this guy is a real a..hole. Hang in there knowing that you are innocent. I know what it is like to be wrongly accused. Try not to let others misconceptions of you hurt you individually. I know it's hard but stay strong and confront your sister. It will never be resolved if one of you doesn't make a move.

Answer 4

If you are an honest person you don't need to tell people you are honest. Dishonesty has a way of reveiling itself in time.

My suggestion is that you remind your sister of the consequences of her lying to her family. Make sure to remind her how her mother will feel when she finds out that she was lying.

Do this only once and forget it. Your charma will lead you to greatness if you so deserve.

Answer 5

Sounds like your family could use a counselor/mediator to work through the dynamics here. Also sounds like your sister is incredibly insecure - and the fact that she would believe this "man" has not stepped up to care for his children tells me that his character is not one I would tend to believe. Tell your sister to back off your mother and that if she wants to talk to you about it with a pastor or counselor, you are willing. Otherwise - Drop it and Her!

Answer 6

That's a tuff situation. I hate being lied on. I absolutely hate it. But what you could do is try to trick the jerk to either talking to you on the phone or coming over to the house and talk about the situation. Don't let him know your sister is listening in? I know it sounds messy but hell, but I would do ANYTHING to clear my name. I would probably be ready to kill someone for lying on me it angers me just that much. Good Luck to you though. And I hope you really didn't do what he says you did.

Answer 7

I would talk to your sister and ask her if what your hearing is true and then confront your nephews dad. Maybe have them both together so you can set the record straight and prove him wrong in front of your sister.

Answer 8

as hard as it is, the most you can do is to just have peace in yourself knowing it isn't true. if you have any ways to prove to your family that he's lying, then do that too. but this guy is just getting off by telling such horrible lies, and trust me, it will come back around to haunt him and bite him in the ***. hopefully the truth will come out soon and everyone will see what a liar he is

Answer 9

Get them ALL together and confront them all. They still might not believe you even with all said, but it won't hurt to try. Your sister should be much closer to you than this over any man.

Answer 10

Sounds to me, you need to approach your sister. If you don't ever approach her, then you're mor or less sayin' you did do everything that is being said. I mean if you sit back and let her say all this, and him say all this, then you really don't care either why. So, you need to talk to your sister your damn self. Tell her how you feel, what really happened, all that good crap.